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men who are sick

Posted : 4/29/2007 5:10:53 PM

Arggghhhhhhhhhhh…. Angry

This is a vent and I certainly hope I am not alone and live with the only man on the face of the earth who is the biggest jerk and whiney baby when he is sick!

I swear, it is a damn good thing that my Dh is almost never sick, that he doesn#%92t even suffer from an occasional headache because I have never met a more whiney PITA in my life than him when he is ill.

He has a VERY mild head cold.. no fever, no headache, not even much congestion, he just doesn#%92t feel very well. But you would think he was dying and that the he had just been through unspeakable atrocities…[8|]

When I am sick and someone offers to make me whatever I want to eat, or to go to the store and get me something, I don#%92t bite their head off. I practically kiss their feet and overwhelmed by their kindness and mercy on me.[sm=bow2.gif]

Yesterday he didn#%92t feel good either but was in a SLIGHTLY better mood. BUT, even yesterday his daughter was over and he was laying on the couch whining about not wanting to get up, but yet wanting to go get Mediterranean food to eat, she said “WTF dad… the way you are acting you would think you were dying.. get you#%92re a$$ off the couch and stop being such a whiney b*tch…” He laughed about it and totally admitted that he is that way, but today… today he not only isn#%92t capable of laughing, he is also incapable of not yelling and freaking out if you ask him if he would like you to get anything for him…

I plan to stay away from him and not utter a word the rest of the day and if he isn#%92t asleep by the time I go to bed then I am given serious consideration to sleeping on the couch.[&o]

But I seriously think men are different. Other female friends of mine have complained about the same thing. So ladies.. does your guy do this?

chelsea_b

Posted : 4/29/2007 5:16:17 PM

I have to ask if he's a native Californian??? I've very much noticed that the California guys are BABIES! My brother-in-law and cousin-in-law in particular. Both have lived in CA their whole lives. Both are THE biggest whiners EVER when they're sick. Oh, Michael has a stuffy nose? He'll be out of work for a week, laying in bed, and writing blogs about how he's dying. Jerry's got a sore throat? Ditto to Michael, plus sending his 4 year old step daughter to tell everyone how sick he is. I want to SMACK them. [

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BEVOLASVEGAS

Posted : 4/29/2007 5:18:58 PM

I've kind of written this type of behavior off as a "guy thing." The new BF had a headache yesterday & called me to whine about it. He rambled on & on for about 20 minutes & all I took from the conversation was that his head hurt & that he was a total pu$$y when he is sick. When I finally got off the phone with him, I decided to go out for the day. I left the cell at home, to insure that I didn't have to hear any more about his headache.

Shelly, I hope that your DH feels better soon!

Xerxes

Posted : 4/29/2007 5:44:49 PM

Shel, that's us men. I know I'm one of the few that really doesn't complain too much when I'm feeling under the weather. That's because I still have stuff to do.

If guys are home for longer than say...2 hours and there's no game on, we start to go stir crazy. So we're annoyed that we want to do something and we're annoyed that we don't feel well and then we're annoyed that we're annoyed. Then comes the DW with an offer of "sympathy" soup. That's really the last thing we want-to be made to feel weak and in need of sympathy. So we lash out. It's usually not meant to be hateful. We just want to be left alone in our little funk.

And in my case if I have to take antihistamines the best thing to do is to go visit a friend for the weekend. Cuz I'll be grouchy and grumpy and have my ugly face on all weekend.

Hope that explanation helps a little bit.

KCSO

Posted : 4/29/2007 5:50:32 PM

ORIGINAL: jjsmom06
This is a vent and I certainly hope I am not alone and live with the only man on the face of the earth who is the biggest jerk and whiney baby when he is sick!

Haha, I saw the title of this thread and knew EXACTLY what it was gonna be about! You are not alone!

dubilpie

Posted : 4/29/2007 6:02:20 PM

My husband never bites my head off or is more grouchy, but he does let everyone in the house know he is sick. I do tend to baby him when he is sick and you can tell he loves it, but gotta admit he does the same for me. My brother on the other hand is a miserable son of a b*tch when he is sick, I feel bad for his wife.

Ashley

Posted : 4/29/2007 6:34:45 PM

I'm easy to take care of when I'm sick...you know why? Because I'm a woman. If you tell me to take some medicine, I take it. Tell me to go to sleep, I sleep. Tell me to take a long shower, I shower. Tell me to blow my nose, etc, etc. And if you do something nice for me, even if its not what I want, I will say thank you.

