Someone got engaged...someone else broke up

Tina, I'm very late seeing this thread, but I wanted to send my best wishes to you during this time of change and upset.  You've used words like "pathetic" and "witchy" in your posts, but I don't think they apply at all.  The one word that comes to mind for me is COURAGEOUS.  It's very scary and hard to decide to leave a situation (relationship, job, whatever) that may be relatively comfortable in its routine yet deeply unsatisfying.  And even though it's only hindsight that shows us that a decision was the right thing to do, until you get to the point where you can look back and assess your decision with more hindsight, take each day as it comes and know that you'll get through whatever transpires.  Sending you plenty of good wishes and vibes for a better year ahead!

P.S. - I think a road trip or two sounds like a wonderful idea!  I always feel better about whatever is upsetting me in my life after I've had a real change of scenery.

Best thing to realize is what you did already... You can't change someone else! Sounds like you made the right decision. Keep your chin up, things will get better!

Well, another day has gone by (nearly) and I am okay!  You know what's really good for frustration?  Seriously hard labor.  I went up onto my roof this morning (the flat section) and shoveled off about 6 inches of snow and another inch of ice.  I'm no wimp, but after two hours of that, I was exhausted.  The scariest part was the ladder cause I knew if I fell, Bear could not dial 911.  Fortunately, the super-Alpha was with me and I did okay!

Here's a shovel full of ice - oh, did that land on your head, Dear?  I'm sorry.  Have another. 

 I just am now seeing this thread.. so I am SUPER late, but wanted to tell you Tina that I wish you all the best.  You did the rigt thing. it is important to get what you need out of a relationship.  There are ALWAYS compromises, but when the bad outway the good and you start losing sight of what the good was in the first place, you need to move on and be true to yourself.   You don't live for others.. you can only live for yourself.

Stay strong.