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Posted : 8/30/2007 1:15:51 PM

Wait, guys, this is my interpretation of the situation. It's not cast in granite and maybe not accurate.

Plus, isn't it all about being empowered and being able to make our own choices in life? Maybe Liv chooses to stay home with her son and doesn't WANT to be in the work force? Isn't that why my generation burned our bras, etc? So women could make their OWN choices? I don't like being home. But it's my choice to be in the work force, just as it is hers to stay home. To imply that she is under anyones thumb because of finances, well, that's just not fair.

huskymom

Posted : 8/30/2007 1:25:15 PM

Whether or not they have had a ceremony is irrelevent. She loves this guy and that's that. No one here, knows the whole story, or every word of every conversation that has been had on this subject. Trash talking her husband is wrong and anyone doing it should be ashamed of themselves. We have lost a member of this forum before because we did that. When you insult someones loved one, you insult that someone as well.

Also, implying that Liv has not done everything she feels able to do is not fair at all either. We all do our best by our pets. And we all have limits. If you can't be supportive then bite your tongues. Yes this is a public forum and comments are not always the ones we want to hear, but people, some of these comments have been downright hurtful. Show some compassion.[&o]

2shelties

Posted : 8/30/2007 1:29:56 PM

I only meant that since they are not married, I understand how he could sign papers without needing her signature, and I understand now how someone could own a home but not the land. I was confused about those details before.

Liv

Posted : 8/30/2007 1:33:15 PM

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maizysmom

Posted : 8/30/2007 1:46:03 PM

No one is calling her or her boyfriend/husband down SHE is the one who starting complaining about him and her family.Icouldn't give a rats a about if she works or not,or if she stays with him or not.I was going by everything SHE said and brought up .I have a lot more compassion than a lot of people,but when she complains and doesn't like the answers and I get blaimed,that gets me angry. I offered suggestions to help her and others agreed with me,but I am not going to take the blame for being uncompassionate.She's a big girl and can make her own decisions.If she doesn't like the feedback, she shouldn't be on this site looking for help, when she, herself, called down her family and husband?

Liv

Posted : 8/30/2007 1:50:29 PM

I never called down my husband, all I stated was that I didn't agree with his decision. And yes I can't stand my MIL, and hate her for pushing it. But I do not hate my husband nor did I ever state anything close to that.
I did want advice, but mainly support. It hurts to lose someone you love ALOT, and sometimes you just want comfort. I really did appreciated your advice, but my Dh didn't need to be attacked. He feels he is doing what is best for our family, I don't think that makes him a bad person, even if I dont agree with it.

maizysmom

Posted : 8/30/2007 2:35:28 PM

I never said you hated your husband-I never even said anything about your husband til someone else kiddingly said "leave your husband".As for support,you did get that, but when it was what you didn't want to hear,you got all defensive and started blaming others. You[sm=soap%20box.gif] shouldn't be here if you only want to hear what you want.Many people go out of there way to try and help you out and then you turn around and blame them for offending you?You were the one who was so heartbroken and we all tried to support you, but I'll be dammned that now I get blamed for something I did not say or you claimed I said.I truly feel bad for you and your situation, but don't turn on me and make like I'm a hateful person.Now I find it hard to sympathize with anyone or to give an opinion, for fear it will come back at me!!!

dubilpie

Posted : 8/30/2007 2:44:06 PM

Whether or not they have had a ceremony is irrelevent. She loves this guy and that's that. No one here, knows the whole story, or every word of every conversation that has been had on this subject. Trash talking her husband is wrong and anyone doing it should be ashamed of themselves. We have lost a member of this forum before because we did that. When you insult someones loved one, you insult that someone as well.

Also, implying that Liv has not done everything she feels able to do is not fair at all either. We all do our best by our pets. And we all have limits. If you can't be supportive then bite your tongues. Yes this is a public forum and comments are not always the ones we want to hear, but people, some of these comments have been downright hurtful. Show some compassion.[&o]

Good post!!!!

I wish you the best of luck Liv, I am sorry you have to go through this..

Liv

Posted : 8/30/2007 2:45:39 PM

I'm sorry, but I don't understand where your getting your information. I never blamed anyone for anything and the only time I didn't agree with what people said was when it was a hurtful comment about my husband.
I never said you hated my husband, but I'll be darned some of the things you were saying about him were harsh. I never rejected anyones advice at all.
All I wanted was support, wouldn't you if you were in my shoes? I didn't say my husbands a horrible person I hate him, please wish me luck with my relationship with him. No, I just wanted someone to tell me Missi was going to be okay, and that my heart is crushed that I'm losing her. That is the whole point about my thread is losing Missi, and my hurt over losing her.[

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Jennifer Kiara

Posted : 8/30/2007 2:50:23 PM

To imply that she is under anyones thumb because of finances, well, that's just not fair.

Trash talking her husband is wrong and anyone doing it should be ashamed of themselves.

Just to respond to this, regarding my statement (and mine alone). The only reason I commented that (quote) "Your husband does NOT get the final say in this." (end quote) is because she did say that she has no say in the matter because she has no income, and that's why her husband has the final say. I speak only for myself when I say I didn't assume, I commented based on her own statement. [

] However, I don't consider that to be "trash talking" as it was simply a reasonable statement based on the facts that were presented by the OP.

That being said - What is involved in a change of ownership? What type of process is it to get a dog changed into someone else's name? Although I do agree with the person who stated that it's not a life for a dog if they're in hiding all the time, but it may be a starting place. [&:]

JoAnnDe

Posted : 8/30/2007 3:04:11 PM

Liv - I just wanted to say that I've been following this thread and I'm so sorry about the situation, but that I know you're trying so hard to do exactly what you know to be the right thing for you and your family. I think Missi will be ok - a little lonesome for you for sure, but I know that you're going to do your darnest to take your time and find a perfect home for her. Heck, I want her myself !!! But Canada is a long ways away from Florida otherwise trust me, she'd have a home for as long as you needed her to have one away from you.

maizysmom

Posted : 8/30/2007 3:05:48 PM

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Liv

Posted : 8/30/2007 3:11:49 PM

I am NOT blaming anyone! You really need to understand that. Like I said the only time I didn't like what I heard was when my husband was being bashed. Do I not have a right to be hurt over that? Have I said anything mean to you, no. I think you are just trying to pick a fight with me, and I'm not going there, sorry. You were the only person I didn't agree with. I had no issues with what anyone else said. You have been hurtful and dished comments about my husband when I didn't need ot hear that. I have enough on my plate, thanks.

mollymoo

Posted : 8/30/2007 3:26:14 PM

Liv - I`ve been following this thread and as I had no advice on how you could keep little Missi with you in your new home. Congratulations by the way on your new home. I stayed out of the thread. Now that it looks like you have to find Missi a new home for sure. I am sending good good thoughts and many prayers that you find Missi just the right home. Maybe on Friday that lady that is coming over to see Missi just be the right person to give Missi a new loving home.

I am also sending healing prayers to you and your family as I know this has to be very hard on all family members to have to give up a very much loved family member. All the best to you, your family, Eva, and little Missi.

maizysmom

Posted : 8/30/2007 4:29:45 PM

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