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I have been following this and I am so glad to hear that BOTH girls are home safe and sound!

 Actually they werent stuck in the room for 15 hours. JJ's mom came over at 11pm and let them out. She was gonna come back over at 11 yesterday but I beat her home because I had a feeling I needed to get home.

Not to beat dead horse or anything, but you really think that leaving at 7:00 p.m. and not getting home until 10:30 is "being home in time to let them out"??  Your dogs are expected to "hold it" for 15 1/2 hours??  Seriously?

Every single dog owner (including the spouses or SO) should be "trained" to let the dogs out when he/she gets home, before bed, and when they get up in the morning in the event that you are not there.  It is COMMON SENSE.  How can you ignore a living being under the same roof?  They have NEEDS.  How difficult is it for someone to take the dog(s) outside to relieve themselves?  If I stop by my parent's house and they aren't there, I let their dog outside to go potty.  It takes five minutes.  It's called caring for the dog AND feeling a desire to assist my parents because I care about THEM.

If I had a SO that was capable of ignoring my pets, he would be so gone.  So, so, so gone.  My dogs are part of who I am and if my SO was not on board with that and didn't make an attempt to assist me in their care, he would be given the boot out the door.  They are living beings with very real needs and any human who ignores those needs is a heartless jerk.

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 Yeesh - that's being a bit harsh, dontcha think?!

Yes, we all need plans in place for our animals, yes, we need to be able to count on SOs to help as needed, but I don't think this is a situation that we know all the facts about either.  It truly sounds like JJ was just following instructions as they have a system worked out.

The above being said, I'm thrilled to hear that the dogs were let out at 11pm, but 12 hours is still waaaay too long to expect dogs to hold it.  They often can, but that doesn't mean they should have to as you run the risk of urinary problems and other issues (soiling the crate, etc.) if they hold it for long periods (more than 8-9 hours regularly).

No, actually I don't think I'm being harsh.  I think I'm speaking the truth and if it "hurts," so be it.  Dogs are HELPLESS and depend on humans to have their needs met.

Would you leave a child in their crib wearing a dirty diaper for 15 hours?  You would have social services called on you if anyone found out.

 Yes I know 12 hours is a long time. But I do not make it a habit to make my dogs wait 12 hours to potty. It was just a spur of the moment thing and JJ's mom said she'd be over to let the dogs out which she has done before and I figured one day wouldnt hurt for them to wait a couple hours. Yes I see how wrong I was and now I will just keep my butt at home from now on.

And JJ leaves the dogs to me unless I give him instructions otherwise because I can get very ill if things arent done a certain way when it comes to the dogs. I am not making excuses for him. It's just the ways things are done here and it works for us. Now if I was in the hosptial or something like that where I couldnt leave instructions he would take care of the dogs. He might not get things right but he would let them out and feed them.

 I found this late, but I'm very glad to hear that all the dogs are safe!

Kimberly, I'm glad they came back safe and sound!  Maybe the door just didn't latch and it slid open or they pushed it open.  That has happened to me too.

As for JJ I'm not sure that's any of our business.  My DH is much the same with our dogs.  *I* do 99% of their care unless I ask him to and that is how I want it because I have them on a schedule, I know how much they get fed, I know who gets what meds, who sleeps in which crate, etc.  So I can't turn around and blame DH when I am the one who has taken full control on purpose.  It's easy for people to make assumptions and start placing blame without actually being in that situation.

KarissaKS

Why do you make so many excuses for JJ?  You've given us enough insight into your life that I can easily make the assessment that he's a complete loser.  You can do so much better.

KarissaKS

Not to beat dead horse or anything, but you really think that leaving at 7:00 p.m. and not getting home until 10:30 is "being home in time to let them out"??  Your dogs are expected to "hold it" for 15 1/2 hours??  Seriously?

And it really annoys me when people compare the dogs to children.  They are not the same.  Some people care for their dogs like children.  I get that.  But honestly their care needs are different!  You would not leave your child home alone while you went to the store, or for coffee with friends, or to work!  But with dogs you can.  There are so many big differences it just annoys me.

Liesje

As for JJ I'm not sure that's any of our business.  My DH is much the same with our dogs.  *I* do 99% of their care unless I ask him to and that is how I want it because I have them on a schedule, I know how much they get fed, I know who gets what meds, who sleeps in which crate, etc.  So I can't turn around and blame DH when I am the one who has taken full control on purpose. .

Thanks Liesje. That's exactly how it is here.

Like I said. If I dont tell or write it out to JJ he wont bother the dogs because he knows that I have a certain way I do things.

Thanks everyone for the get home vibes!

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General notice.

The personally directed commentary on people's families can cease and desist...now. Take things that are private...private...or find ways to express your thoughts that are non-abrasive and civil. This thread was started to ask for good vibes and thoughts....and that is all.

Thank you.

huskymom

 I believe it was 12 hours, and 12 hours overnight, does not seem like such a long time to me.  My dogs do it frequently.

Yes it was overnight which was why I thought I would be ok leaving them for the night considering I had my MIL coming over to let them out at 11pm and then again in the morning before I got home. 

Cleo held it for 10hrs as a 4 mo old puppy when she flew out here from her breeder. LOL. Then she refused to pee in the yard for about another hour til she had sniffed every square inch of it LOL.

Glad they are home Kim.

 Thanks Gina.

I am so happy to hear that both are home safe and sound.  I know how worried you were, I've been there when Cody and Buddy used to dig out and go on adventures around the neighborhood.  An hour can seem like an eternity when you don't know where they are or what has happened.

Big sigh of relief.