What's your age limit...

DH is a month and a half younger then me.  I'm such a craddle robber.......[]

I'm such a craddle robber.......

 
Me too, DH is about 6 months younger than I am []

ORIGINAL: Xeph
Fifty is my cut off age right now (shame on me, at 21 years old)...I think I have a daddy complex...eesh

I gotta comment on this, Jackie.  Frankly, it kind of grosses me out a little. 

You see, I am 50 and I have a SD who is 22.  I just can't imagine having a romantic interest in anyone that age nor can I imagine anyone that age having a romantic interest in me.  When looking at a potential relationship like this, no aspect of it appeals to me.  What would I, for example, POSSIBLY have in common with someone that age?  What would we talk about?  Even sexually I can't imagine someone that young would have enough experience to be any good.  Trust me when I say, women do get better with age.  []

If you were to get into a relationship like that, when you are my age, you would be married to someone who is 80????  Is something about that good, in your mind?  Some age difference is insignificant, in my mind, but 30 years????

Please, expand on your thought a little here, if you don't mind.
 
ETA:  I am willing to try the sex thing because I may be wrong about that.  []

very good points billy. dh and i were just discussing this last night because of this thread. he isnt quite as old as you (43) but we were discussing how it would be very different if you were just having sex once or twice or if you were to be involved in a relatuonship.

he was very clear that he could somehow manage to bring himself to have a sexual encounter with a women in her early 20s but could never have a relationship with a woman that wasnt probably atleast 30.

he cited the same reasons you did... not enough common ground... not enough to even enjoy communication together.

I gotta comment on this, Jackie.  Frankly, it kind of grosses me out a little.

Nothin wrong with that Billy.  That's the way I feel about dating younger men...even just 4 months younger than me.  I get weirded out by it.  I feel almost dirty about it/
 

What would I, for example, POSSIBLY have in common with someone that age?  What would we talk about

 
You would be surprised.
The first man I was ever with in any and every capacity was 39...I was 19.  People tend to freak out at that, but I wanted to be with somebody I was comfortable with and felt I could trust.  He knew what he was doing, and I didn't, and I didn't want to be with somebody that'd be fumbling around like a twit.
 
Gotta be honest...it was good.
 
And it wasn't just sex.  We would talk for hours and hours and hours about things that interested us, or things about the other that intrigued us (My fascination with dogs or his fascination with certain movies).  Of course we'd make references neither of us would understand because of the age gap, but it dinna matter to us.  We clicked.
 

Even sexually I can't imagine someone that young would have enough experience to be any good.  Trust me when I say, women do get better with age.  []

The lifestyle I want and am interested in requires a fair bit of knowledge to keep it safe.  I'm not the kind of girl that can go out, have at it, and be ok about it the next day.  I need to be involved with somebody.  If that somebody happens to be 30 years older than me, I can deal with that, and I certainly have no problem being engaged in a relationship with them, as long as I find them attractive (and I always do).
 
I don't just mean physically attractive either.  I mean emotionally and intellectually appealing as well.
 
For now, it is not only a desire, but a practical necessity to be with somebody older, to teach me what I want and need to know.

If you were to get into a relationship like that, when you are my age, you would be married to someone who is 80????  Is something about that good, in your mind?  Some age difference is insignificant, in my mind, but 30 years????

The chances of me actually marrying somebody 30 years older than me honestly isn't all that great.  The chances of me marrying somebody 10-15 years older is pretty significant.

Would the relationship with an older man be long term?  Aye, but marriage?  Mmm, probably not.  You never know though.

Well, Xeph, you know how erm... exciting my sex life is.  How did I describe it the other day?  Oh yes- evolutionary dead end.
 
Anyways, the youngest guy I've dated is two years my junior.  Didn't feel weird about it at all.  We just had fun.  Then again, I'm not much for committed relationships simply because they're not really my thing.  Something unappealing about it to me lol.

How did I describe it the other day?  Oh yes- evolutionary dead end.

 
And it still makes me laugh hysterically Laur!

My BF is thirteen years younger than I am, and we've been together for fourteen years come June. []  Age is just a number unless you are trying to make babies LOL.

hmm, i guess it depends on the maturity level. I'd like to think that i wouldn't date a guy younger than me, but who knows. I've always dated older guys...but i seriously doubt i'd date anyone over say, 28.

I think you have to be an odd sort to really make a ..what do they call it.. May-December relationship work.
and i am that odd sort. i REALLY love history. always felt i was born in the wrong decade for several reasons.. toys were cooler back in the 60's and 70's, they werent smarter than the person trying to use it. and if the power went out, you could still play games. the music was better because it was um.. original? today its like warmed over meat loaf... stale and tasteless. that includes the movies.. i mean they REMADE Freak Friday and Parent Trap!? WHY?! it was bad enough the first time around, wasnt it? The cars back then were also cooler. i dont care if they are smaller and more aerodynamic or what ever... i hope we can come up with a way,very soon, to convert my '73 Ranchero into a corn burning hot rod cause if they dont, then i'll just ride my bike. i refuse to ride around in something that looks like the caboose off a train.
And then the major reason.... My grandmother had some really awesome bulldogs back in the 80's, when i was a toddler. the blood died because no one took an interest and she got too old. If i had been in my 20's during 1982 i would be an established AB breeder with my own bloodline right up there with Scott and Johnson, but no.... too late!

