Goodbye *update*

Thanks for the advice

He isn't lying when he says we can't afford it (I do know for a fact though he wouldn't if we could, but we literally can't), I make the budgets every month. It is frustrating to me that I have no say, but me have no money is my issue not his. I choose to be a stay at home mom. I'm trying to not get defensive here, but my husband isn't a bad person. He is set in his ways about certain things, and I can't change them as sad and frustrating as it can sometimes be. I try but with certain things that he feels changes our lives or could hurt us he doesn't budge.
I don't think that tenant act would apply because they aren't saying I can't have pets, but they are saying I can't have two dogs. There is nothing I can do []
Believe me I made a HUGE scene, I looked into everything I could do, I cried and begged and tried to bribe. Honestly all I can do now is make sure she is happy somewhere else. There is nothing I can do. All I want now is just comforting words that she'll be fine...[]

If you find a home that you know in your hear will be good for her, then yes she will be fine.  Ask for updates on her and a guarantee that if they cannot keep her, she will be returned to you.  Also don't worry about letting the people know just how loved she is.

I wish I could take her for you, but I can't get out to AB for a few months yet.... maybe you could just keep her till then?[]

And please don't listen to anyone's onesided opinions of your husband.  We don't know him.  If you believe he is really taking your best interests to heart, then I believe you.  We may do things differently, but then that's why we are idoggers and he is not.  Not all people are made the same.  I know you did what you could.  Please don't blame yourself or him.  Maybe the MIL...[]

Maybe one of our other Albertans could step up?  Hiedi, you got space?  Missi would look just adorable with Tojo...?  Then you could get lots of updates.  []

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If you find a home that you know in your hear will be good for her, then yes she will be fine.  Ask for updates on her and a guarantee that if they cannot keep her, she will be returned to you.  Also don't worry about letting the people know just how loved she is.

I wish I could take her for you, but I can't get out to AB for a few months yet.... maybe you could just keep her till then?[]

And please don't listen to anyone's onesided opinions of your husband.  We don't know him.  If you believe he is really taking your best interests to heart, then I believe you.  We may do things differently, but then that's why we are idoggers and he is not.  Not all people are made the same.  I know you did what you could.  Please don't blame yourself or him.  Maybe the MIL...[]

Maybe one of our other Albertans could step up?  Hiedi, you got space?  Missi would look just adorable with Tojo...?  Then you could get lots of updates.  []

 
good response Huskymom
 
Liv
 
 Dogs are wonderful creatures and it is a terrible thing when life intrudes to the point where someone has to give up their dog, but it happens, it does not make you a bad person. A bad person would not have agonized over this, a irresponsible person would not have asked everyone here for advice. It seems that your heart is broken and that alone proves that you never intended for this to happen. Take heart and have faith that your pet will be provided for. Your children and your family do come first.
 
Take care and good luck

This is so frustrating--their has to be a lawyer who would take this on.Why not tell your husband to get rid of his dog?You say you met him on this site--he must be a dog lover or did he make like one just to meet someone.He doesn't own you--you are your own person ,not someone to be bossed around in front of your children.My heart breaks for you.Keep the dog and move in-what's the worst that can happen.Let him take you to court and you'll see who wins.I'm sure he doesn't have a case, since he never said you couldn't have two dogs and there is nothing in writing.THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING IN WRITING---anyone knows this.Please keep that dog and move in  with the dog and take it from there.I'm not trying to break up your marriage,but for GOD SAKES GIRL,GET A BACKBONE![sm=banghead002.gif]

I have to agree with TorontoJenn, Liv. I am not a judgemental person, however, you posted this situation here and you may not like the feedback that you receive. It angers me that your husband seems to have all the control in this situation. Honestly, it sounds to me like he doesn't want this dog for some reason. Just a gut feeling. How on earth could he sign a contract for sale without consulting you and without knowing the dog policy. (A policy which sounds like a big bunch of bullcrap to me). I do feel really bad about the situation, but there has to be something you can do. Don't you have a legal aide organization that is based on income??? We have that here in the states. Even still, I would think that there is an attorney out there who would take this case for free possibly, maybe an animal lover who loves animals so much they would take the case based on that. I dunno, I just really hope that you can find a way to prevent losing your dog, if that's what you really want................

I'm sorry I can't respond to these last posts. I'm hurt at what you are saying about my husband[sm=sad.gif]

I have already answered all your questions. There is nothing I can do now..[]

Liv, I am so sorry you are hurting.

I hope you are able to find Missy an excellent home, and have peace with that.  Take care.

