Should I be suspicious?

Ok, the phone in question has been cancelled.  I'm waiting for any repercussions.  We'll just have to see if any fireworks start soon.  Wish me luck.

Good job and good luck!
 

I have been reading but not said anything up till now, but I do think it is the right thing to cancel that phone, and I wish the best outcome for you.  IMHO, it would be a stupid thing for a wife to put another phone to an as yet unknown person on your bill, but you deserve to know an answer.

Im very curious to see if she mentions it to you.
Someone who was calling her can no longer get in touch with her through it.  It will be noticed, just wonder how it will play out.
 
I wish you the best with it... Im sure its very nerve racking for you.

Ed, I hope it all turns out well for you both. [sm=crossfingers.gif]

Ed, bless your heart, but I'm "fixin'" to give you some tough love here.
 
there is absolutley NO reason in the world that this could be a mistake.  i know that, you know that, and everyone here knows that.  just by asking the question, you're answering it.
 
i'm glad you cancelled the phone because to have someone not only go behind your back but to have you PAY for it is LOW.  really low.  i don't know stella, but i don't think much of her.  (at least not now)
 
what kind of crackhead does this?  payphones, people, PAYPHONES.. prepaid phones,  cash only, etc.  she's begging to be caught at something.
 
what?  who knows.  maybe she's found out that she has a kid with someone else.  maybe it's the "Baby's Daddy", or perhaps the "Baby" itself.  but NO WAY is it innocent.
 
of course, there's only one way to know:  CONFRONT HER. 
 
hold your ground.  don't back down.  be a Man[]  and know that i will beat her up if necessary, for a small fee.[]
 

Ed, I agree with Amy and Sara...

I don't think it is a mistake... and Im not sure that after you've cancelled it she will even mention anything to you... that would be confessing in an indirect way.

I do think that you need to get to the bottom of this... as others suggested it would be a good idea to gather information via cingular's website, by creating an account.

Unless, of course, you don't want to know...

As several people have pointed out, just because she's doing something sneaky doesn't necessarily mean she's cheating, or has cheated. You should definitely confront her, but do so with an open mind. If she offers an alternative explanation, pursue it fully before discounting it. I hope this situation will turn out to be the kind of thing you guys will laugh about together in a couple of years... but you're definitely right to be suspicious.

I'd confront her and not let up until I got answers, but that's me. DH and I keep close tabs on each other and we pretty well always know where the other is and what they're doing.

Glad to hear that the phone was canceled.  I hope that it doesn't start a war between you and your  better half.  You were right to do this, regaurdless of what Stella or her mom think.    Hope everything works out

Goodness, I don't know what to think, but I hope everything works out for you.  Perhaps there is a logical reason.  Personally I'd never switch phones with DH, but that's because I can barely work my own phone and his has more bells and whistles than mine.  OTOH, he's welcome to look and see my call list anytime. 

But what if it's something completely innocent? 

Maybe this guy (a co-worker's dad - he's on the level) can provide some clues.

http://www.roderickanscombe.com/index.html

Anyway, I hope everything turns out ok for you.

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But what if it's something completely innocent? 

Maybe this guy (a co-worker's dad - he's on the level) can provide some clues.

[linkhttp://www.roderickanscombe.com/index.html]http://www.roderickanscombe.com/index.html[/link]

Anyway, I hope everything turns out ok for you.

Thanks for the link, that's a bit extreme though.

Well, I am not going to offer any advice (I have never been in this sort of situation), but am hoping that things turn out for the best.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I've been there, done that! My biggest mistake was not listening to my own instincts. When things started to go off the rails between DH and I, that last thing I suspected was that he was involved with someone else. I put things down to midlife crisis, job stress even my own short comings. Any attempt on my part to discuss our situation was met with extreme resistance, so instead of getting to the bottom of things, I opted for waiting it out. In hind sight, I was really just afraid to face the truth.
When things finally got so bad and I was sure the marriage was over anyways (nothing to lose) I started looking for the answers that DH was refusing to give me. They were all there, right in front of my face. My biggest source of information was the credit card bills. Dates he worked late (lots) corresponded to expensive restaurant charges. There were florist bills. Charges for 2 airline tickets when he had gone out of town on business. Hotel biils that showed double occupancy. I could go on!
Now, I'm not suggesting that your wife is up to anything wrong. I am only pointing out that there will be evidence out there if she is. Sometimes if you confront someone with mere suspicions they simply get better at hiding things. Just quietly do some digging. If there is nothing to be found then it is a case of no harm, no foul!

Good Luck.