Honest Opinions Needed!! (mrstjohnson) - Updated on first post

FourIsCompany

Here's one for $235. She's going to need it the moment she delivers? Bah! Give her this link and she can order it herself. I think she's being extremely selfish and petty. Pregnant or not. Her pump is 4 years old and she expects you to replace it with a new one??? I've had enough of this girl! LOL

Edit: I wouldn't pay the difference either since you bought her new parts. Hopefully, she learned her lesson about loaning such things out. Friendship is more important than $120 or whatever the difference is.

 

You guys are awesome!  I am calling her right now!!!  You guys are the best!

Personally I want to take a rolled up newspaper to this chicks head ..>_<

Moderator speaking... 

Let's be respectful here please...this is a FRIEND of the OP's who actually did do her a favor.

Sorry but I am going to take a different view. 

Lets see here her lent you this device right. 

How much did she charge you for using that device for those 3 months? 

How much would it have cost you to rent a pump for that time?  Those are pretty expensive to rent right?

What condition was the device in when you received it?  Did it function like a brand new pump?

Now it gets damaged in shipment.  Most of the time damage in shipment can be prevented with proper packing of the box.  How well was the box packed?

It was only insured for $200.  Did she tell you to insure it for that amount or did you decide that?

Bottom line is that you were lent this thing and you have the responsibility to return it in the same condition as it was lent to you.  If it was damaged before it was in her possession you have the responsibility of replacing it with the same product that she had. If you can get a used one in the same condition fine if not you should buy a new one. 

Why should she be out any money for lending you that pump!

It seems like everyone is in agreement here but IMHO  - you borrowed your friends pump and that saved you from having to buy one yourself. It seems you also borrowed it knowing that your friend would need the pump returned for her own use. So if you look at it from her perspective, she did you a favour and saved you money. Now because of her generosity she has to do with a replacement that she doesn't like. She bought herself the pump that she liked and I think she has to be made whole. It would be like loaning someone your car and they had an accident and wrecked it. Would you accept a less valuable car or chip in half the amount the insurance didn't cover. No. You would expect them to replace the car they wrecked. You would want to be made whole.

Well I called her and she isn't comfortable ordering online so she wants me to pay for it and then wait for the insurance money from the Post Office.  I basically told her no.  She said that if it was her she would have ordered me the new pump and absorbed the cost.  I told her that I wasn't doing that and I am sorry if she doesn't agree with me.

Man she ticks me off.  I am so flaming pOed right now!!!!

denise m

You would expect them to replace the car they wrecked.

Exactly and if the car they wrecked was a 2000 with 100K mi on it, no way should they expect a 2007, or EVEN a 2000 with zero miles on it. Just about every court here would agree.

#1 rule of lending is don't lend anything to anyone...if you cannot deal with

a. not getting it back

b. getting it back later than you want or

c. getting it back more used than when you lent it.

mrstjohnson

I need some opinions on what to do.  My girlfriend lent me her breastpump for 3 months (it was supposed to be longer, but that's a long story).  Anyway, the pump was 4 yearsold and she had used it for 16 months.  She got the pump in the mail yesterday and it didn't work and canoot be fixed.  It was damaged in shipping.  I had it insured for $200 thank goodness for that!

So I called around and to replace the pump (not the exact carrybag, but same motor pump) is going to be $250.  So I thought, well I would split it with her.  She called me before I could tell her and tells me that the exact same one that she had (It was a backpack style) was going to be over $320..  Now I am annoyed.  She expects me to pay for the complete difference between the insurance and the price of the new pump because she wants a specific style of bag.  Yes, that's the same style she had before, but how much does that matter, the motor is the same, same output.

What do you think, am I responsible for the complete difference?  I only used it for 3 months and she used it for 16 months.

Thanks,

Lisa

I totally see the points about returning it to her in the condition that I received it.  I completed agree and I feel awlful that it broke in the mail.  Originally she didn't want the pump back until December as she wasn't even going to pump that much since she wasnt going back to work.  If I knew I only had it for 3 months I would never have bothered and would have registered for my own. 

Yes, I am totally grateful for lending it to me...If I rented one for this long it would have cost me $150.  What I am annoyed with is that I found her the same pump that she had, and it would only cost me $35 (after the insurance check) to replace her pump with a brand new one but she doesn't want that one.  She wants the one at Target for $300+ (it's the exact same pump) so she can start pumping immediately after she gives birth and can't wait until Monday (when she would come home from the hospital).

I packaged it in it's original box (just like they would ship it). Wrapped in heavy duty paper.  The package arrived fine, but with the shipping it caused something to go wrong??  How can you account for that?

I've posted with ya long enough to know you aren't the petty type I trust your assesment and your remedy seems in line with what's fair.

I'm telling ya (but you likely know lol)...EVERYTHING gets blown outta proportion when you're in the last trimester. I think I went on a tirade about peanut butter once!

rwbeagles

denise m

You would expect them to replace the car they wrecked.

Exactly and if the car they wrecked was a 2000 with 100K mi on it, no way should they expect a 2007, or EVEN a 2000 with zero miles on it. Just about every court here would agree.

#1 rule of lending is don't lend anything to anyone...if you cannot deal with

a. not getting it back

b. getting it back later than you want or

c. getting it back more used than when you lent it.

I even used this example with her.  If I lent you my old car and the engine died would I expect you to pay for it.  You didn't break it, but it just quit.  Of course not, because it was old and used up.  She said that's what insurance is for.  My reply was, I did insure it for what's it was worth and I can get you one for only $35.  Her reply was that she uncomfortable ordering something online.

rwbeagles

I've posted with ya long enough to know you aren't the petty type I trust your assesment and your remedy seems in line with what's fair.

I'm telling ya (but you likely know lol)...EVERYTHING gets blown outta proportion when you're in the last trimester. I think I went on a tirade about peanut butter once!

Thanks Gina!  That honestly means alot.  I know she is freaking out and I don't blame her.  The one thing that does irk me is that she is a spoiled brat and her and her DH get everything paid for them!!  Their parents pay for their mortgage, their car insurance, their car, to send their son to a preschool that's $1000/month!  As she is beating me up for $35...I know it's not the money, but the point, but it kills me!

Why not buy the one onlione and have it shipped to her and say you bought it at a store ecause it was on sale and you knew how much she wanted one?  Would solve the cost issue and her odd hangup about the online thing... 

rwbeagles

Exactly and if the car they wrecked was a 2000 with 100K mi on it, no way should they expect a 2007, or EVEN a 2000 with zero miles on it. Just about every court here would agree.

Only problem with this Gina is that there is a very well established market in cars.  The insurance company has to give you the market value of the car which means that there is a established value of the car based on others on the lot out there.  Therefore you can take that money and turn arould and find another the same as what you had.  I have first hand knowledge because I was rear ended once and the car I was driving was rather hard to find.  The state rules on insurance stated that if you wanted they have to hand you another car instead of the money.  It would have taken them a rather extensive search to find another car like mine so I got $1000 over what I paid for the car.  This was back in the early 80's so that money was a fair amount.

It is a little harder in this case as I don't think that there is large used pump market out there in the class that this one was.  Therefore establishing the fair market value is harder and can only be determined by replacing the item as close as you can. 

Btw,  I totally agree with your lending rules and have this addition,  d. Be ready to lose a friend because of lending something!

timsdat

It is a little harder in this case as I don't think that there is large used pump market out there in the class that this one was.  Therefore establishing the fair market value is harder and can only be determined by replacing the item as close as you can. 

Agreed...which is what Lisa offered...but was refused in lieu of a more expensive item. Also agree on D.