glenmar
Posted : 1/6/2008 9:06:32 AM
espencer
Then i assume that when you take your dogs out for a walk they are the ones who decide where to go, for how long and when to return home and you dont have any vote in those decisions, talking about leaders and followers!!
Then you would assume wrong. My dogs don't NEED to be behind me for me to control the path that we take. And my dogs aren't leashed in the woods. They are running free, which, by golly, I enjoy watching from my place BEHIND them. When they come to a place that there is a choice to be made, guess what? They WAIT for me without a word until I tell them which way to go. If it's a true turn in the path, I don't tell them until I've caught up and then I'll tell them, "this way" and off they go. For lack of better terminology, yep, I'm the leader, they are the followers, even tho I am BEHIND them for the bulk of the walk. And I can call ONE of the six back and ask for a heel and by golly, I get that heel while the others romp on ahead. And by golly if I call out wait or stop, they freeze....doesn't matter what they are doing. And they don't budge until I release them with "go ahead". So, is that enough of being the leader for you? A TRUE leader can lead from any position.
On lead is a little different because that's almost always in town where they need to remember their manners and remember that they can't trot off and come back at will because it's a different setting. But, they still are normally out front, unless I ask for a heel, or unless someone WANTS to be next to me. But, the ears are in constant motion, moving back and forth to be sure they don't miss a single word that I say. So yep, I'm still the leader there too.
To me the relationship with my dogs is key. That includes trust and respect on both sides.....I respect them enough to allow them to be dogs, I trust them to do what I ask. They respect that I'm the "mom" and what I say goes, and they trust me to keep them safe, but let them be dogs at the same time. If people can think outside the box of what they are "supposed" to do according to this trainer or that, and go more on their instincts with their dogs, everyone can have a whole lot more fun.
My life can be pretty darned stressful....but when I'm watching my dogs romping in the woods, I forget all that, and LAUGH and have a blast. That's gotta be worth something. Guilt? Doesn't exist when it comes to my dogs.....lots of other stuff, sure, but not one bit of it in my relationship with my dogs.....