Someone got engaged...someone else broke up

 Good for you Tina.  So what's your New Year's Resolution going to be?  Weight loss is out obviously, you've already dropped what 180?  give or take?

Sssshhhhh Candace - you weren't supposed to tell my secret!

I don't usually make resolutions; however, in light of recent self-admissions and desire to work harder on all that kinda stuff, I think it's only appropriate that I resolve to be honest with myself sooner rather than later, to trust my feelings when something doesn't feel right, and to remember that I am capable, intelligent, reasonably attractive, and I am worth it.

***taking out hat pin to pop my giant head***

I am also saving up to take Bear on a road trip, which we will do in 2008 come he!l or high water.

Hey! You should stop in Wisconny on your way. You can head north over the Mackinac bridge, through the UP then down to WI and stop by to let Bear play with Rupeypoopey.

rwbeagles

Only because most of what he typed was relayed to him by a woman...he said as much...LOL.

LMAO.  And KMA. 

Who cares if Bear wants to play with Rupert?  I wanna play with him!  I don't have a destination in mind yet, but I'd love to meet some i-doggers if I can!

I'm thinking I should also retract my statement about being reasonably intelligent.  I realized as I was sitting here doing data entry that Candace's weight loss reference was likely about the 180 being the boyfriend, not actual weight.  Can I revise that to reasonably intelligent with blonde moments occuring randomly?

sharismom

I don't usually make resolutions; however, in light of recent self-admissions and desire to work harder on all that kinda stuff, I think it's only appropriate that I resolve to be honest with myself sooner rather than later, to trust my feelings when something doesn't feel right, and to remember that I am capable, intelligent, reasonably attractive, and I am worth it.

Here here!!!!! Everyday I look in the mirror and tell myself that I am awesome....it helps. :) 

I know how hard it is to decide to stop waiting around for someone to change, and move on in your own direction.  You just cant hang on to the glimmers of hope forever, it gets better than that!   Im proud of you... and I know you will be going through a lot of confusion and second guessing and hurting, but you want more and you deserve more and now... you can get more!  :)

sharismom

I'm thinking I should also retract my statement about being reasonably intelligent.  I realized as I was sitting here doing data entry that Candace's weight loss reference was likely about the 180 being the boyfriend, not actual weight.  Can I revise that to reasonably intelligent with blonde moments occuring randomly?

Meh!  I figure if you get it in the same day, you can lay claim to intelligence.  Earlier was just a rest period, we all must take them occassionally. 

sharismom

I do appreciate the support.  It's kind of odd because you don't really "know" me and certainly his side has not been represented.  I really tried, but just couldn't do it any more.  I've felt like a shelter animal for about a year or so now - abandoned by someone who said they loved you, waiting desperately for a pat on the head or scratch behind the ears.  How pathetic is that?

Sounds like my ex!

And it's NOT pathetic.  Do we think our dogs are pathetic because they are there for us, wagging their tails, even when we are busy and have  less time for them than we would like to have? 

You were loyal to him.  You stuck by him faithfully and tried to make things better.  That doesn't sound pathetic to me! Maybe you were a little scared to strike out on your own after so long, and that's not pathetic either - that's human!  You tried hard for as long as you could and then you did what was best for both of you at the end.  Doesn't sound like a witch to me... sounds like a very brave person doing something very difficult.  My very best to you for the new year, and I mean that with all my heart.

"Do we think our dogs are pathetic because they are there for us, wagging their tails, even when we are busy and have less time for them than we would like to have?"

No, not pathetic.  Unconditional love - that's what I'd call it.  But a dog's reasoning is far less complex than ours because they don't over-think everything.

I finally heard from him.  Said he never intended to be so distant, but that he figures it's too late for any reasonable explanations.  I told him I would talk only if it didn't end up going in the same old viscious circle of tears, empty promises, and then back into the same pattern.  I'm not holding my breath.  I did, however, break down in tears as I read his email and know that there will be a lot more crying when his stuff is gone from my house.  Ugh. 

Must...stay...strong

Chuffy

You were loyal to him.  You stuck by him faithfully and tried to make things better.  That doesn't sound pathetic to me! Maybe you were a little scared to strike out on your own after so long, and that's not pathetic either - that's human!  You tried hard for as long as you could and then you did what was best for both of you at the end.  Doesn't sound like a witch to me... sounds like a very brave person doing something very difficult.  My very best to you for the new year, and I mean that with all my heart.

Perfectly said!! I completely agree!!

sharismom

Must...stay...strong

Rockonwhichyabadself.

It's never easy for a relationship, even a one-sided one, to end. And I'm not rejoicing in your leaving, even if it is for the better. But yes, you must remain resolute in your ability to guide your destiny and invest your time and energy in what is truly rewarding for you.

sharismom

Who cares if Bear wants to play with Rupert?  I wanna play with him!  I don't have a destination in mind yet, but I'd love to meet some i-doggers if I can!

I'm thinking I should also retract my statement about being reasonably intelligent.  I realized as I was sitting here doing data entry that Candace's weight loss reference was likely about the 180 being the boyfriend, not actual weight.  Can I revise that to reasonably intelligent with blonde moments occuring randomly?

I want to play with Rupy, too! And I think Alaska would be a good destination, since you have Bear and all....hint hint...... 

Hey Jean!!  I've always wanted to take one of those cruises to Alaska, but where would that leave Bear?  Home to babysit the cats?  Oh, details...

Thanks Amy & Ron!  Everyone has been so great!  I'm hanging so far.  One day at a time... 

Just wanted to say, "Hang in there," Tina.  You did what you needed to to take care of yourself - not the easy path, at all, but the best for the both of you really.