Goodbye *update*

Liv, my apologies if my comments led folks down the wrong path, regarding your marital status.
 
This whole situation sucks and I truly hope you found the best home ever for Missi

It's okay Glen, I pretty much confused everyone on that subject lol.

It isn't fun thats for sure. I'm making a scrapbook about her, and taking a ton of pictures, and feeding her all her special treats. I made up a "Care Sheet" for her, and it says everything from her personality, likes/ dislikes, food the works. I'm trying to cover everything.

I now have two people from my town that want her.  Maybe you guys can tell me what you think.
The one coming tomorrow is:

-25 years old
-no kids
-lives with her roommate
-works at a bank -so she'd be gone 9am-5pm
-hasn't owned a dog in a few years, but either her best friend has a pomchi or her roommate I can't remember

Other lady I don't know much about:

-sounds like she is in her 30's
-her pom died either 14yrs ago or she said her sable color pom died at the age of 14 and she wanted another one as a companion

Anyone know a list of questions I should ask these woman? Thanks bunches []

**Content removed-previously deleted**

I do not appreciate you dragging me into this. I was not attacking her husband in my statement, I simply stated that I was sorry he was not more supportive in her attempts to keep the dog. I was in now way stating that he was a cruel and unkind person, I do not know him, I cannot make that judgement about him. I appologize if it came across that way, I was only trying to sympathise with the OP. There is no need to drag others into an argument between two people. That is your business, and no one elses.

As far as the two people go, I would have both come in, meet with the dog. I would ask that everyone living in the house come in, that means the roomate too. As well as any other animals. I would visit the houses, and see how things are. Don't give them time to clean up and put all their things away, tell them you want to see where your baby will be living on a daily basis. Ask how they would feel about letting you visit and such. Go with your gut feeling on this, she is your baby, and you need to do what is best for her. =]

Good luck!

OK folks, how about a little less defending our positions and a little more assistance and suggestions?
 
Thanks

I would choose the thirty year old.  What will happen to your dog if the roomies split up, or get married to someone who does what your DH just did?  Try to get her a "forever" home this time. 

I wish you the best of luck with this guy,because I think you'll need it.

This is the one line in all the posts that I hope you will pay attention to.  I think I am very glad that my mother trained me to have a bank account of my own (even when I was not working and my ex made all the money - she told me to save out some of the grocery money if I had to).  As it turned out, she was right.  I never had to grovel and have people disregard my feelings.  And, when my ex left here, he didn't take my soul with him.  I was an independent person.  Now, I look at my BF and realize how fortunate I am to have found someone who loves the real me - the crazy animal person.
Whether the issue is an extra dog, or where to live, or whether to go to McDonald's for lunch, you should have some say in how your life turns out.  I feel badly for you, but not just because of the dog, although I don't know how you will be able to live in that place knowing what it cost you.  Best of luck - I also think you will need it.

Liv
 
 I would ask them what owning a dog means to them and what they consider a responsible owner to be.
 I would lean more toward the lady who has lost her dog to old age than the younger. I may get flamed for saying that but in your position if the older lady anwsers your questions to your satisfaction I would go with her.
 I wish you all the best and my heart goes out to you. I was once in your shoes many years ago when I was much younger and was faced with providing for my family and keeping them together and had to lose a beloved pet. I have never forgotten that experience and it has shaped me in how I relate and think about the dogs in my life now. Do not let anyone make you feel you have done something bad, instead you have done something that you had to do, that breaks your heart but still you made the descision and that in my opinion takes a lot more guts than just throwing yourself on the floor and having a fit and yelling I am not going to to that. Your family comes first.  All the best to you and your family.

I am sorry you are going to have to have to give up your dog when this should be a happy time.  I recently took two uppies from my siblings (long drama story) after my dad pasted away.  They were scared for a couple of hours but they are young and adjusted really quickly.  They still remember and are excited to see everyone but they are happy here. 
I would let the applicants know that several other people are interested so you can make the decision you are most comfortrable with.  You could go to Petfinder and download some applications and customize them to your concerns .  I would think that a person who was really interested would have no problems signing a return clause, vet reference check or landlord okay release.  Good luck, I know tomorrow is going to be hard.
 

Provided that both people tomorrow answer your questions and meet your requirements, I would go with the 30 year old also, not b/c of age, simply because of the roomate. It just seems less stable. I'd want to know, if the roomate moved out, could she afford the dog and place to live on her own. You could always ask her about that and see what she says though.
 
And I just want to say that staying home with your son is a very important job, even if you bring in no income, you are contributing so much to your family, not to mention saving on childcare costs. Don't ever feel like just because you don't make the money that you have no say in family/financial matters. I hope that you have people in your life that appreciate you and all you are doing for your family.

