So how was Valentine's Day?

 My water froze and BF got called into work...I ate the leftover chocolate that i bought for Kale's class at school.

This boy of mine is so sweet.  I don't like to make a big deal of Valentine's - we should only show our appreciation of one another on one day?  I was hoping, since we've only been together two months that he'd keep it low key.  But apparently he couldn't help himself and I'm not one to complain.  He brought me pink roses, a new book, a gift card to Taco Bueno and Half Price Books, and gave me the cutest dog card with a poem he'd written.  It goes like this:

Two incredible months since the beginning of our merger,
We never would have met so THANK YOU Krystal's Burger!

Going with you to dinner, a movie or shopping have all been fun,
But Amy, your hugs and kisses are second to none.

Your son Joey is quite a dog that thank god isn't a humper,
If the weather permits, I may finally fix your bumper.

Guys like me DON'T write poems so I guess what I am trying to say,
Is that I dig you and have a great Valentine's Day!

It was the perfect balance of sweet and dorky.  The bumper bit is in regard to my car; an ex-friend wrecked it and never paid to have it fixed.  BF has taken it upon himself to rectify the situation so I can FINALLY get my car traded in for something that doesn't need repair every few months.  Bless his heart, he's the greatest.

Happy Post-Valentine's All!

huskymom

 My water froze and BF got called into work...I ate the leftover chocolate that i bought for Kale's class at school.

Candace, I just busted out laughing when I read that!!!!!!

 And Scrubsfiend - that poem is just FANTASTIC!!  I love it!  Good for him for taking the time to be so creative!!!  So fun!  What a great poem!

BF came home with the roses that I love ( a certain unusual color), and I'd told him that my dad used to always bring us girls chocolate "Turtles" for Valentine's Day.  So he brought those home, too, and we enjoyed the night with eachother  - and our own confrontational talk - that ended up with some good results. lol  We actually get to celebrate V-Day this weekend like we agreed, but those small gestures last night were sweet.

David was awesome as always -- and I'll encourage those of you 6" from divorce court and those wondering about it.

My first marriage sucked -- he didn't 'hit' me but the abuse was emotional, verbal and every other way.  (He is now indigent and getting SSI for "emotional reasons" so that will tell you what a screwed up mess he is/was.)  Valentines was ALWAYS an argument -- every single year he would pick a fight on Valentines -- every single of the 9 we were 'married'. 

David is smart enough to know where NOT to screw up (and he doesn't hardly ever *screw up*).  but he IS British (ask Chuffy and Kate - for a Brit Valentine's is NOT school holiday -- it is a 'romantic' holiday for JUST lovers/spouses.  you do NOT get a friend, a kid or your folks a Valentine!)

In 10 years I can tell you some hysterical stories about gift-giving (Valentines in particular) gone wrong -- but it's always done in a sense of love and FUN.  This year I got a dozen red roses (my particular fave and 'hot button';) AND a singing frog!  At home I got Godiva (a big unbelievably expensive RED fabric heart Godiva), and a silver celtic pin, a musical jewelry box and a bunch of silly toys.  He got ME more than I got him (and I go overboard and always do). 

THEN we went to dinner at probably about THE most expensive restaurant in town -- appetizers all the way to decadent desserts/coffee, *AND* I got cuddled in the car on the way home.  After almost 11 years of marriage (this was our 12th "Valentine" in one form or another) he's still sneaking his hand across the table to hold MY hand.

We'll never be ABLE to have kids (that's not an excuse - it IS a sorrow to both of us).  But we've made it a point to make each other the center of our universe.  I don't get lost in him and he doesn't get lost in me -- frankly that "You can be complete without someone else -- don't ever give someone that much power over you" stuff is crap. 

When you find your real love you both do some pretty astronomical things for each other to make each other happy.  And it's that reciprocity that makes it work and makes it long. 

Nine 1/2 years married to my first husband was the worst kind of slavery and abuse.  I got away as soon as I could.  Then I worked hard to get sane and met David.  NEVER will there be enough time with that man.  11 years is only a beginning. 

If your life sucks -- it can be better.  It's not easy.  But man, it's worth it.

(BTW I'm not gorgeous, nor am I wealthy, nor am I athletic and trust me - it's not my bod he's after ... but he's my heart and he knows it and I'm his and I'm grateful as heck).

And the singing frog ain't bad either!!! *grin*

 Callie, he's lucky to have you, and so are we...

It was just a normal day for me as well.  Working, spending quality time with Will and putting him to bed. DH said "happy ruthless commercialism day dahling!" and gave me a big kiss and a chocolate orange, so I was made up!  There was a dvd I bought and I wanted to give DH anyway and it's months till his birthday, so I let him have it this week and called it a valentine's present.  He was dead pleased with it.  Neither of us wrapped anything or bought cards.

I used to want to do Valentines when I was with my ex.  I  kinda needed the "us" time, because I just didn't get it any other time.  I badly wanted to feel loved/wanted by him.  I think there were a lot of problems, partly due to my insecurity and partly because he was basically a git. Valentine's isn't important to me anymore.  Being laid back about it is SO much easier, it makes for less disappointment!

