men who are sick

I will not even go there....my husband is THE worst when he's sick.  I laugh like heck when I hear him on the phone with his mom telling her how sick he is.....[sm=blah2.gif]

if he gets sick, i almost never know about it.

You're sooooooooo lucky!

it would seem, based on the other posts in the thread, that i AM lucky...
 
but i have concerns in the back of my mind that he'll be that old man who never goes to the doctor over his "pains" and someday when he finally needs surgery, they'll open him up and find him full of cancer[].. i actually know several old men like this....

Ok..So I do not know what your complaining about..Do you need a pat on the head and a "Good Girl"?

No... I would simply like him to NOT yell and wig out on me when I am trying to help him... that is all.. I can even handle the whiney baby crap, just not the "I am angry and going to take it out on you when you offer to make me food or go get something for me..." 

I am not sure what you are NOT getting about my gripe Mark.. perhaps your mind is a little "muddled" today and you are having a hard time concentrating.  Perhaps you need to go walk the dogs  []

but i have concerns in the back of my mind that he'll be that old man who never goes to the doctor over his "pains" and someday when he finally needs surgery, they'll open him up and find him full of cancer.. i actually know several old men like this....

[&o]This is my concern too Sara. My advice would be to give him things you come across in life to show him how important certain things are. I forwarded my DH Joyce#%92s (fuzzy dogs)“warning” she sent last week regarding skin cancer. I am telling you, boy did that work!  He is now going to get 3 spots looked at and he normally never goes to the doctor for anything, especially after a bad (yet kinda funny) experience…

  Ok.. funny story Sara. As I just mentioned, my DH is HORRIBLE about going to the doctor… absolutely the worst. I usually just make the appointment for him and then he is too embarrassed to cancel it.  SO about 3 years ago he was brushing his teeth and he noticed these huge bright red bumps on his tongue and they started bleeding. So he started freaking out and was asking me what the hell they were. I had no idea and we looked up stuff online ect.. but couldn#%92t find anything. He said to me “if they are still there in the morning I think I should go to the Doctor, what do you think?”.. I agreed with him and so he ended up going.

  He came home the night of the doctor#%92s appointment and I said “what did they say?”  He yelled at me and said “there is a reason I don#%92t go to the doctors, because it usually is nothing…”  He went on to explain that the doctor looked at it and said “congratulations you have a tongue!” [sm=biggrin.gif] Apparently sometimes when you brush your tongue too hard your taste buds can get irritated and inflamed and it will go away in a couple of days.

  [:@]I was very upset by this because he has been even worse about going to the doctor ever since being embarrassed about the tongue thing.  BUT, now that he read the skin cancer warning he is making an appointment.[]  

but i have concerns in the back of my mind that he'll be that old man who never goes to the doctor over his "pains" and someday when he finally needs surgery, they'll open him up and find him full of cancer.. i actually know several old men like this....

I have thie same concerns...my husband hasn't been to the dr. for a physical in years...I am trying to guilt him into it  by laying the old "your a dad, do if for your girls" thing.  So far, no luck.......

I have thie same concerns...my husband hasn't been to the dr. for a physical in years...I am trying to guilt him into it by laying the old "your a dad, do if for your girls" thing. So far, no luck.......

Cheryl- look at this initial post.. and make your DH read it...[]  It might help...

http://forum.dog.com/asp/tm.asp?m=328437&mpage=1&key=

Yes, I read it and that post brought back a lot of sad memories for me...and my husband is very aware of how being sick affects the  family.  He watched as my mom struggled with lung cancer for eighteen months until she died six months ago (six miserable, heartbreaking, tear-filled months ago yesterday) so I think that yes, I will get to him eventually go but I always have those "what if" scenarios running through my head.  Thank you for your advice.....[]

I'm the type of person who likes to do things for myself anyway. So when I get sick, I just do the same things that I do normally. Except maybe not as quick and I'll probably sleep more. I try not to bother anyone though. I also don't want to give anyone else what I have if I might be contagious. Now GF on the other hand, is completely helpless and cranky when she's sick. It drives me up the wall sometimes.

