calliecritturs
Posted : 2/27/2007 11:23:25 PM
Jen, it was a year ago today that I had to help the Fox over the Bridge. It was more than a bit similar altho completely 'different'.
Foxy had already survived SO much like a trooper in his old age -- more than one bout of vestibular disease, a really nasty nasty liver infection, renal problems that we kept completely at bay ... was looking forward to taking him to the Highland Games in a couple of weeks (Scottish breed -- he LOVED bagpipes beyond belief).
He had one more bout of vestibular disease -- he just couldn't get back on his feet -- and it was like all his old dog body just plain "gave up". One by one his body systems just plain used it as an excuse to shut down. He TRIED ... man he tried SO hard but after just a few days ... *I* knew it was time but I didn't want to force it on him because he WAS so adamant HE was gonna be ok (he knew the following Saturday was Give Kids the World and he LIVED for pet therapy -- t'was his JOB!)
Finally that Monday he let me know he was 'done'. Nope, not gonna try to stand, not gonna try to drink, not gonna 'try' nuffin Mom. Time to go.
Jen - like you, I miss him so, even now. But I couldn't have asked him to 'try' and get over anything else. He let go for you -- it was his gift to you.
I really believe that. When you've had a dog for that many years they understand YOU. They know how worried you are and will be. Sometimes they will just hang on when they ought not.
You have nothing to feel guilty about - my guess is his old body just plain used something that was likely pretty minimal to shut down. He probably DID only get a tiny bit.
Foxy was almost 19 (which is as decent an age for a sheltie as 13 is for a dal) -- and by gosh he'd done SO well in recent weeks. This took us SO by surprise in many ways, altho I was pretty sure it was his last year.
Jen, my heart is with you. Go ahead, -- miss him. Value the pain and hurt -- it says how much we loved them. It is testament to what a great companion they were. let yourself grieve, but don't beat yourself up. For weeks after I lost Foxy my brain wanted to try to take blame -- that maybe if I'd done this or that 'different' ... but I finally had to accept that his body simply decided FOR him that it had gone far enough. Not my fault. Not yours.
*hugs*