anyway, like i said, i'm a weirdo. my husband and i argue about all kinds of stuff from his generation and more often then not he tells me i know more about it than he does, and he grew up during that time. the radio DJ's for our local rock station know us well.... they have settled all kinds of disputes when we argue about "Was that Wings, or the Razzberries?"
One thing that depresses me a wee bit is i often times wish i HAD been born back in the mid 60's so i could have met my husband BEFORE he had his life wrecked in so many ways by selfish women. that is where we have most of our issues. he has been shell shocked to the point that he doesnt know if i'm going to turn on him eventually like they did or not. he's kinda morbid at times because of what he has been put through, but all that aside, we're pretty normal. but.... thats only because i'm weird lol he has met both of my sisters and he cant stand them. they're average 20 yr old girls and they focus only on average 20 yr old things. if he had met one of them instead of me... yeah it would have been a weekend fling and a dont-let-the-door-hit-you-in-the-rear ending.

I was married to someone who was 18 years older than me.  It didn't work more because of his alcoholism than his age.  I have always been "old", partly because of my mom dying when I was 13.  I had a lot of responsibility.  Also, I was adopted and my parents were much older, so we were raised the old-fashioned way. 
 
Anyway, I thought as I got older, my ex's age would be less of a disadvantage, but it was more of one.  His other children were close to my age and he treated me like he did them.  I did not see that at first.  Everything always had to be "his way".  For example, whenever we went somewhere, the car radio was set to oldies, or worse, tapes of old radio shows (like Lux dinner theater).  I was never allowed to put music on that I liked. 
 
The sexual aspect was alright for a while - I wasn't terribly experienced, but was a quick study.  Because he didn't respect me in other aspects of our life, it soon bled over into the sex and I grew to dislike it immensely.
 
Since my divorce I dated a guy who was six years younger - too immature.  He was just graduating from college and I swear if I'd heard "my textbook says this" again I was going to scream.
 
I had a couple of booty-call guys, one a year younger, one 5 years older, that were a lot of fun, but not permanent relationship material.
 
Then the next boyfriend was 11 years older.  Nothing memorable there except he loved to tell everyone about stuff we did in the bedroom.  Not that he was worth bragging about at all.  Another non-listening alcoholic type. 
 
My current boyfriend and I have dated for 5 years.  He is 3 years older than I am and we worked together for about 3 years, so we were already friends.  Then I didn't see him for a while after I left that job, but ran into him again and we've dated ever since.  I like the fact that we're close in age and interests and are compatible in other areas.  It's a good give-and-take relationship.
 
Frankly, when I look at guys who are 20 - and I live in a college town - I see dorky, inexperienced, immature brats.  I just turned 40, have a son who is 18, and his friends are just not my cup of tea. 
 
If a relationship is built on respect and consideration, then age really doesn't matter.  My difficulties have not been age as much as personality type (addictive for my co-dependent side to take care of).  It's no wonder I do better with dogs.

 my hubby and i met at a pub through someone who knew him. she had apparently told him about me and he just scoffed at the age (again ..thought i was jail bait) anyway, these friends had been married for years and have a 20 yr gap so of course they werent biased in the slightest.... these people are also what is commonly called "High way 20 rednecks" in our area, they all hang out at the flea market on weekends. this one particular day while i was talking to one of our friends someone took my husband aside and congratulated him and then said "One thing never to do... dont EVER say 'you wouldnt know, you're too young'" of course my husband told me about that later and we had a good laugh over it. i tease him all the time about it and turn the saying around on him. its jabbing at the age difference and the fact that he has a patchy memory. he and i can experience the same thing and both come away with totally different versions of it.

He also has a daughter that is my age. we were born the same year. that was kinda weird... the first day. but we dont even notice THAT anymore either. before we even got together he asked his daughter what she thought of the whole thing. her take on it was she would RATHER he marry someone younger because he still had dreams of getting married, having kids and starting over again with a family. He couldnt do that if he married some woman in her thirties or closer to his age (43 at the time) most women are over and done with babies at that point. infact his last wife got mad at him because he wouldnt get a vasectomy!! she had her one baby to love and spoil and that was all she wanted. his refusal eventually lead to their divorce with other problems factoring in as well..
When he and i first got together it was as room mates, then friends. i knew right up front that he still wanted kids and a family. if i had been like some other 20 yr olds - didnt want kids, just party party party - things wouldnt have lasted long at all.

the biggest kicker of all is when we announced to the world our undying love and devotion for each other(we snuck around together a LOT for a while) his family was stunned.... he had no money. his ex was in the process of trashing his life, his reputation was shot... what could i possibly see in him? MY family thought i was just doing it to get "free rent" lol my aunt and uncle even offered to let me come live with them so i wouldnt have to do that [sm=rotfl.gif]
the landlord/his oldest friened even said "You're just supposed to sleep with'em, not let'em move in son... whats wrong with you?"  so needless to say.. we sure had a whole bunch of supporters for the longevity of this relationship..... ha!

people are so stupid sometimes...they think too much lol there always has to be a motive or some hidden intentions.
my dad was the only one that didnt give us any flak, and honestly that shocked me to my toes!! HE was the one i was dreading when it came time to tell. but all he asked was "are ya happy? then whats the problem?"

My BF is thirteen years

 
 
ANNE- Ok, so your post made me laugh like hell.. I some how "missed" the "younger" part and all I saw in my head was the above statement... LMAO!!!!!!
 
I seriously had to stop and say to myself "did anne just say she was dating a 13 year old???"  lol...