Callie, that was absolutely beautiful.  Thank you for sharing that!

calliecritturs

We'll never be ABLE to have kids (that's not an excuse - it IS a sorrow to both of us).  But we've made it a point to make each other the center of our universe.  I don't get lost in him and he doesn't get lost in me -- frankly that "You can be complete without someone else -- don't ever give someone that much power over you" stuff is crap. 

I agree with you there.  It's the "being one" with someone else, that's the whole POINT.  The whole is greater than the sum of the parts....  Don't hold back  

Oh and you're right  if a guy gave his mum a Valentine over here, he'd NEVER live it down! 

Me and my SO. hadn't planned anything for Valentine's because 1) we are both super broke, 2) he had ninjutsu that evening, pretty much straight after work, and 3) we never really "do" big celebratory things (I'm not sure why).  I hadn't bought him any presents, and wasn't expecting anything

But then... when he got home from work he came in and gave me a new cellphone!! Okay, it was unwrapped and still in the store bag... but still! Then he had to leave straight away for ninjutsu, and I was left at home feeling like a bad girlfriend and really guilty.

Luckily it was late night at the mall, so I went and bought him a nice, not too flashy ring, a chocolate orange easter egg (YUM), and some nice salmon to cook for dinner.

I hid the ring in the chocolate egg, and surprised him with a nice dinner (and dessert) when he got home.. He loved it! PHEW. It was a lucky save.


 

Chuffy

and partly because he was basically a git.

And there just ISN"T an American word like "git" (as in a usually self-absorbed, essentially worthless to the rest of the world ... and lots of other modifiers that simply fail because the word 'git' is just SO much better than "jerk" -- which is our closest equivalent.)

*grin* thanks -- I truly "got it" LOL

Valentine's day was great, here.

I was supposed to be in Doha working, so I was going to miss V-Day, but an unexpected death of a friend, brought me back to the states a little quicker than expected.

My guy had flowers & a teddy bear delivered to my office.  When I made it home from work, I was met with a buffet of my favorite foods sat out "picnic style" in the living room.  After dinner, he showed me what he had accomplished while I was away.  He re-painted the dining room.  What was a red dining room, is now a very pretty brown with green undertones.  I LOVE IT!!!!  We spent the rest of the evening enjoying each other's company...

All right all right stop smirking and get your head down off that cloud while I get my head out of the gutter!

V-day was very nice, but ended not so nice. I got him 2 cards because I wasn’t happy with the first one I found so I put the more sappy one on his windshield in the middle of the night for him to have when he went in early to work.  When he came home from work that afternoon, he had brought me a dozen red roses and then when we went to dinner that night, waiting on the windshield for me was a dove dark chocolate rose and a lovely card. 

He isn’t one to say mushy lovey stuff to me, and in 13 years the only one I have ever gotten was last V-day, but this one actually topped it.  It was completely blank just handwritten and he told me that he “loves me more now than ever”. That he knows he “doesn’t go around shouting his love with exclamation and heart dotted ‘i’s’, but that it doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel it that strongly” He also told me he “can’t wait to marry me in a few months and that he loves me for being me.”  It was incredibly sweet and I was very touched and teared up at dinner while reading it.

For dinner, we had early reservations at a nice croele place we haven’t been to in a long time and had a lovely dinner of spicy food and champagne. Then came home and I found fun ways of thanking him for such a nice evening ;) and then we fell asleep by 10 pm.

A little over an hour later I woke up puking and spent the next 11 hours doing just that and ended up spending a good 8 of those hours sleeping on the bathroom floor because I wouldn’t have been able to make it and also had other intestinal upset. I am finally out of bed today but I feel like hell.

SO it was a good and bad V-day for sure…and I am not sure when I will be able to have Creole food again…lol

Pom, congrats on the engagement.   Amanda, congrats on FINALLY getting rid of that red dining room you have been complaining about for so long…lol

Scrubsfriend that was a very sweet poem

Ahh poor you!  Do you feel better now?  Did you hae a bug or was it something you ate?  Are you going to sue the restaurant? 

No.. lol… I don’t plan to sue!!  it was stomach flu I am sure.  I had low grade fever for more than 24 hours, chills, body aches, major vomiting for almost 12 hours and I still have major intestinal upset going on.  I feel a TON better, but anytime I try to put any food in my stomach I feel nauseated and I also cant stay out of the bathroom very long so I am pretty much stuck feeling miserable and very weak.  The only upside if there was one is that I lost 3 pounds in the last few days…lol… but I am doing my best to keep myself very hydrated.  I am just very happy it waited till after we got to enjoy V-day and a pricey dinner before it happened.

I had to take care of DH this past week who had very bad abdominal and back pain and was out of work for most the week witha  trip to urgent care and the ER.  So now it has been pay back time and he is taking care of me. I am hoping and praying though he doesn't get this bug. he is the biggest PITA when he is sick.