Forum "Moderation"

ORIGINAL: Dog_ma

Ok, this is getting way too cloak and daggers and I don't roll that way.  I edited out "Ignore the barbed comments.  Better not to engage."  That's it.  No attacks, insults, or drama.  I certainly hope people aren't emailing each other over THAT.    

 
Welcome to my world.  Been going on for a while now.  I am starting to feel sorry for the Moderators.  I keep switching back and forth depending on who is the underdog.  I hope this all works itself out. 

ORIGINAL: DPU
  I am starting to feel sorry for the Moderators. 

I feel sorry for the moderators, for sure! Modding is thankless work, and even when I disagree with decisions I know what a pain in the rump it is to be a mod.

ORIGINAL: DPU
I am starting to feel sorry for the Moderators. 

ditto. They are damned if they do and damned if they don't. Ever try to please 25,535 people. I won't happen.

They are damned if they do and damned if they don't. Ever try to please 25,535 people. I won't happen.

 
Inconsequential. As long as they please me, that's all that matters.[sm=devil.gif]

ORIGINAL: ron2
Inconsequential. As long as they please me, that's all that matters.[sm=devil.gif]

[sm=bow2.gif] Ron2

Thanks, for clearing that up for me, Ron! [] No wonder I was so confused! [&:]

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(Too hee-larry-us!)

Gee, Ron, why didn't you tell us that before? We've been meandering around, aimless, for months!
 

Ron!  ROFL!!
 
Kelly, that is one adorable pup![]

ORIGINAL: Personal Champ  CC, the PM that Glenda sent you was friendly, as well. At least, I consider it to be. Do you disagree?

My apologies, I just noticed this post and see it was 3-4 day ago.  One comment I wasn't sure how to take but got that off my chest already in another thread.   Even though others may not be as enthusiastic as I about my approach to feeding and just about all think it is garbage and nonsense, than so be it but I will never allow that to discourage myself from what I feel to be engaging in meaningful conversation and debate.  I may stand alone here, but I know my course and direction and that will not change. 

I got no beef with Glenda.  I just wanted to get something off my chest and thought it was a good time to do so.  She was neither mean nor friendly in her PM to me and I wouldn't expect it any other way.  I have known her for a long time and if the time ever comes when I think her moderation is excessive, I won't let the door hit me on the backside on the way out.  Did the job go to her head?  Is she too quick to red-line and jump in with warnings?  Not for me to decide, but all in all I think she does do a good job and I understand a group like this can get turbulent with high activity and sometimes it is not always easy.
I speak from some experience being a moderator.  Not everyone is going to like what you have to say all the time, but that is just the way it goes.  Sometimes it best to let it go, let the people hack it out so long as it remains civil, but things can certainly be allowed to get a little heated. That can be a good thing.  Sometimes it's best to simply intercept from the start and not let trouble develop.  That is the judgment call and I think Glenda does have good judgment when it comes to letting it go and when to intercept.

I actually agree with you Charlie.  Glenda has always been somewhat of a peacemaker here, yet she is not heavy handed or arbitrary.  She does not overmoderate the people who don't share her views, nor does she pull any punches telling someone respectfully, and while allowing them a way to back out of it, that they have said or done something inappropriate or questionable.  She's been here long enough to have a good feel for the board and its dynamics, and she knows what "home" feels like to idog members in general.  Each forum does have its own tone.  There are some (I won't mention any names, it's now against the rules) that cater to a more genteel membership.  Even though they are calm, and there's no bickering, they do pretty much espouse the holistic and positive.  Here, we were always hashing things out, and really examining the various methods - sure it got heated, and some folks had to jump from the frying pan.  But, I suspect that there are people who would feel bored on some of the other boards.  One, in particular, that I tried, is just too "chaotic" for me.  Child boards everywhere, and graphics up the wazoo.  I don't need the bells and whistles - I want to talk dogs!!!  But, to each his own.  The problems come when you try to change the board into something it isn't.  This is a huge and very public board, and there will always be disagreements.  When you have neighbors, they sue each other.  When you have countries, they nuke each other.  Just human nature, unfortunately.  I think the best you can do on any forum is to relax a bit, don't let it get to the nuke stage, and let the other chips fall where they may.  In other words, pick your battles.  OK to tell someone SD is crap, not ok to tell someone they suck as a dog owner because they didn't know it was crap.