Here's my story about sick hubbies:
My DH has always got something going on, migraines, allergies. It seems like everytime we have something planned, he gets sick. Two years ago he got a stomach bug and was laid up, just when we had some big outing planned on a Saturday. I was a little annoyed, so I pretty much left him alone all day. Finally, about 7 p.m., he comes out and announces he's got to go to the ER. So I take the oldest daughter across the street to the neighbors, load up the baby (about 5 months old at the time) and off we go. About 3 hours later, when I'm so p.o'ed that he can't weather a little vomiting and diarrhea, they announce they're keeping him because he's dehydrated and jaundiced! He was in the hospital the rest of the weekend! So . . .even though he's a whiney baby, now I listen because I was "The Bad Wife" and didn't "Tend To My Man"! (emphasis totally my own, he's never held it over me)

I'm the type of person who likes to do things for myself anyway. So when I get sick, I just do the same things that I do normally. Except maybe not as quick and I'll probably sleep more. I try not to bother anyone though

If you are ever single again call me... I think my stepkids are your age but what the hell... age doesn't really matter all that much does it? []

He was in the hospital the rest of the weekend! So . . .even though he's a whiney baby, now I listen because I was "The Bad Wife" and didn't "Tend To My Man"! (emphasis totally my own, he's never held it over me)

Oh man.. good lesson to learn![]

When DH and I met, we were living in diff states.  When I graduated, he decided to fly to CA so he could help me drive from CA to MO.  (Aww, isnt that sweet!)  Then DH magically got a cold the night before we left. 
 
He took the strongest cold meds he could find and passed out in the passenger seat.  He would wake up just long enough to whine, moan, say "Just how much mucus can one person make?", scatter 20 soggy kleenex around him, and spend a minute hocking up a giant loogie to attempt to spit out the window at 75mph.  Then he'd pass out again. 
 
I drove straight thru to Wyoming where we slept at a turnout.  I got no sleep.  He kept admiring his mucus, and snoring.  The next day I drove from WY to MO right into the back of a t-storm that was spawning tornados.  I'd never had to drive in a monsoon (with hail) before.  And after driving halfway cross country with about 3 hours sleep, I was hallucinating tornadoes every time lightning went off.  DH would wake up, lament his mucus and how SICK he was, roll down the *@#( window (in the rain) to spit, and go back to sleep.
 
Almost to DH's place, I had to stop on the shoulder under an overpass because the rain was falling so hard I couldnt see the lane lines anymore.  DH wakes up and asks me why we've stopped.  I told him and he said, "Could we not waste too much time?  I'm kinda sick and I'd rather be in bed than in a car."  Then he went BACK TO SLEEP.
 
When we got to his place he went straight to bed after telling me what a horrible trip it was for him.  I didnt even get to sleep in the next morning because he woke me up to have me go get more cold meds for him.  [:@]

Oh boy, do I wanna join THIS club! DH is the king of WHINE when he's sick.He wants to sleep and be left alone.  However, if I--ME!!!--am sick, too bad. Extra sleep?  What's that?  Why isn't dinner ready (he almost got dinner thrown at him one time when he asked me THAT). Believe me, DSs are not coddled when they are sick.  I make sure they are comfortable, and that's it.  I don't want to inflict this nonsense on future DILs.

DH is the worst hypochondriac. If he has a hang nail, he's sure it's leprosy.  A tummy ache is cancer of the stomach.  A headache?  Brain tumor.  It's an endless list...

ladies... dont blame your husband for being a whine bag when he is sick. it isnt his fault. go to the source of the problem to lodge complaints... your mother-in-law.

speaking as a whine bag when sick, i realized when i was sick earlier this year, that it is my mom's fault. she babied me too much when i was sick as a kid. actually she even offered to come over when i was home sick a couple of months ago.

luckily for my wife, i am only sick about once per year. []

By the way,when I am sick,I do what any respectable man does.I crawl into a cave and demand to be left alone until I feel better

 
This is what I do, and if lucky enough, will be left alone to do so!  Unfortunately, there's usually kids, dogs.... demanding attention. 
 
I feel for you JJ'smom.  I think most men are like that.  I'm lucky in that my DH will keep going no matter what with rarely a complaint.  Part of it is we really don't have much choice, duty calls.  He had pneumonia a couple of years ago and never had a day off work. Felt like crap for months, but just kept going.