Benedict
Posted : 1/26/2008 11:30:27 AM
DPU
Benedict, I probably understand your post more than others since our thinking is not all that different.
Actually, I'm pretty sure our thinking is very different on most subjects, and that's fine. You've got your happy dogs, I have my happy dog. Whatever road leads to Rome is a-ok with me just as long as there's a party when I get there.
DPU
. Its all about building bridges to get the dog to its happiest state and in the process building a very strong relationship bond. Food is one of the bridges and counting on the relationship is the end. Agility is an excellent sport for the human and dog because in the end, it comes down to just you, the dog, and the bond.
That I do actually agree with, and one of the reasons I do agility is because of the bond it has helped create between me and Ben. Not that we didn't have a great relationship beforehand, but there is something totally indescribable about working as a seamless team with a different species to do something. It's a learning experience for both of us, and I think that in any situation, a bond is created when 2 people...or 2 beings....are on equal footing working towards a goal.
There's an awful lot of talk about leadership, or dominance, or the type of relationship one had with a dog and how we'd classify that. In the end, all those discussions lead to one thing - that we are above the dog in status - and that's FINE and those discussions are absolutely valid and necessary because, well, whatever word a person uses, that is in the end....true. We are above the dog or dogs. We provide the food, the shelter, the toys, the affection etc. It's the nature of having a pet.
HOWEVER....there is less discussion on the ways in which we are equal with our dogs, or dare I say it, below them. Ben is better at speaking dog than I am. He can run a heck of a lot faster than I can. He gets a simple joy out of the simplest things that I am well and truly envious of.
Agility, however I further our goals towards it - and yes, that's with food and I am PERFECTLY fine with that - is a way in which Ben and I have been a team since our very first class, when we started on exactly the same level. He didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. We were equals in every possible way. And you know what? He's learned faster than I have and he's better at it than me, but we're learning together and that makes for an incredible bond.
Whatever tool you use, be it treats, toys, praise, a toss of the ball, a swim in the lake, a run with a doggy friend, an extra trip over the A-frame.....WHATEVER....I think we do the bonds that are or will be created with our dogs during ANY kind of training serious damage by not acknowledging - not to each other, but to the DOG - that we are learning too, that we might mess up or get our timing wrong and that it doesn't matter because a true bond or love can take a screwup.....try another day and don't hold it over each other's heads. Ben can't hold it over my head, so I don't have that right to do it to him. Confidence is important, yes. Believing that we know what is best for our dogs is important too. But by acting - again, not to each other but to the dog - that we are always right in knowing what they want or should be doing we are setting the human-dog relationship up for a HUGE blow when we DO mess up - and that will happen because we're all human.
Trust is a two-way street. I use food most of the time to help build that trust and it's fine if other people don't. No skin off my nose and it's just a tool anyway....Not every screwdriver fits every screw. But we really need to trust our dogs that sometimes THEY know what is best for them, and there is just the slightest chance that we could be wrong about what we think they want. Having confidence in your dog is just as important during training as having confidence in yourself.
DPU
You should think twice about your last statement because for me peer praise is higher valued than a oreo cookie or my highest prize food dessert
I admit to being unsure about why I should reconsider something just because it doesn't apply to you.