You know when I jumped in the other day I didn't go back to the beginning of this thread, I just looked at the page and figured someone got their fingers smacked and wasn't too pleased about it...NEVER would I have thought dear, sweet Billy would post such a thing...Billy does this truely mean you love me????? [sm=rotfl.gif]
 
Moderating isn't an easy job and everyone puts their own twist on things. Having the ability to see both sides of a conversation helps and being VERY open minded is a gift. Controling the conversation can be hard and when you have members in differnt time zones who post after most are in bed can be the biggest struggle...remember our friends from the UK????
 
Each one of your moderators are trying to keep the forum a place where everyone can enjoy coming here to share the same passions. When you cross the line you should expect to get a smack and as an adult you have an opportunity to make a change in behavior or as we've seen in the past you no longer get to play.
 
From my personal stand point, not as a moderator, admin or any other "title" when you are passionate about something it is hard not to let that show through in your posting or lifestyle when you need to be "outside" of the conversation. I know the feeling and struggled through it when wanna be breeders would post their questions when they were deep in problems or people *thought* they knew how horrible my breed is. So please keep that in mind when your moderators are attempting to keep the forum civil, change is hard but it grows on you.
 
Many of you weren't here when Jim sold the forum and we took over, I was the red headed devil...well maybe I still am but change happens and it teaches us. Many couldn't do the job and if there were no moderators keeping this forum on some type of even ground it would be filled with spam, puppy sellers and advertising.
 A little smack or threat is nothing compared to that, besides if a thread gets to rough you all have no one to blame but yourselves for getting it to that point.
 
Back to my hole till another day....
 

[sm=devil.gif]  Is that a link in you rpocket, or are you happy to see us?

*evil grin*

you should expect to get a smack and as an adult you have an opportunity to make a change in behavior or as we've seen in the past you no longer get to play.

It would be really nice if mods didnt use the terms "Play nice","you no longer get to play" or "get your fingers smacked" etc etc. This is something i would say to a group of 5 year olds,as FTR i dont play and am too old to be smacked []

I guess my thot would be that since Jaime posted NOT as a mod or administrator, for that post at least, she didn't count as one.
 
We all need to play a little.  It helps us to lighten up.

ORIGINAL: Edie

It would be really nice if mods didnt use the terms "Play nice","you no longer get to play" or "get your fingers smacked" etc etc. This is something i would say to a group of 5 year olds,as FTR i dont play and am too old to be smacked []

Actually, while I have no personal issue with the terminology used, I can see some merit in this. The vast majority of active regular members here are adults or very mature teenagers. Different people have different levels of what is acceptable and not as far as respectfulness goes. If there are members here who think that being "finger slapped" or told to "play nice" is in some way disrespectful or degrading, I can definitely see an argument for mods to find a different way to express the same sentiment.

ORIGINAL: Benedict

ORIGINAL: Edie

It would be really nice if mods didnt use the terms "Play nice","you no longer get to play" or "get your fingers smacked" etc etc. This is something i would say to a group of 5 year olds,as FTR i dont play and am too old to be smacked []

Actually, while I have no personal issue with the terminology used, I can see some merit in this. The vast majority of active regular members here are adults or very mature teenagers. Different people have different levels of what is acceptable and not as far as respectfulness goes. If there are members here who think that being "finger slapped" or told to "play nice" is in some way disrespectful or degrading, I can definitely see an argument for mods to find a different way to express the same sentiment.

 
I couldn't agree more.  Honestly, some could consider the referenced terminology as "condescending".  And I'm sure none of us want to be construed as condescending, right?  I mean some would consider that a post closing offense []