Should I be suspicious?

don't jump to any conclusions, i've learned that going off the deep end and confronting without proof will act much like double jeopardy in the courts. so if you're gonna start with the questioning make sure you have some hard evidence to back you up.

Absolutely!!

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hard evidence

 
I've got your hard evidence, Ed.  []

Personally, I would be suspicious.  I like the idea about suggesting going on the shopping trip.  What about dropping by her work to go to lunch with her and see what she says/does.  Also, are the phone calls made around the same time?  Are they only during work hours, times when you aren't around, etc?

Point taken. However, I have a video that we have called the "Billy and Stella Show." Would you care to see it?

 
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nice one... adding another chalk mark to your side of the blackboard![]
 

so if you're gonna start with the questioning make sure you have some hard evidence to back you up.

 
excellent point John....
I agree with this Ed, make sure you find out for sure from the cell phone company what the deal is with this phone before you start too many questions that might cause irreparable harm to your relationship. I know what your gut is saying to you, but my gut still doesn't really think that there is much to be worried about.  Perhaps it is because I know how much Stella seems to really love you.  
  

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ORIGINAL: Shaddler
hard evidence

I've got your hard evidence, Ed.  []

 
I bet you toke care of this first []
 

I bet you toke care of this first

 
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Shel.  Spence.  Can you guys show a little more sensitivity, please?  [:-]

I hate to say it, but I think you have very good reasons to be suspicious.  I also agree that if you have that gut feeling that something is wrong, then something is.  We often dismiss those feelings because its not what we want it to turn out to be, so we justify them with "oh, im just being paranoid" types of thoughts and move on.  People have a bit of intuition... its hard to know when you right or wrong with it... but I dont think you should dismiss your feelings about it all. 

It mostly calls her, she KNOWS who it is.  She should tell you, thats what you do in a marriage.  She's keeping something from you and thats very obvious.  Whether shes cheating or its just a friend or assistant or whatever... shes still keeping something from you and that in itself is wrong IMO.

Does she ever leave her phone laying around the house?  Or does she carry it from room to room.  I think the fear of it being left out of her sight would signal something as well...

Im sorry your going through this... and trust me I know that roommate feeling VERY well.

If you are having problems getting ahold of anyone at Cingular, what about accessing your account from their website?? [linkhttp://www.cingular.com]http://www.cingular.com[/link]
 
If you have never setup your phone# to access online information, you have the option of doing that, creating an ID/Password, etc. You will need to use the main phone# from your plan, though. Not the other numbers that have been added onto Family Talk.

Shel. Spence. Can you guys show a little more sensitivity, please?

 
well since you asked so nicely "Mr. KING OF SENSTIVITY" , I shall try, however I only jest because it is Ed and he knows my sense of humor too well and knows I am always there to support him in every endeavor of his or with any of his problems.  []  

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support him in every endeavor of his or with any of his problems.  []  

 
I know you would, but there is nothing to this one.
 
However, let's assume for a minute, that Ed's worst suspicions are confirmed.  So?  He traded up A LOT from Pat to Stella.  One learns from these things and, as Ed has aptly demonstrated, one is better for the experience.  Sure, IF he finds out for certain that Stella is boning the checkout boy at the grocery store he will be in a bit of shock for 20 seconds or so, but then, Katie bar the door.

I have to agree that I can't see how this phone being added was a mistake. It only calls her so that would be a huge flag in my mind. Like Amy said, she KNOWS who this person is. She KNOWS that number. Why isn't she telling you?
 
Also, I used to work for a cell phone company. Unless you have given full authorization to your wife to have complete access to that account, she shouldn't be able to do anything on it. Not even be given information about it. However, she could gain access if she has your SSN and says she's YOU. The rep would just notate that a woman called in claiming to be the account holder, had all of the information, and that would be it. There's nothing the rep can do if she has all of your information unless you have the account password protected. If that's the case, the rep would ask for the password and if she didn't know it, then she can't have access to it.
 
As someone else suggested, I think you should gather up as much information as you can and then ask her about it again. She has to know something. The mystery phone only calls her!

Not to add fuel to the fire, but I have a friend who was getting a divorce a few years ago.  After it was all final, her ex husband had his new girlfriend call into the credit card company with all her information and open an account in his and her name and then he went out and bought a bunch of stuff.  It is also possible that Ed's wife did this if this is a man who has the phone.
 
It is also easy to add another line and make changes to the account online without ever calling in...at least with my cell company it is.
 
I would be checking to see when the calls are taking place and if they are on the weekend when she is gone or if they are more while she is at work etc.  Also see what time of day they are and where you are then. 
 
She may not be so blatant but at the same time, she may know Ed doesn't ever look at the bill and never worried about getting caught. 
 
In the end, there is something going on and whether it be something in the marriage or completely outside of the marriage I would be careful about how you approach this and get all your facts straight before you make any sort of accusations.  As Shel said, it could very well be innocent and you could do irreversible damage to the relationship. 
 

I have to agree with Nancy in that as the bill payer you have every right to know the number of phones and who is using them.  If you can't get any real information from the carrier, just cancel that particular phone and then wait to see who complains about it or questions it.  You can always say that you asked everyone about it and nobody said anything so you just assumed it was set up fraudulently.
 
Joyce

I totally agree with Loveukaykay.  If your wife knows who it is that is calling, she should tell you.  Period.  Something sounds pretty fishy to me.  You pay the bill, you have the right to know anything you want to know about what's going on with everyone's cell phones.  Justin pays our bill and he would want to know what's up if he sees something out of the ordinary.  I hope it all works out.