Men and Women ARE NOT EQUAL

Excellent question, Tina.  Billy?  Would your attitude be any different if it was your 13 yr. old daughter having sex with a male teacher instead of your 13 year old son?  If so, why?

Joyce

ORIGINAL: fuzzy_dogs_mom

Excellent question, Tina.  Billy?  Would your attitude be any different if it was your 13 yr. old daughter having sex with a male teacher instead of your 13 year old son?  If so, why?

Joyce

 
I think it is an excellent question and yes, I think my attitude would be different.
 
Let me qualify myself by saying I have 3 sons and no daughters.
 
It is quite possible that, had something like this happened to one of my boys, I would have THOUGHT "attaboy," but I doubt I would have said it outloud.  If I had a 13 year old daughter who had sex with her 29 year old teacher, I would probably be typing this from a prison somewhere.
 
Boys and girls are just different.  For example, I can imagine that the 13 year old boy, in this case, is probably bragging of his "conquest" to all his friends.  I can't imagine a 13 year old girl doing the same, no matter how "consensual" the sex was. 
 
With boys, sex is more about "getting off."  They don't need to form any kind of emotional connection for the experience to be good for them.  Most boys would have absolutely no regrets about being in a situation like the one in the article.  I don't think that would be the case with a girl. 
 
I don't think a 13 year old child, no matter what gender, has the emotional maturity to be sexually active.  It is just with boys, it really doesn't matter.

I don't have daughters either, Billy.  And who knows?  You might be right. But I'm not all that certain that with boys *it doesn't matter.* Thirteen year olds are 13 yr. olds - not very mature emotionally or physically - and I think it's quite possible that boys could be just as scarred by that experience as girls. They may react differently or *act out* in different ways. Or have weird attitudes about sex when they reach adulthood. I wish we had some shrinks on the forum. Maybe if someone had a close friend or family member that had to deal with this they'll share the experience and outcome with us.

Joyce

Hmmm, would you give your son the "attaboy" if he got the teacher pregnant?  Now he would be a 13 year old dad.  It is wrong for ANY adult to prey upon a child.  We send are children to school to learn and be in a safe situation and be under a teacher's supervision.  Then teacher crosses the line.  Its Wrong whether it be man/girl or woman/boy....It's more sad that women are the ones getting away with it.  She did it because she had an abusive husband come on she is an adult...she ought to act like one...and know that it is wrong to have sex with a child.  If your a man who thinks its ok and not harmful to the boy down the road you have issues.  Fantasies are one thing but reality can be a nightmare.  Sex effects children differently then adults and could give the boy longterm issues sexually.  This is an issue that gets me fired up.... any adult having sex with a child is WRONG!

>>We send are children to school to learn <<
 
Well, maybe she was teaching him...  []
 
>>you have issues.<<
 
Now THAT is absolutely indisputable.
 

So teaching a child how to have sex is now a state/government requirement.  Better Check that probe.  Sorry but they don't have regent or state test on how to perform sex.  Maybe that is your wishful thinking.  Did you miss out?  Do you wish your teacher had taught you that way?  So its ok for a teacher, priest/reverend, cop, or any adult to teach your son how to have sex?  Keep the fantasies as fantasies.  The Law says its wrong...and the law needs to be harsh on both men and women who break the law.

>>and the law needs to be harsh <<
 
And I need to be taller.

LOL, didn't eat your Wheaties growing up and your vegetables?  Your a trip Probe.[]

Grammatical errors aside, I appreciate the kind words.  []

[8D]Well, I didn't realize I was going to be graded on my grammar.  Sorry its been some years since I have been in school.  Anyways,  this forum is for discussion and not grammar and spelling practice.  Next time state that you will be grading me on these if that is what you like to do. [8D]

I was alone for every single sexual experience I had at 13

 
And you still are.
 
I'm sorry, I couldn't resist. That line begged a response and I was powerless to stop myself. You may slam me as you may deem necessary.
 

Intersting.  I just asked DH what he would think if a 25 yr old male teacher had sex with our 13 yr old daughter--he said he'd be pretty upset.
 
I then asked him what he would think if a 25 yr old female teacher had sex with our 13 yr old son.  He said he'd be pretty impressed.

That's it exactly, Christina.  Men and their attitude toward this force a double standard that shouldn't be there.

Joyce

Yes, Men think its great for a 13 year old boy to score.  Men's fantasies of having sex with their teachers when they were boys.  Heck, any sex for a man is another notch in their belt. 

ORIGINAL: ron2


You may slam me as you may deem necessary.

 
Not at all.  I can take a joke, even one at my expense.  []