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I'm Fed Up With CLOSET SMOKERS!!!

Posted : 7/19/2007 12:32:01 PM

I'm not proud of it but YES! I AM A SMOKER! I would never smoke around non-smokers or in anyway impose my disgusting habit on others, but dawg-gone-it I've been smoking for a long time and I just enjoy it tooo much quit. People know I smoke and I have never denied it.

What I really hate is all the closet smokers I know. My 3 best friends and my DH. They all do the same thing. They light up their cigs and if someone happens along they hand it to me or lay in the the ashtry and push it in frint of where I am sitting. I've been at parties where I suddenly find myself with a cig in my hand and 3 or 4 burning in the ashtray. Not only that - but do they ever buy their own? NO! My best friend pops in every afternoon for her nicotine fix. She stays for an hour or so and works her way through about 1/2 dozen of my cigarettes. Of course I'm not allowed to have one myself just incase one of my (adult) children comes in. What really burned my butt is this past weekend we went to our friends cottage for our annual couples (x4) get together. Now we have been friends for decades and everyone knows that my same friend is a closet smoker, so she would be free to smoke
without being 'caught'. The cottage is miles from nowhere so I took a couple of packs for the weekend. My friend shows up with non and preceeded to help herself to my stash. I ended up having the ration myself.
I'm sorry, but I just don't get it! We are all well over 50, our kids are grown and yet they continue to sneak around like grade schoolers, dragging me out behind buildings so they can have a puff or two. It's sooo pathetic.
Does anyone else have to deal with these big FAKES? - Or maybe you're one yourself!

This frustrates me so much I have to have a cigarette now to calm down! LOL!

DumDog

Posted : 7/19/2007 12:38:04 PM

i'm not a smoker. never have smoked, and i only threaten my husband to start smoking when he does something stupid like leave the butts in his pocket when i'm doing laundry... they STINK! and touching them makes me stink, and when he thinks i'm notlooking he'll drop the butt on the ground... or to piss me off he'll do it front of me... when results in wrestling match trying to take the pack away from him so i can stomp on them.

but to be honest... and no offense to anyone... smokers are more fun to be around. when i was working full time i would eat lunch and take breaks outside because the smokers talked about naughty things like .... sex.... and told dirty jokes... all the old women and stuck ups were inside talking about cooking, their kids, and the stupid things their inlaws did....

by the way.. i USED to know some of the tricks for trainig people to stop asking you to borrow. i think it was someone in here that gave away rank stank month old stale ciggies that had been left under the seat in the car.... ewwww!!

the1irishgirl

Posted : 7/19/2007 12:50:59 PM

That's pretty annoying. If they're going to steal yours all the time, they should at least pony up and buy you a pack every now and then. Or, better yet, buy their own and have you hide them in your purse, or whatever. Or, even better again, just be honest with everyone - and themselves - and be grown ups and admit they smoke. Maybe, if they're so ashamed, they should consider quitting.

DumDog

Posted : 7/19/2007 12:55:26 PM

my brother once dated a girl who was the ..ermm.. "Water Melon Queen" ... which a local Miss America type thing in that town.
the Water Melon queen had to set examples.... so when she wanted a smoke she had to get her friend to drive her out of town to do it....[8|]

Liesje

Posted : 7/19/2007 1:13:31 PM

Personally I don't like closet-anythings, smokers or otherwise. I don't smoke (personal choice, grandpa had 4 heart attacks, dad has had tumors removed and is just 50 years old), but I have friends who smoke socially and I really don't care. They don't smoke when we are out (b/c we have other mutual friends that don't smoke), and they know that they may NOT smoke at my place. They aren't going to blow smoke in my face and I'm not going to ridicule them b/c I don't really care. I don't know why anyone would try to be a closet smoker. Take it from a non-smoker, if you've smoked within your past 2 showers and clothing changes, people can tell. [

] The closet smokers annoyed me in high school and college b/c the ones I knew were trying to be sneaky as if to seem more bad@$$ or something, like secretly they felt really cool that they had to sneak around, even though in reality no one cared whether or not they were open about smoking.

mrstjohnson

Posted : 7/19/2007 1:41:28 PM

I know what you mean. I smoked up until I got pregnant and it used to drive me crazy when all of my non-smoking friends would bum my smokes when we were at the bar. They would claim, "oh, I normally never smoke, just when I am drinking". If you are going to smoke then buy your own. They aren't cheap you know!

