so tragic - need supportive thoughts, please

I'm so sorry to hear this.  You and your friend are in my thoughts

What a horrible, senseless tragedy.  For sure your friend and her family will be in my thoughts and prayers.  She's lucky to have a supportive friend to lean on.  Try if you can not to let her start blaming herself, which is so easy to do. Sometimes terrible things just happen and we never know why. {{{Hugs}}}

Joyce

the funeral is tomorrow... it's not going to be easy for any of us...

 I am thinking of you today. 

Chuffy

 I am thinking of you today. 

Me, too.  

I am as well -- what Bevo's mom said above is so true.  Just being there is the support she needs even if she doesn't act like it.  Even just dropping by with stupid stuff -- does she like Milky Way Dark bars or Altoids? or a certain kind of gum?  Buy a package and just stop to hand it to her.  Did she leave a hair tie or something at your house last time you saw her?  Or does she really like a particular flower?  Buy just ONE and drop it by to hand her.  At first you may not even have to stay ... but just stopping with some stupid made-up excuse will help her not feel so isolated. 

Is she a dog person?  A visit from the dogs or to 'meet' a new foster.  Anything to approach her on a 'normal' level that then provides a springboard for her to say "I can't help it, I'm just SO sad ..."

Something my friend did when I lost Bubblegum.......she bought me a bracelet....it was so significant, it had engraved words that said something like LOVE, LAUGHTER, HAPPINESS or words to that effect. She did not have it engraved... I believe its the kind of thing you can find perhaps at a Hallmark store or a religious store perhaps....but she gave it to me with a card that said these engraved words are all so meaningful where Bubby was concerned......and they were. I work that bracelet every single day until it actually broke....and I still kept it in my drawer and look at it every now and again.....it helped so much.  Perhaps somewhere you can find some significant object to give her such as this.... I can't tell you how much it meant to me, and how loved I felt by my friend Donna. She can't know how much it helped. 

I brought just a card with me to the funeral. I know my being there meant more to her and hubby than anything else. It was so much harder than I expected it to be...nothing is worse than a screaming mothers cries for her baby. the ceremony was beautiful, we all wrote on balloons and let the free afterwards.

I just can't believe he's gone...

oh, god, I'm crying just thinking of the anguish she's feeling.  This is so heartbreaking for all of you.  More hugs to those of you who are trying so hard to stay strong for her.  Unending streams of hugs for her.

Oh God, this is tragic.  I am so very sorry to hear about this accident.  I will keep you and your friends in my thoughts and prayers.  It will be a long while before they heal.

My Lab Cody drowned in our pool 2 years ago, and that tore me up immensely.  I can't even imagine what they are going through having lost their son.

My heart breaks.

I am so sorry to read this thread this morning.  No words are even adequate.

Our condolences and sorry to hear of this happening. I know it won't make sense but I hope they can find peace and resolution. May God and friends bless them in their time of need.

 Oh Erica!  I'm so very sorry for your friend's loss.  I'm just seeing this now.  Wow.  I can't even begin to imagine I'm sure, but the heartbreak I feel for her is so overwhelming right now, I'm sitting here in tears.  My thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family.