Maybe its time.....

Whats really funny is that I haven't logged on for a few months (up untill this weekend the babes were healthy and angelic), and just now while I'm skimming through the posts and some of tem were pretty lame and stuff even a novice like me knew. So I think to myself...I bet that woman with like a dozen dogs has something interesting to say, and i start looking to see if Glenda was showing on anything and this was the first one I found. Just wanted to let you know you've helped me with a few different things, Ranging from runny poop to sibling rivalry! Theres always gonna be differing opinions here, in most cases us dog mommas ( and poppas to be politicaly correct) treat our babes just as a child. Think what happens when you tell a Mom chef-boy-r-dee everyday isn't exactly nutrition, or tell them anything about parenting for that matter. Just know alot of us here really appreciate you "old folks", with age comes wisdom. Thanks again.

[sm=rofl.gif]  I ONLY have half a dozen!!! And nope,. nobuddy ever accused me of being sane!

I agree that there are certain posters that need to work on thier people skills, there is no need to be rude or hurtful to others just because you don't share the same opinion.  I have occasionally wandered over to the nutrition board but I don't go often as I know things can get pretty heated over there.  Personally I am terrible at telling the age of other posters.  Sometimes if its someone fairly young I can tell b/c of the abbreviations they use when they post, but other than that I'm in the dark about anyone's age. 

And for the record... I too really enjoy Glenda's posts and value her opinions! Anyone that can manage 6 GSD has to be doing something right!! []

I am new to the board and find this thread very interesting and so true. We all need to have respect for any person, but I think especially older people. NOT because they may be fragile in any way, but because they have been on this earth longer, have experienced more and are much wiser than the younger ones. I was a rebellious teenager and I was disrespectful to my parents and most people I met. Things have drastically changed over the years and the "funny" thing is that the majority of my friends are older than I am( Iam 39) they are all in their fifties, sixties and the oldest, my co-worker and friend is 73( just love her to pieces). I work at a daycare and I don't get a lot of respect from the kids there. But that is a totally different subject and does not belong here.
After I posted recently I went back to reread it and in the end I wondered if I had offended the person that had started the thread. I replied to a post and explained my own experience with the subject and I felt later on that I may have come across as too strong.
I don't ever want to hurt anyone, but it's so easily done when you sit at the PC. It has happened to me when I posted in a group that I had joined and needed advice. I got attacked and it hurt me so much it stuck with me for days and I just wanted to cry. I left the group and later in the archive on this forum found someone with the same situation and everyone that had replied to this lady was very kind and understanding. That is what made me join this forum.
Well, what I am trying to get at is that when you read someones post/reply you don't really know what kind of "tone" it is in. Is it kind or is it ugly? ..the bad thing is that you can not see the other person's facial expressions when you get a reply. I don't know if someone is trying to explain to me in a kind way if I made a mistake about something or if they are saying it in anger...so if I read it and take it all wrong it can really hurt me. Not to say that some posts aren't just that. Meant to hurt someone which is not kind at all. To intentionally hurt someone it childish behavior in my eyes.
 
 

The particular posters I was referring to, well one might have been too passionate, but the other was just being mean.  She was one that if WE didn't do everything exactly her way, we weren't good doggie parents.  There was a long history of hateful comments from that one.
 
I'm pretty passionate myself, but gosh, if anyone ever says that the way I've phrased something is unkind or ugly, I'm the first to apologize, cuz I don't want to hurt anyone.  I AM a tough old broad, but many aren't and it's not fair to have one person reducing many to tears.

Well said dackelfan.  You don't what people's tone or intent.  Or maybe the person could be one who likes to joke boldly and use crudeness...or some are just outspoken.  Life is just too short to get upset by stuff like that.  Just need to move on and ignore.  We are on here to share ideas and thoughts and not all of us will agree.

Telling someone to "butt out" telling someone that they are of a generation that is resistent to change, telling someone that they don't CARE enough about their dog because they don't feed super premiums that don't WORK for their dog...these are not boldly joking comments. 
They are cruel and hurtful  If folks actually think that this kind of thing is OK, then perhaps it really is time to be less available, cuz that is NOT the type of forum I want to spend MY time on.

Rudeness is Rudeness.  I think you should just block this person's comments if you do not wish to hear them.  Don't let a few bad apples ruin it for us who do appreciate your  thoughts and comments!  WHy let the majority of us lose out on your knowledge because of one or two people who are not diplomatic.  That would be unfair to the majority! On the horse forum you can ticket someone for being rude and/or inapropriate,  maybe this person needs to be reported...I do not know I have not seen what post you are talking about. 

Jaime has taken care of the problem posters, but, for future posters, rudeness and cruelity just flat doesn't cut it here.  And why should I have to screw up my reading cuz one person likes to be mean??

Maybe Jaime needs to send out a rules of conduct letter to all new members.  I really do like hearing your take on things and would hate to have you leave!  I am pretty new here and I am learining as I go!

Again, I"m not going anyplace.  These, by the way, weren't new members.

 Myself, I'm thinking this forum has been really boring and way too well behaved since it changed to the new format. We need some new strong opinions! how else do we learn? Someone post a strong controversial opinion and we'll all try to rebute it without descending into name-calling (which usually means the person is about to cave anyway: if you can't rebute the message, your only recourse is to attack the messenger).

Hmmm...Good discussion and Different view points make life interesting and educational.

I have NO problem with a good debate, and I have NO problem with spirited discussion.  However, some of the stuff we were getting went wayyy beyond that.  Go ahead, one of you guys....start something good!