However [&:], Chris is not only whiney...he won't do what he's told...and so he's sick longer! And if I do something nice, but it's not EXACTLY the way he wanted it, he bites my head off. I hate taking care of him when he's sick. [&:][&:][&:]

timsdat

Posted : 4/29/2007 6:37:03 PM

I seem to remember this is a comedy routine performed by someone famous. Can't remember who it is though. Maybe Foxworthy???

mrstjohnson

Posted : 4/29/2007 6:39:22 PM

If DH has even the slightest bit of sore throat, head ache, stuffiness the world is ending. Just last month I was trying desparately to get comfortable in bed and he lays down (he was all stuffed up) and says, "you cannot imagine how uncomfortable I am right now." [sm=banghead002.gif]

Yes, honey you are right I cannot imagine your comfort level right now. You are not carrying an extra human being on your stomach which makes you pee every ten minutes and forces you to waddle just so your hips don't hurt. I just gave him "the look" and shut my eyes....I was too afraid of what I would say if I opened my mouth.

jjsmom06

Posted : 4/29/2007 7:04:57 PM

This is great ladies! I am so happy to hear I am not alone.[sm=proud.gif]

Chelsea- yes he is from California,.. but apparently it looks like this is a country-wide epidemic![

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Ed, I have left the man alone and not uttered a single word to him since 9 pm last night.. that makes it 18 hours he has slept and the dogs and I have left him in total peace….

That's really the last thing we want-to be made to feel weak and in need of sympathy.

Not in DH's case...[8|]

He just came out of the dungeon and was just lying on the couch telling me how miserable he is and I said “I am sorry that you are so sick honey”. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you. I am gonna take the pups to the lake soon but I can pick you up some meds while I am out if you need any”

To which he said “Nooooo.. lets talk about me some more and how horrible I feel.. I feel horrible…”

Apparently he only wants me right now as his “emotional tampon”... and I am suppose to sit and listen but not speak even to offer kind words, medicine or food.[8|] Men are so confusing at times... BUT he knows he is been a little **** to me today and so now he is buttering me up with compliments. "Thanks for taking care of the dogs"... "Thanks for cleaning the house", "thanks for getting the groceries today honey and I appreciate you going on a special trip just to get me some almond butter"...

SEE .. he KNOWS he is being a jerk and is feeling guilty about it...[

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Mark

Posted : 4/29/2007 7:39:17 PM

ORIGINAL: jjsmom06
SEE .. he KNOWS he is being a jerk and is feeling guilty about it...[]

Well,if there is one thing that women have cornered the market on,its making a guy feel guilty,even when they are not.I think its something taught by your moms at an early age..

By the way,when I am sick,I do what any respectable man does.I crawl into a cave and demand to be left alone until I feel better..[

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jjsmom06

Posted : 4/29/2007 7:49:23 PM

Well,if there is one thing that women have cornered the market on,its making a guy feel guilty,even when they are not.I think its something taught by your moms at an early age..

you might be interested perhaps to know Mark that I have done absolutely NOTHING to make him FEEL guilty... it is all internal because he knows he was wrong for freaking out on me. I let him sleep for 18 hours.. never once bothering him, locking the dogs and cats out, not making any noise to wake him. Once I heard him turn the TV on upstairs, I waited about 15 minutes for him to get woke up. I then went upstairs to inquire if he needed anything and if would like me to make him something to eat or drink since it was after 3p.m. and he hadn't eaten for over 20 hours. He had a freak out on me that was absolutley absurd.. so I simply walked away and down he came an hour later feeling guilty...

SO you see my friend… I have been a dutiful wife today doing my best to serve my lord and master while he is ill[

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badrap

Posted : 4/29/2007 7:51:44 PM

my husband may be an exception to what otherwise seems to be a rule. he refuses to take painkillers, allergy meds, eyedrops, cold medicine, throat stuff, whatever. if he gets sick, i almost never know about it.

i do wonder if this is a regional thing. anyone here from the northeast know some salty old mainers who just never say die?

Mark

Posted : 4/29/2007 8:59:41 PM

ORIGINAL: jjsmom06
SO you see my friend… I have been a dutiful wife today doing my best to serve my lord and master while he is ill[]

Ok..So I do not know what your complaining about..Do you need a pat on the head and a "Good Girl"? [

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Ashley

Posted : 4/29/2007 9:04:58 PM

My dad hardly ever gets sick. Which is amazing to me because he's had cancer...twice. His immune system should have been wiped-out...but maybe the radiation mutated it and made it really strong...anyway...he's from upstate NY, so that adds to your New England theory. My fiance is from Miami and he cannot function from April to September unless our AC is on...weenie.