Ixas_girl
Posted : 4/20/2007 5:47:16 PM
ORIGINAL: Angelique
I do not recommend avoiding if you feel confident you can handle your dog. But, I do recommend to keep on moving, focusing on the walk, and ignoring.
Yes, this is exactly the hump I'm trying to get over. Understanding how to "handle my dog," enables me to stop avoiding, with the confidence that I *can* handle it. (And I couldn't agree more with spiritdogs, that sweet Ixa needs that from me, too.)
So long as I believe I have no understanding about managing Ixa's reactivity, I will continue to transmit my anxiety to her. That was the jam I was in. This thread is really helping me shed ignorance, which in turn is growing my confidence. [

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Thank you thank you thank you!
Angelique, thanks your descriptions, like Awesomedog's tell of the body, the sound, and the touch. These physical manifestations of that elusive state of calm being and knowing, are precisely the hard things to transmt in language!
The term "bump the leash" alongside "pop the leash" ... fabulous! Very descriptive, in terms of words describing how something actually feels! It reminds me of a technique I picked up from a CM show which is to bump the dog with my leg, or touch her bum with my foot, rather than speaking to her. It's elegant.
I'm noticing that if I use that "hey" you mentioned, in a low voice, rather than "good girl" in a higher voice, Ixa remains more focused.
ORIGINAL: Angelique
Establish your relationship in all areas, and you may not need to use the "dominance ritual" at all.
Agreed!
Life happens on its own schedule, ultimately, we're on our own, "in the field", learning this stuff through trial and error ... feeling our way in the dark, so to speak. For me, books nor lessons of the mind can replace that real learning that happens inside my body. No demonstration could have prepared me for how gentle, in my mind and my body, the dominance ritual was, and discovering that naturally, built confidence in my own impulses!
In this, I am learning to trust myself, to be the source of my knowledge. This gets to the heart of "Cesarese" for me - that self-mastery part.
Even so, I do respect the caution to work with professionals, hands on, along the way! While we may be "feeling our way in the dark" the beautiful thing about our social species is that others can help to light our way.