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Posted : 6/25/2010 9:40:31 PM
jennie_c_d
Everybody send some "Don't lose yer ever lovin mind, Bean!" vibes, pls? She's so crazy, lately!
On their way!
Glenda, so glad you are home safe and sound. I'm buying the margaritas tomorrow at the Tiki Bar!
We had a decent conversation today with the Sisters. I was half expecting Sis#1 to be a no show. But, she was first on the line. While we waited for Sis#2 to arrive, we chatted about her work situation which is rather rocky. Evidently the parent company has laid off 30% of their workforce...she survived. Anyway, when we all were on the line, we got into the topics at hand. Long conversation short...they told me that they had lunch today and discussed the situation (Oh, ok...pre-discussion, thats fine). One of the options we tossed around is remodeling Mom's house (which my father lives in currently...they've been seperated for about 40 years) after he moves out in a couple of months. The plan is to move him to a retirement community in the Austin area. Then, we could remodel the Houston house and Sis#1 and Mom live there together. Then eventually after Mom passes on Sis#1 keeps the house. The other options we tossed around is the Assisted Living Facility near me and we kind of nixed the rotation schedule, because we think it would be too hard on Mom to make that switch every 4 months (never ending unsettledness).
So, it was a good initial discussion. Lots to think about; lots to research for the time being. Although the words were never said....I believe they "get it" as to why we need to make a change. We are stressed. We need our privacy as a married couple. Sis#1 is not married; and they do enjoy each others company (its not like we don't enjoy her company). I do worry about Sis#1's ability to be the caregiver for any length of time, and she even made mention of it saying she never thought she would be Mom's caregiver. But, she was discussing the possibilities and open to talking about options. So, it went better than expected. More discussion to be had. I'm not ready to talk to Mom about it yet. That will be the hardest because I don't want her to think badly of us for wanting to make this change. But, its necessary for DHs and my sake...in the long run. Hard decisions.