Today is a sad sad day. (alieliza)

I'm so sorry Alison. You'll come out of this, you're a strong person. (((hugs)))

oh...I'm sorry. That is rough. ((hugs)) and passing you a nice cuppa tea...or coffee if you prefer?

We're all here if you need us.

I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time.  Hopefully, things will start looking up soon.

Deb W.

I've been thru something very similar and know how painful it can be. Be especially good to yourself and surround yourself with kind, supportive friends. Hugs to you and don't be afraid to lean on all of us here.

It really means a lot to me.

Oh, I am so sorry you are going through such a tough time.  What a hard decision for you but better now than later.  I too would be equally heartbroken about the dogs.  {{Hugs}}

Oh, Alison, I'm so sorry!  I know you're stronger than most and you'll be able to get to your new apartment, new mode of transportation, and new life faster than you anticipate.  You feel like a woman with a mission, so I think you will do what is right for you.  As a wise friend told me recently, take care of you, and the rest will follow.

BIG HUGS!!  **passing the chocolate brownie, slice of cheesecake, and a glass of wine**

I hope I can get to my new life, but I feel so sad leaving the old one behind. I know I need to think of me, but its so hard when I've spent the past 7 years thinking of us. I can't stop hoping that he is going to be ok.

I'm sorry to read this.  It's never easy, but perhaps it will become less painful over time.

I strongly recommend chocolate therapy. 

alieliza

I can't stop hoping that he is going to be ok.

never NEVER tell my husband this but I do worry about my (only) ex BF, still to this day. Why? because he wasn't a bad man, really...and I care that he is out there someplace, happy. He deserves it, because I think everyone with a few exceptions...deserves love and happiness.

I dunno if that makes me bad or not but there it is. You might never stop worrying at least a little bit about him...hoping he's happy etc. When you leave amicably or mutually or simply because regardless of their assertions to the contrary you just know it's right to move on...part of you will always care. It's not about a torch or not moving on and being happy...IMO that makes a person human. It makes you compassionate...

I wish that he would recognize that I care about him and that all I can think about is him, and that I'm compassionate, not selfish. I feel like he doesn't mean these things, but its hard to hear "selfish" when going through something like this.

rwbeagles

alieliza

I can't stop hoping that he is going to be ok.

 

never NEVER tell my husband this but I do worry about my (only) ex BF, still to this day. Why? because he wasn't a bad man, really...and I care that he is out there someplace, happy. He deserves it, because I think everyone with a few exceptions...deserves love and happiness.

I worried too. It didn't help that my ex threatened suicide and not just to me but to a counselor he was seeing. He didn't do it but he was very distraught. I think (hope) he's finally found happiness. It's hard to move on when you're so worried about the other person, but it can be equally self-destructive to stay for the wrong reasons. Walking a fine line between staying connected and caring and not giving false hope can be very difficult and confusing.

cakana

rwbeagles

alieliza

I can't stop hoping that he is going to be ok.

 

never NEVER tell my husband this but I do worry about my (only) ex BF, still to this day. Why? because he wasn't a bad man, really...and I care that he is out there someplace, happy. He deserves it, because I think everyone with a few exceptions...deserves love and happiness.

I worried too. It didn't help that my ex threatened suicide and not just to me but to a counselor he was seeing. He didn't do it but he was very distraught. I think (hope) he's finally found happiness. It's hard to move on when you're so worried about the other person, but it can be equally self-destructive to stay for the wrong reasons. Walking a fine line between staying connected and caring and not giving false hope can be very difficult and confusing.

Cathy, I am in the same position. All of it. He's got a list of things that he's up against, and this is just another hardship for him, but unfortunately, this relationship has been exhausting at best. You're right, there is a fine line between staying connected and caring, and giving false hope, and we've been over it and back again.

Ugh.

Alison, I'm sorry you're having to deal with something like this, but as someone said a few posts back ... better now than a year or so down the road.  Hopefully you'll be able to see Tyson and Gracie often and spend some time with them. Now - will someone please pass the wine and chocolate? {{{HUGS}}}

Joyce