DPU

Posted : 7/19/2007 1:41:48 PM

ORIGINAL: DumDog

but to be honest... and no offense to anyone... smokers are more fun to be around.

Wow, look how we have been treated in the workplace. First, we were able to smoke at our desk. Then put in a special room with separate air ventilation. Then it was only outside. And finally, now you have to stay 15 feet away from the entrance. The law keeps herding us closer and closer together. But you know the result is a huge social event where you get to meet people,catch up, chat, joke, gossip, and shoot the breeze.

Anonymous

Posted : 7/19/2007 1:47:51 PM

ORIGINAL: mrstjohnson
would claim, "oh, I normally never smoke, just when I am drinking".

I CAN NOT STAND THAT! I don't smoke not do I care much if others do, but it used to drive me NUTS when I was out with my non-smoking friends and we would go out and they'd have a few cigarettes because they were drinking. Give me a break.

rwbeagles

Posted : 7/19/2007 1:59:45 PM

Don't worry DPU I'm starting a movement where non smokers can legally leave their desks and work, for minutes and even up to 30mins at a time to stand outside and space out or eat chocolate or something, plus get potty breaks on top of that and the other normal breaks...things will even out, LOL...

BTW...the above is a joke. No one in my household or immediate family smokes....but things like banning it in bars and restaurants seems a bit much, to me.

gradyupmybutt

Posted : 7/19/2007 2:00:13 PM

Denise, all I can say is AMEN! I smoke as well. I've tried to quit but have failed a few times. When I go to parties where I know that certain people are going to be there I take extra smokes. Not so much because I want everyone to have my smokes but because it peeves me off to no end that I don't have enough of my own coffin nails for ME. Forget about leaving them sitting on a table, you'll never have any. I'm very tempted to buy a pack of the cheapest, nastiness smokes around to have for the people "who don't smoke". If you don't smoke & you're going to a party where you know you might want to smoke, buy your own darned smokes. Don't get me wrong, I'll give you the shirt off my back but there comes a point where people take advantage of that fact.

Anonymous

Posted : 7/19/2007 2:10:16 PM

ORIGINAL: rwbeagles

but things like banning it in bars and restaurants seems a bit much, to me.

Well, it IS a health hazzard...which is why it is often banned in restaurants and bars now. Why subject others to it? I don't see why this is a problem.

rwbeagles

Posted : 7/19/2007 2:15:42 PM

So is driving....lol. Under the right circumstance. But that's another topic...

DPU

Posted : 7/19/2007 2:18:58 PM

ORIGINAL: rwbeagles

Don't worry DPU I'm starting a movement where non smokers can legally leave their desks and work, for minutes and even up to 30mins at a time to stand outside and space out or eat chocolate or something, plus get potty breaks on top of that and the other normal breaks...things will even out, LOL...

BTW...the above is a joke.

Then for sure us government employees are going to have to hire private companies to do our work. [

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I actually go with the flow with regards to the rules and consideration of others when it comes to smoking.

rwbeagles

Posted : 7/19/2007 2:19:27 PM

If I were you folks with the ciggy bums I might take to carrying a jelly jar about with me....on it I'd place 'Cigarrette Replacement Fund' and ask that they donate any loose change upon their person before they received their ciggy...lol. I bet they'd stop asking pretty quick!

mollymoo

Posted : 7/19/2007 2:53:41 PM

I too have the nasty habit of smoking. Cigarettes went up another dollar in my state so I now make my own. Bought a injector, tubes, tobacco. I find that I don`t smoke as much as I have to make each one.

When I`m at auction sales and people see that you have cigarettes they use to come over and ask if they could bum a cigarette from you. Now that cigarettes have gone up in price they ask if they can buy a cigarette from you. Its usually 25 cents that they offer you.