Today is a sad sad day. (alieliza)

I too have an ex that I care to know how he is doing.  I don't want to be with him, nor do I really even want to hang out with him, but I do care about he and his family's well being.  His wife and I have never met and they just lost one of their twins, and delivered the second one at 28 weeks.  She and I have been communicating a lot which is almost strange to me but after all these years, I have found a friend in one of the most unlikely places.  It is OK to worry about him, but is is super important that you make yourself a priority.  It seems from your posts lately that this has been coming.  He may say words like selfish, but when you are truly not there worrying about him and taking care of him daily, he will see that he was wrong.  A little time apart will do wonders for you both.  THe first few days and weeks will be very hard but I am sure that with each new day of living your own life, it will be a little easier to leave your old life behind.  And having to leave the dogs as well just makes it that much harder I am sure.  As other have said, we are here for you.  Do what you can to surround yourself with friends and things to keep you busy.  Many hugs and strength vibes coming your way!  Oh, and some slobbery Harley, Izzy and Devin kisses too!     

 Alison, it doesn't sound like you are being selfish at all.  But, in this situation you need to be.  Think of yourself, what you need to do and take care of YOU first and foremost, if you are both thinking of him, who's thinking of you?

 Easier said than done, I know.  I'm so, so sorry.  I know how hard it is, I've been there... and it's a process to get over. You're not just missing your friend (and pus) but grieving for the future you have planned and now won't have, that is hard, hard, hard stuff to deal with.  But, when you do come out the other side, you'll know it was for the best.  Trust me... you will.  Your future won't be the same, but it will ultimately, in the end be even better.

 I'm thinking of you -- hang in there and as Paige said, concentrate on yourself, the rest will come.

I can almost promise you that having something to work TOWARD will keep you too occupied to look back.  I spent waaay too much time looking back, and I still do it in certain moments.  Last week it was exactly a year since my ex & I broke up, so I had plenty of those moments, which people here helped in thru in one small way or another.  But getting your life where you want it to be doesn't make you selfish, it makes you a healthy functioning adult who will do good in the world because they have enough good and love flowing through their own lives to share it with others.

You have to fight for your future, not your past. 

 I'm so sorry. Sending strength, hugs, and "looking ahead to a brighter future" vibes.

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you're going through this.  I hope that you can heal and find some beauty and joy in your life soon.

Talus sends big hugs and says he'll be the guy in your life for now...

Thinking of you and knowing you'll do well no matter what...
You're strong and confident and can succeed at anything...

Maria

 Sorry to hear, but it sounds like (from what you've said) it is for the best... best wishes to you.

I'm so sorry to read this, though in some recent posts you'd mention things were a bit rocky.  A very good friend of mine is going through a divorce, also amicably.  Like I keep telling her, I'm not going to judge and you need to look out for yourself.

 Alison, I'm sorry you are dealing with this right now.  There's a few of us in a similar boat at the moment, if you need to vent, maybe get yourself a farm on FarmTown  and add us! lol.  {{{HUGS}}}

Alison, I'm sorry that you're going through this. 

(((Hugs)))

I'm sorry too!  I've been there before and also my DH has been thru this with his ex-wife.  I know right now it doesn't seem like it will happen but everything will work out. 

We are thinking of you. 

Lori

 (((Hugs))) I'm sorry you're hurting, but it sounds like you're going to come out better when its over. 

I am so sorry.  I know this is so hard.