For what it's worth,I would pick the thirty year old.I wish you the best and did not 'DRAG" anyone into this.All I was trying to say was that all these other people made comments no different than I.No one meant or said any disrespectful thing.In our own way,we were all trying to help you out.Iwould not want to be in your position---but again,I'm sure you'll make the right decision.Best of luck.[]

Gee,,,I just read this whole thread from the beginning...I want to say I'm so sorry Liv...for what you are going thru. I wouldn't want to be you for anything in the world right now.  
Its obvious that you love your dogs,,,,and family.   I also want to give you so much credit for giving up a few $$ to stay home with your child...  thats so admirable...and something that not many of us do in this day and age.  I did it too.. but that was a lot of years ago...and it was even hard back then... when at least a few of us mothers were stay at home.  I never had money....and had to depend on my DH for it.   It WAS worth it in the end...I got to see everything my two sons did first hand...even some thing I wished that I didn't have to see....[]  Eventually I did telephone work in my home... that gave me a few bucks and my first taste of freedom (after being married).....I eventually applied for a credit card or two and made sure they were in my own name...something that is very important to me.
I do think on the surface...the 30 yr old sounds like the better of the two for your dog...but I do think you need to meet them both and see how they react to her and she to them.  Best of luck...I do believe that if you make the right choice..she will be happy in no time.  I got my Bubblegum at 3 yrs old from her breeder Pam. It was amazing to me to see how much Bubby loved her owner...she didn't take her eyes off of her. I even said to the breeder "how can you give her up..she is so in love with you!" But you know what,,,, it took about a week before she started loving me... and in a short time,,, she started looking at me with all that love she was looking at Pam with. 
Take time to figure out who is best... and try not to be too sad.
And really... hopefully in the future...you can convince your DH that you do have sayso in your lives,,,sometimes guys think they are the only ones that should make decisions!

The person before me so much as said the same thing I did-yet I get 2 red warnings?What about Liv who claimed I said she hates her husband--I never said that.I stated that she should move in with the dog and let the landlord take them to court--I figured she had nothing to lose.Why could other members say they felt it was wrong that she had no say in the matter and that this wasn't a third world country.As for capitals,I didn't realize you weren't allowed to use them--it was not intended as yelling.I often send e-mails in capitals and was never told it was offensive.I have tried to welcome every new member and answer questions as best as I could and offer condolenses for loved ones.I feel I am the victum here-I did not complain about family or husband,Liv did that on her ownand it seemed that many of us felt she should speak up and instead,I get told'rude behavior"?I am merely trying to defend myself against things she claimed I said.  I think this is very unfair.I do apologize for the capitals,as I didn't realize it was against the rules.

I hope I didnt get to this post too late. I may beable to help you.I tried to read as much as I could about whats happening but my internet is so slow and I wanted to get this message to you faster. I dont know where your moving too but I am assuming your from Grande Prairie?  I live not far from Edmonton, about 3 hours from Grande Prairie.
I can't take your dog but i could dog-sit her for you so you have more time to find her a home.  I can also help you find one cause I know alot of wonderful dog people.  I have references if you wou like.  Let me know and maybe something can be worked out.

I could also hold her or deliver her to Edmonton area if there is an Idog member that you would want her to go too.
If you send me a description of your dog I could forward it to a couple dog breeders and my dog trainer. 

This thread is not the place to debate who said what and who behaved more poorly.  This thread is about the situation that Liv is in.  Period.  For those of you who feel the need to complain about the moderation of this thread, take it OFF forum.  You will not know if others are warned, etc.  What happens between mod/admin and members remains between them unless the member chooses to share that information.

Newt I Pm'd you.

Thank you again everyone for helping me through this, and sharing your experiences with me[]

Dyan, thank you. It is so special to me to stay at home with my boy. But at the same time gawd I can't wait to get into my career! Honestly I would be so happy if I could take care of my Dh, he'd never let me lol because he loves work. But to feel like I can help with the bills, ya it would be great feeling. Soon enough though. I told Dh I'm waiting till pre-school instead now. I want to get out there! Thank you for sharing your adoption story as well. I know it will be very hard on Missi. She cries when either me or Dh leaves. This whole thing is actually pretty hard on my Dh. Missi is the first dog he has ever owned, and we got her at the begining of our relationship for his birthday. Yesterday when he left she stayed at the door for 20 minutes pacing and crying. I know it will take Missi a little while to adjust, but hearing how well your dog adjusted makes me feel better.

I also found and application from the Yukon spca, edited a bit, and it's about 3 pages long. But I figured if they really want her they would have no problems answering them. It's so important for me that these people realize how much work she is. I think alot of people have unrealistic ideas about Poms or dogs in general, and they are definatly going to get an eye opener with Missi if they aren't prepared. I just hope they will be okay with giving me some personal info, like there address and phone number etc. I printed off a few copies and I hope all goes well. Anyway I'll be back on at about 6pm to let you know how it all went. Thanks again for everything everyone []