A disturbing trend.....

I can understand getting pissed off at someone to the point where you might pm them to tell them to go eff themselves

I agree.

If i have issues with someone i usually pm them and sort it out that way.I dont see the point of arguing personal issues on a public forum [8|]

No,not e-mails,but PM's

Yep i sent you a pm because i took issue with a few things you said to ME,the issues you have with other members are none of my concern.I would have thought you'de prefer that then arguing it out on the boards,no? I thought we had sorted it out,but obviously not if you're rehashing it here,as it seems you would rather bring "attention" to it on the boards??

Edie--I really could care less, but don't come across like something your not.  And, if you had such a problem with me then why do I see you posting to every thread I start or am involved in??  Your extremely passive aggressive and always say things, like I'm going to play devils advocate here or I'm not trying to have a dig at. . .but you do.  I did nothing "to" you.  If you disagree with me, oh, well.  I didn't deserve a nasty PM over it. 

And, if you had such a problem with me then why do I see you posting to every thread I start or am involved in??

As to the every thread you start comment...Firstly i do not hold on to grudges for dear life,i had an issue with you on the pattern i was starting to see in regards to me so i pm'd you about it,(and you know as well as i there was nothing nasty in my pm),i then moved on,half the time i dont even look at the names of posters.If someone posts a question i can help with or have an answer to,i will reply,no matter who it is.

As for the "every thread you're involved in" comment,thats a bit of a high horse attitude and completely untrue [8|].

If you have any other problems,please feel free to pm me as i will not discuss these trivial matters any further on the boards,It's embarrasing!

Yeah, it must be easy to say it's "trivial" when your not the one getting the nasty messages. 

As for the "every thread you're involved in" comment,thats a bit of a high horse attitude and completely untrue [8|].

It's not untrue at ALL.  You find ways to indirectly make comments that would start an arguement or upset people.  Then say you didn't mean to or weren't doing it.   And, if you've forgotten just go to my profile and look at any nutrition thread I've been on, including the one I started today. 

I tend to use PMs in a few situations.

1. Dropping a note to someone that's vaguely on topic but not really everyone's business (ie, asking someone involved in one of my breeds if they knew someone else)
2. Delivering polite smackdown (although I'm usually very polite), particularly to newbies- because I really don't believe in public humiliation unless you've REALLY made me mad [])- but still, I'll generally PM someone with 'okay, you want to breed, here's your next show in your area, here's a link to the breed club, see you in the ring and let me know when you get your health testing results back!" rather than "OMG NEUTER UR DOG U SUXXOR.")
   
3. Handing out an unpopular opinion - ie "I think you should euthanize your dog rather than continuing to try and work with it because you've not been able to contain him in the past and he's bitten three more pepole while you are 'working' with him."

But... I'm a pretty tactful and generally non-confrontational person, and I tend to be pretty detached from arguments. PMs are NOT for personal attacks.

It's interesting how Edie's posts are all deleted from my thread, but she wasn't doing anything. . .so why delete them?? 

ORIGINAL: willowchow

It's interesting how Edie's posts are all deleted from my thread, but she wasn't doing anything. . .so why delete them?? 

Probably because of how you're acting now.  You want to draw attention to it and get crap started.  Isn't that what you accused her of doing?  I think so.

Never mind, there's always someone to defend someone doing the wrong thing.
 

  You want to draw attention to it

 
Yeah, because I'd like it to stop not because I want to "stir" up anything.  I've been posting for years here and have never had a problem. 

Being a tough old broad has some distinct advantages

 
True. I've been a tough old broad, myself, for some time now.
 

I have sent people PM's and emails, defending myself. I choose to do it through PM so that I do not waste time and space on the board, and i do not want to get others involved. People here tend to have some followers, and once you tick one of them off, the group will then come after you. I have seen it here from day one. I would never say something so bad as to what Glenda was told, but I will tell you off, if you're being an @$$ to me.  Does that make me a bad person? I think not. If you have the b@!!$ to say something nasty to me, I will call you on it and you will get it right back.

Glenda, I too am shocked that people would act like that. I remember you saying before you had to turn your email option off due to some ridiculous people. Hopefully Jamie will just ban them so things can get back to normal.

I am also shocked at this thread in general. I agree I only just scanned it but come on people, let's be mature! There are things that I disagree with folks on, I read their side of the issue, I write mine and we agree to disagree. No big deal. If you know in your heart what you are doing is right there is no need to argue about it and especially no need to call other people names and send them nasty emails/PMs. Because I can tell you that Jamie is a very nice person but she isnt going to put up with that kind of crap. It is ridiculous and immature. We are all (or mostly) adults and the people who behave the worst sad to say seem to be adults.

I believe that having an argument on PM or email is just fine as long as the two parties can be civilized and end it when it starts to get ugly or as I said agree to disagree. I see this thread has already started to "turn".

We should all be respectful of each other and if you cant be, well you can either willingly leave or Jamie will help you with that. Different people have different ideas of how things should be done. No need to call people names or degrade them. I have also been trying to control myself around uneducated people (such as people who say I want to breed my dog because it is cute & I want puppies), because I realize all they need is to be educated, some truly change, some still breed but either way at least I was civil about it and didnt run the person off. People listen a lot better if you are civil and kind and explain things to them rationally.

I believe highly in the 5 minute rule (or whatever amount of time it is) where when you are ready to post an ugly post (or email or PM) to sit back and think about it for 5 or 10 minutes, go and pat your dog, then see if you still think you should send it.

Again we are all adults and should behave like them. It makes me very upset that people are sending such rude PMs especially to someone like Glenda who is very knowlegable and has always been helpful and kind to me, even though we have had our differences. It is hard to realize exactly what someone's life is like through the computer, it is hard to convey sarcasm.. We arent all going to agree on everything & we need to realize that and get over it.

-Anne

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. After I received the e-mail accusing me of killing my beloved Rose with my own stupidity, and how dare I waste the board's time with anything I had to say about dog health and care, I stopped posting anything concerning dog health, dog food, dog training, dog care in general, and anything else other than photos and show stories. It's one thing to call someone a bitch (like that's a bad thing - I call Amber that all the time [sm=lol.gif]) but to go straight to the heart, whether it be family or pets, in such a cowardly and heartless way, well, to hell with that. I have better things to do with my time. The board has attracted a LOT of people, and unfortunately, quite a few malicious and undersireables, which is why I very rarely post here anymore. Only a handful of people here ever respond to anything I have to say anyway, and I can be ignored at home just as well. I don't need to be online for that.
 
Sorry you had to experience that Glenda.

This thread is closed.
For those DIRECTLY involed...all three of you, you will be recieving an e-mail from me.