so tragic - need supportive thoughts, please

 OMG, how terrible! That poor family! Of course, good thoughts and prayers their way.

 Your friend and her family have my prayers and my deepest condolences.  Accidents do happen...I wish they didn't.  My heart goes out to them...

I am so very sorry.  She and her family are in my thoughts and prayers.  Happened in my family, I understand.  Hugs

Erica, let me know if I can help.  (like if you need help with something so you can take time to help her)

The loss of a child is so difficult.  It is never easy.  It is always unbelievably painful and sad.  So much heartache and pain.  And sometimes as a friend it's even worse because you just wish you could take it all away -- and you feel so powerless.  My thots and prayers will be with her and her family ... and with you as you just be the friend she will need so desperately.

My heart goes out to this family.  How sad.

calliecritturs

and you feel so powerless

that's exactly how I feel. I keep thinking - oh, I could do this, or I could do that. but it's not going to change anything, and it's not going to make her hurt any less. I haven't been able to talk directly to her - just to another close friend (who she's actually staying with right now). her father-in-law is taking care of all the financial things for the funeral, but a few of us were thinking of chipping in to help try and cover some of the hospital bills. She has been out of a job for a while now...just stayed home with the baby. she's on heavy sedatives, and under strict suicide watch right now... I just don't understand why this has to happen to the good people. she loved that baby so much... this is breaking my heart.

Oh my gosh....I am so sorry!  What a thing to have to deal with...... my prayers for strength go out to all of you.

You know...there is not an accident that happens that just about everyone will blame themselves.........believe me...my mom walked out of the door to take a walk one Feb. day and got hit and killed by a car......there was not a one of us that didn't blame themselves.   We all had a hard road to go for a long time....and so will your friend.  She will need all the strength everyone can help give her....for a long time.   I hope that there is a way someone will convince her that this was just meant to be for reasons that we will never know.

Erica, I am so, so sorry for your friend's tragic loss.  The best I can say is that when people have lost a child, they feel the most profound emptiness that cannot be described.  Sometimes friends don't know what to say, for fear of saying something "wrong", so they just say nothing at all to give their friend space to heal.  Unfortunately, that just isolates even further.  Spend time with your friend.  You don't have to offer any advice or poignant words, just let her physically feel that you are there for her in any way you can be - to listen, to cry with her, to look at photos of her baby, to let her relive memories repeatedly, to be angry- anything but to be alone.  She may remember someone's inconsiderate words, someone else's supportive words, but she will always remember that you were THERE with her, to suffer with her, right along with everyone else in her family, because at a certain point she won't want to hurt them any more by reliving her memories, etc, so having someone outside the family to do that with will be valuable.

I am so sorry she has suffered this tragedy.  There really is no explanation "why", unless she finds something in her heart that gives her peace about it.  There is no explanation.  So very sad.

What an awful awful tragedy. My heart is breaking for your friend. I can't imagine the pain she feels right now. She is lucky to have caring, supportive friends and family at a time like this.

I'm so very sorry for your friends loss.  Last year my co-worker and friends daughter drowned in a very freak accident at the beach.  It was horrible.  There really is nothing you can say or do, just take your cues from her and be there to listen.  My mom told me it's a mother's "worst nightmare". 

 Wow, I'm very sorry...I can't even begin to imagine how terrible that must be...I don't even want to try to imagine it. My thoughts are with your friend and her family.

 Oh no, how horrible for all of you!  I am so very, very, sorry.  I just tried to imagine what the poor mother must be feeling, and I simply can't, it makes me feel ill.  I am thinking of all of you.

Your friend is in my thoughts.