Rehoming....

I just read this thread and your previous posts about this puppy and I just have to say that the whole thing is just sad.  I hope someone who is thinking of buying a puppy sight unseen learns a good lesson.  I don't know, maybe this breeder is reputable and just didn't match you up with a good puppy but I think it's more than likely that you bought either from a uppy miller or byb.  And I think that by you not wanting to notify the breeder that you don't want this puppy and by you not wanting another puppy from this person, you have realized this too.
 
I'll bet you'd have to pay the shipping if you sent this puppy back, wouldn't you? 
 
I hope you're very responsible in finding this poor puppy a new home.

As much as people here hate to hear the the puppy isn't working, it happens.  I work for a breeder, and we have that problem sometimes.  We try our hardest to make sure the puppy fits in at the home it goes to.  We are very clear about each puppy's personality and try to find a home that fits.  However, sometimes it doesn't work.  If that is the case, we take the puppy back and try to figure out what caused the problems.  Most of the time, the owners are willing to work out those problems and find a puppy that will be different from the last, but in some cases, we will refund the money.  Sometimes, we can tell that none of our dogs will be a good fit for that person.  I would talk to the breeder about it.  If she is truely a good breeder, she will want to know why its not working and try to work with you.  A good breeder cares more about the dog than the money.

I've stayed out of all the threads about this, however, I am deeply disappointed that you are not giving this little guy a chance.  At 10 weeks, his personality is NOT set in granite.

I think you're looking for validation rather than advice.  That may be why you took off your original post.  I can't understand why he wouldn't be returned to a home that already loves him.

At 10 weeks, couldn't the puppy become acclimated to your lifestyle and fit right in? Dogs fit in generally well, he just needs a chance.

A lot of people sort of panic when they get a new puppy and think that it's way more than they can handle.  I raise puppies for other people and I feel that way for the first 2 weeks - and I'm getting paid for it.  Could that be it?
 
ETA: you took down your original post so I'm guessing that most people who are responding now are only able to figure out what the post was about from the first few responses.  I didn't see the original post before the OP deleted it.

I can speak from experience on this one. Boy can I.

I have a dog that was not at all what I expected - not at all what I wanted (at the time). I obtained Bree and she was ever so much more than I ever bargained for, and for the first few months, not in a good way. My first dog, Ginger, was just a good dog right out of the box. I thought - hey, I'm ready for a puppy. Little did I know that this little puppy was going to be a wee demon... like nothing I'd had experience with before. She was wild, willful, bitey, vocal, infinitely busy, and a terror on wheels. I seem to recall it was around day 2 or 3 that I thought, "I don't think I'm going to make it".

But, I made a committment to her the day I took her home, and even though I didn't feel like she was "right for me" I felt committed to doing right by her. It wasn't a warm fuzzy kind of love, and it wasn't an easy love - like with Ginger. But it was a committment kind of love. Surprisingly enough, today (almost 3 years later) she is right for me. Well, at least most of the time I no longer want to kill her, anyway.

Once I relaxed, and came to the conclusion that she was different from Ginger, and that I was going to have to evolve and learn and grow (and become VERY creative and active) we started to connect with each other. Once I realized that my relationship with her was going to be vastly different from that I had with Ginger, life got just a little easier.

It was a little more than I bargained for. Yeah. Some days it even blew big time. But we made it, and surprisingly enough we're both better for it.

Part of what I'm trying to say is that sometimes we make decisions that don't work out the way we expected. Sometimes we (if we have more than one or two) are going to have a dog in our home that isn't "the right one" for that moment. Please, give him just a little longer. Two days is a very short time - and I think you're tougher than that. You may just have some evolving to do - because I think you can handle him. You might just wind up with the best dog you've ever had.

All of that being said, if you don't think you can handle him, what about fostering him for a few weeks - long enough to give him time to be ready to ship back to the breeder (for a refund)?

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ORIGINAL: glenmar

I've stayed out of all the threads about this, however, I am deeply disappointed that you are not giving this little guy a chance.  At 10 weeks, his personality is NOT set in granite.

 
Yes, but dogs have distinct personalities just like people. And isn't that the point of temperament tests done on SEVEN week old puppies? Even at that young age you can tell which ones will be dominant, submissive, in between, etc. And if we could just mold a dog into whatever we wanted, then different breeds wouldn't have predictable personalities.

ORIGINAL: Tashmoo5454

I think you're looking for validation rather than advice.  That may be why you took off your original post.  I can't understand why he wouldn't be returned to a home that already loves him.

 
I took down my original post because all of the judgement isn't helping anything. I started this thread to share what's been going on with people who know the situation.

ORIGINAL: dogslyfe

I can speak from experience on this one. Boy can I.

I have a dog that was not at all what I expected - not at all what I wanted (at the time). I obtained Bree and she was ever so much more than I ever bargained for, and for the first few months, not in a good way. My first dog, Ginger, was just a good dog right out of the box. I thought - hey, I'm ready for a puppy. Little did I know that this little puppy was going to be a wee demon... like nothing I'd had experience with before. She was wild, willful, bitey, vocal, infinitely busy, and a terror on wheels. I seem to recall it was around day 2 or 3 that I thought, "I don't think I'm going to make it".

But, I made a committment to her the day I took her home, and even though I didn't feel like she was "right for me" I felt committed to doing right by her. It wasn't a warm fuzzy kind of love, and it wasn't an easy love - like with Ginger. But it was a committment kind of love. Surprisingly enough, today (almost 3 years later) she is right for me. Well, at least most of the time I no longer want to kill her, anyway.

Once I relaxed, and came to the conclusion that she was different from Ginger, and that I was going to have to evolve and learn and grow (and become VERY creative and active) we started to connect with each other. Once I realized that my relationship with her was going to be vastly different from that I had with Ginger, life got just a little easier.

It was a little more than I bargained for. Yeah. Some days it even blew big time. But we made it, and surprisingly enough we're both better for it.

Part of what I'm trying to say is that sometimes we make decisions that don't work out the way we expected. Sometimes we (if we have more than one or two) are going to have a dog in our home that isn't "the right one" for that moment. Please, give him just a little longer. Two days is a very short time - and I think you're tougher than that. You may just have some evolving to do - because I think you can handle him. You might just wind up with the best dog you've ever had.

All of that being said, if you don't think you can handle him, what about fostering him for a few weeks - long enough to give him time to be ready to ship back to the breeder (for a refund)?

 
THANK YOU for one of the few non judgemental and actually HELPFUL posts.

I'm sorry!! I completely misread your first post! She was their favorite, but when I e-mailed her about the issues, her tune had changed a little. It wasn't that she WOULDN'T take him back, but I could tell she didn't want to. From the things she was saying originally, I would have thought she'd be overjoyed at the chance to get him back... not the case.

 
You know, it's a sad thing when the breeder's mind changes after you let them know the 'issues'.  I think if she really cared, she'd be begging you to let her have Cinnabun back.  I'm so sorry you're receiving judgement instead of support... I think most really mean well but are thinking only of Cinnabun and what will happen to him.  I think you should do what YOU think is best.  Rehoming isn't a bad thing. 
 

I think you're looking for validation rather than advice.  That may be why you took off your original post.  I can't understand why he wouldn't be returned to a home that already loves him.

 
I think she's looking for both validation and advice.  There's nothing wrong with looking for validation... for support of what's best for Cinnabun and for Gingerbread. 

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