It may be over (Bullymom)

rwbeagles

I know this thread is kind of your place to let it out...but I did want to step up and say...respect your man, respect what he does to earn money...don't belittle it or minimize it because there are many women out there living with shiftless idjits that DON'T work at all and put the entire load on them.

 

VERY well stated Gina.  Wow isn't that the truth.  

snownose

Do you have any idea why she acts that way?

I have no clue.  She only does this with me, nobody else has a single problem with her.   

Respectfully,,,, I really mean that,,,, children behave in the manner in which they do because it works.  Kids get their needs met by acting in a certain manner.  If that continues to work, the kid continues to do it.  After reading your posts, there is an extremely high probability discipline strategies have been inconsistent.  It also may be that she has learned intensity gets results.  The biggest thing that has to change is your behavior.   You can not change the behavior of a kid (when the pattern is in place) unless you change your behavior too.

Some reasons these type of discipline challenges occur:  Consequences delayed can be every bit as reinforcing as consequences that never occur (bed time);  Attention to inappropriate behavior maintains it big time. 

Catch em being good and praise etc. what you want, behavior starts changing.  Structure in the form of times to do things, ways to do things (like small chores), rituals for common events, all these things help establish appropriate behavior. 

Parenting books, parenting classes, the Dont Shoot the Dog book.  There are many options out there.  Local school districts often have folks who do parent training or have the contacts for sources in the community. 

Yes you need to get it under control,,, adolescence is bad enough without starting it with problem behaviors.  Believe me, a good part of my case load are kids who are non compliant.

Well,   DH got home Saturday night and after I put Madison to bed, we sat down and attempted to talk out our problems but it turned into a fight.  We sis manage to work our problems out and we are both willing to work things out!  Yay!  I am happy!  Wish us luck and say some prayers! 

Good luck! I think that you got some really good advice here and I hope that you can look inwards as well as outwards to work through the issues at home. 

Bullymom

Well,   DH got home Saturday night and after I put Madison to bed, we sat down and attempted to talk out our problems but it turned into a fight.  We sis manage to work our problems out and we are both willing to work things out!  Yay!  I am happy!  Wish us luck and say some prayers! 

That's good news....hope you guys will work it out.....good luck!!!

Luck and healing vibes headed your way bullymom.

Good luck sweet!! I dunno where I have been hiding but only just noticed this thread! Keep your chin up and be positive, also don't be afraid to stand up for yourself in a strong way not a b*tchy way if you get what I mean.

Also on the depression front(which I know very little about) but am a bit a nerd with nutrition your diet can also help you heaps so try to keep your diet healthy full of fruit and veges will help with the sleepiness. Don't cut carbs out but reduce them and make sure you get healthy fats into your diet. If you get hungry don't go for a packet of corn chips go for a handful of almonds or fruit and nut. If I get slack with my diet(which I have of late due to christmas and new years) I get really tired.

That's good to hear, hope it all works out for you.