Im so sad...i dunno what to do

 But I do think she's a great dog trainer. Marriage counselor - maybe not so much.
 
Absolutely.
 
I also don't appreciate being told that my age and hormone levels somehow makes me less able to understand the statements made....or why they were made.

Tinksmom, I can understand some of where you're coming from. TBH, there have been some stressful moments between DH and I in regards to the dogs. No ultimatums, really, but we've certainly had quite the pressure there a few times. I think in some ways, having a dog(s) is similar to kids when they first come along, and there are always growing pains!

At any rate, good for you in crate training. When one of my rescues came to live with me, she - at five years old - was not housebroken. We thought she might be, but bydarn she wasn't. DH wasn't thrilled when we had to deal with that, but we managed. We sat down, and I assured him that it WOULD pass, and I WOULD deal with it appropriately, and as quickly as possible. And I did. At five months old, hopefully your precious gal will get the picture quickly. Granted you may have some other folks training to undo, but around 4-5 months is when a lot of pups start to "get it".

Keep some enzymatic cleaner on hand, such as Nature's Miracle, or Petastic, and be sure to use it on the spots where the dog went. Feed the dog on the same schedule every day (this will help regulate the poops... some - puppies are pooping machines. My pup is fed at 6:15am, 12:30, and then again at 6:00 pm), and try not to limit water (except maybe overnight if you need to). I have a recreational drinker, but he finally grew out of it. If you don't have her under your direct supervision, in the crate she goes. Remember that puppies (and she's still very much a puppy at 5 months) will need to potty after eating, sleeping, and playing.

I hope the tension eases for you quickly - and that things work out nicely. Good luck!

I also don't appreciate being told that my age and hormone levels somehow makes me less able to understand the statements made....or why they were made.

 
Does that mean I have to get much older to get IT?
 
I thought I was doing pretty good, and I am in my 30s.

my dh is not wired for puppies or small children and we had some humdingers for the first few months after adopting Bugsy - I'm sure that dh STILL gets frustrated about having a dog - but he loves him and his much better with him now that Bugsy is older  (got him at about 3-4 mos old and he is somewhere about 15 mos old now.
So you know your husband and now whether the extreme anger will blow over (and yes my husband threatened to get rid of Bugsy but it passed) or not.
In the mean time the crate training is great - we did that and although Bugsy was house-trained nearly instantly he was the devil in fur for months so had to be under constant surveilance or he was into something.  the crate saved us and our house.
You are in my opinion in the toughest age once she is about 1 you will see some major maturation and it will be so much easier and assimilated into your life.

Good luck - I'l;l send some prayers your way

I also don't appreciate being told that my age and hormone levels somehow makes me less able to understand the statements made....or why they were made.

I didn't either, but now know it to be very true, I didn't direct it to anyone specifically. And when I speak of hormones, I don't mean in the PMS way, I am a woman after all. I mean in the physiological way that we need them in which to reproduce.
Do you honestly think that you will feel the same way about all things when you are 50 as you do now, I hope not. That is the great thing about growing up and old, you get to sit back and enjoy the ride, and not sweat the small stuff. I was not and am not trying to insult anyone, I have been there and done that,trust me.
 
 


 

I've read your other posts regarding your dog.  Sounds to me like Hubby is jealous of this dog.  I'd get rid of hubby.  No one would ever tell me I had to get rid of my dog.  Sorry, that is my opinion.

Can this get back on topic...and help Wendy rather than bash whatever you don't agree with?  Bashing is not serving any purpose other than scaring her off.  Be helpful with what you say...

I agree, and if it makes her feel any better I had an interesting conversation with my husband today, it went like this:
 
me: yes spousal unit?
him: umm.......
me: OK, what did you let him do now?
him: he was bothering the cats so I leashed him up to the coffee table, well he went for the cat again........and pulled the Christmas tree down.
me: how did you have him leashed to the coffee table then?? (note the leash on the coffee table is NOT long enough to get under the tree)
him: well I attached each end of the leashes together............
me: and what did we learn from that?
him: never turn your back for a second!
me: please attach the leash to his collar, or move that leash honey......please?
him: yes dear!
 
My husband has NO experience with raising and indoor puppy, thankfully he starts obedience school on Thursday. And yes I mean the hubby. []
 
Dawn

Tinksmom- Gina gave you some very good advice. You replyed you have a crate now. Good deal.
 
Auburn - Shame on you for saying that. Maybe Tinksmoms Hubby just had a bad day (we all do sometime) not a good reason to get rid of him.
 