Dog_ma

Liv,Sweetheart,we were all trying to help you As Sunshine Girl, said you may not like what you hear, but you did ask for our advice.We all tried to help you,but if you don't take our advice,you must live with your decision and move on.we were all trying to help you get out of this mess.I and I'm sure all the others feel this was all for nothing.But I, myself wish you well and pray your dog gets a wonderful home,as she does not deserve this.Dogs are not disposable.Good luck on your move.[][][][][]

[]  Liv and her DH aren't married yet as I read it.  She is planning her wedding, so unless Canada allows multiple hubbies she simply refers to him as her DH and of course thinks of him as such.  However, there is a legal distinction and without that piece of paper, her signature isn't needed on stuff.  Hubby is now committed to the new lease with or without Liv.  If I'm reading the marital situation wrong, Liv, I apologize.
 
I'm guessing that manufactured home means "trailer" which would mean "trailer park" or mobile home community and in those you absolutely do NOT own the land...you rent it and you are stuck with the park rules.  A friend of my mom's lives in a park that charges her $10 each per month for her never outside cats.  The cats live IN this woman's own property, but ON the landlords earth, so he can charge her.  Not that the cats ever set foot on that earth.........
 
And guys, even inside dogs need to go outside to potty......sneaking doesn't work because someone is going to see and stir the pot.....and what kind of life is that for the dog?  Having to sneak to potty?  Never being allowed to lay in the sun?
 
This situation sucks, and I'm afraid we're making it harder for Liv by being rather judgemental.

Ok Folks, This thread was full of great suggestions and support. Please keep in mind that we are not in Liv's shoes and what resourses we might have do not apply to her. She is already having a hard time dealing with this situation and having to loose her pet, don't make it worse by adding to the stress in her life.
 
I have been in her shoes regarding an owned home on rented land. The "owner" does have a right to limit the amount of animals you own and it is usually disclosed upon signing the land agreement/contract. In my case it was not, I moved into my home where the rule was no more then four dogs, of course I had more then four being a breeder. When I found out I took measures to make sure our dogs were not a problem for our neighbors and when we moved out our neighbors couldn't believe we owned as many dogs as we did...LOL! They were never allowed to bark and we cleaned up every time they eliminated.
 
I'm not suggesting you do this Liv as I would never ask anyone to attempt the risks I have taken with my own life. It was my decission only and it could have cost me my home which housed my children and my dogs. In today's society people who own more dogs then the normal household are wacky..yes, I am []
 
I would however ask the land owner if it would be possible to allow you to house your dog until you can find a home and set a reasonable time limit, he might be agreeable to that.
 
Good luck, I wish the best for you and your dog and know your heart must be breaking

Liv - I am so sorry you are going through this.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I know this is hard for you.  I wish I could help you!
 
Lisa and Charlie

Liv, I am so sorry. This is a very sad time for you. I just wanted to let you know that we recently adopted a 9 year old bichon/shih tzu dog from a family that could not keep her. The first few days were difficult but during the last month she has adjusted very well. She has become my little velcro dog and loves to play with our other dog. I think it helps that I am a stay at home dog mum. In the past we have adopted a 7 year old dog and a 14 year old dog. Although it is sad they do seem to adjust.

Unlike Ontario, Alberta (at least in the Calgary area) does not have any laws that prevent landlords from not allowing pets.

I am sorry that you are going through this and I wish both you and Missi well.

Ok, I think I am understanding the situation better after reading glenmar's post. I am really sorry you are going through this Liv, and I'm sorry your family is not supporting you right now. I know my family would not help me in that situation either. Missy looks to be highly re-homeable, and I'm sure you will find someone who will love her and who will be willing to keep in touch with you. Missy will adjust and she will be happy. 

Well, we got Willow in sort of a similar way. It was only a little different in that they weren't treating her well.  But, the reasons they gave her to us weren't that.  They had issues and needed to move and also the wife of the couple was having health problems.  And, Willow is fine and happy.  And, I love her as though I've had her from puppyhood.  So, I'm sure your dog will take some time to adjust and then be just fine.  Willow has really never looked back after that first month of adjustment.
Good luck.  Sorry, I keep posting!!

I,too understand the situation better now,as he is not your husband.It is too bad you can not get a job and get your own place, and[sm=happy.gif] make your own decisons.But that is neither here nor there.I wish you the best of luck with this guy,because I think you'll need it.I also wish the best for your dog--she deserves a good home and I'm sure she'll adjust just fine.
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