calliecritturs
Posted : 11/29/2007 9:32:33 PM
I'm not sure I can even type this out to post. Most of you know I used to teach. It was in a private "Christian" school. Some of my students I was pretty close to because of our church ties. One of the girls I was closest to had a difficult home situation ... very demanding, very un-loving parents. It was just their 'way'. But as a teen she got wild, and I knew she'd had a child out of wedlock (major problem - parents threw her out). What I didn't know at the time was that the father was another of my former students. Very sad home situation (he was put in a 'strict' school because they considered him incorrigible).
Fast forward several years. I saw my former student on the news .. her daughter was 'missing' and presumed kidnapped. l found out at that point that the 'faither' was also a former student of mine == the only student I ever had (this was years ago) that I knew had been a victim of abuse in his own home (and we had to turn them in to the authorities).
She hadn't been kidnapped -- the father had gotten angry with her (a 6 year old) because she wet her pants when he spanked her. He literally beat her to death.
It was very ugly -- I was able to contact my former student and get together with her but it was horrific.
In my case, I knew the father was an abuser because he had been HORRIBLY abused. Then of course, as a young man he had 'anger' issues that had never been dealt with ... so an abused child became an abuser. And the cycle continues.
It happens all the time. Am I saying feel sorry for them? No. I'm saying it's probably what happened. I am saying it's all just stomach-churningly horrible. I"m saying no one wins. I'm saying it's absolutely horrible. I'm saying no one listened -- because this family undoubtedly gave off all the signals that all was not well. all are guilty. and a little girl is in the arms of an angel now ... she went thru h ... on earth. But at least now ... now she'll never hurt again.
And now I'll go cry again for a whole bunch of people. Kayla ... she met this little girl when SHE crossed Rainbow Bridge.