Tinksmom - Keep Hubby - Have a heart to heart talk with him on how much Tink means to you and Sara. Also spend quality time with Hubby when hes home which you probably already do so being jealous of Tink shouldn`t be a issue to start with. If he doesn`t right now include Hubby in play time with Tink. Hearts can melt real fast doing this.
 
Mollys 5 months old now and she is not 100% yet either.
 
I`m going to say a prayer for you - Hubby - Sara - and Tink that everything works out great.
 

Well, I don't think she wants to show hubby the door.  Maybe a swift kick to the rear...LOL!  Stick to what your doing....get your pup trained and enroll her in obedience training.  Show hubby that you can train this pup to be a great dog and put alot of effort into it.  Teach her tricks and obedience and get her socialized with other dogs and people.  If you put the time in you will be well reward for yout time and effort.

Auburn - Shame on you for saying that. Maybe Tinksmoms Hubby just had a bad day (we all do sometime) not a good reason to get rid of him.

mollymoo - Shame on you for saying shame on Auburn.  She specifically said that it was her personal opinion. 

What makes your opinion more relevant than her opinion?

ORIGINAL: debv53

I agree w/ all of the other posters. And would like to re-iterate please don't deprive the pup of water.
Why is everybody jumping on Anne, I think we all know her perspective on this, if you've ever read any of her posts. I think the younger ladies don't get what Anne is saying because you need to get older to get it. Once the hormones aren't driving your brain, you see things differently. You don't take the same  poop that you did when you were younger. And I think Anne has seen this scenario many more times then any of  us has, in her classes.
Gina "the shoot the dog thing was to bring home the point I think that he wasn't of course going to do that so why not take the time and have a conversation like two adults about the dog situation.
Two weeks is too soon to decide if any new thing in your life is good, bad, or indifferent.
I also think this says a lot about a person's character (hubby), but like everyone else said if this dog wasn't agreed on by all parties before... we reap what we sow. But again the dog suffers sigh

 
I agree 100%.
 
If all else fails and your desperate, you could always play the "no dog = no sex" card.

ORIGINAL: debv53

I agree w/ all of the other posters. And would like to re-iterate please don't deprive the pup of water.
Why is everybody jumping on Anne, I think we all know her perspective on this, if you've ever read any of her posts. I think the younger ladies don't get what Anne is saying because you need to get older to get it. Once the hormones aren't driving your brain, you see things differently. You don't take the same  poop that you did when you were younger. And I think Anne has seen this scenario many more times then any of  us has, in her classes.
Gina "the shoot the dog thing was to bring home the point I think that he wasn't of course going to do that so why not take the time and have a conversation like two adults about the dog situation.
Two weeks is too soon to decide if any new thing in your life is good, bad, or indifferent.
I also think this says a lot about a person's character (hubby), but like everyone else said if this dog wasn't agreed on by all parties before... we reap what we sow. But again the dog suffers sigh

Exactly my point - the dog suffers.  And that, despite how I come off sounding, is always my first priority.  I hate to see another dog die.  You can sugar coat it all you want, but unless someone rehomes their dog themselves, and to someone who will put in the time to housetrain it, going to some Texas open admission shelters is a virtual death sentence for an owner surrender.  to understand how important it is to fight for her dog, our OP needs to know that information, no matter how hard it is to hear. 
I feel for the OP, because I know this is heartbreaking for her - she loves her dog.  I also know that it is emotional abuse to attack someone by threatening their dog, the same as it would be if you threatened their child, and it's inexcusable.  Even if she thinks I'm a jerk, which is entirely possible, my hope would be that she might think about her situation, and assess how she wants to live her life.  JMO

Well, to use the same type of drama (not unreal, but still drama), imagine her and her small child sitting in some place with Tink and her explaining to her daughter she dumped her husband, the child's dad, because he got ticked about the dog pooping in the house and said she had to get rid of it, so, she told him to take a hike. 

I love dogs (and other animals) as much as most folks here, but I think when you make implications that someone's marriage isn't what they deserve/want/need and insinuate they tell the SOB to hit the road, you better think about ALL the consequences.  We all have the ability to provide productive suggestions and insinuating that a) someone has no backbone or b) they made a huge mistake in the selection for a partner, isn't helpful in any way at all.  That kind of advice, framed in a much kinder way, should come from a best friend or family, if at all.

ETA - Sorry - I can't quite explain it but these threads upset me more than most.  Maybe it's because I think as highly about marriage and family as I do about caring for our fur friends. 

Honestly, If he is willing to hurt you like this, by taking away a living creature that you love so dearly, that needs you so dearly, then he sounds abusive.

If my husband ever, which he would never, threaten to get rid of one of my fur babies, I'd throw his beloved computer out of the window of my moving car.