Oh, What to do?

    • Gold Top Dog
    What time is the party?
     
    Seriously, though, I agree with others. Do as you would normally want to do and don't give him a second thought. If your friends have any backbone, they will be able to make him feel uncomfortable and not welcome and he will go away with his fling of the week.
     
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    Amanda, I've read what you've just gone through and I'm so sorry.  I was in a very similar situation several years ago...ex-husband cheated, we split up, and a couple of months later he showed up at a party that he knew I would be at - with the chick in tow.  I wasn't forewarned though and it was really tough.  If I'd had known he would be there, I probably wouldn't have gone, but I'm glad that I was there.  Strangely enough, every time he did something heartless like that, I cared less and less.  One day I just woke up and realized that I didn't love him anymore and that I no longer hurt....and his actions, such as the party-stunt actually sped that healing up for me in the long run.  Plus, she eventually put him into bankruptcy and then cheated on him.  Weeee! Good luck and I'm sure you'll look GREAT.  Take care of yourself.  Fourteen pounds is a lot to lose in a week.  I know this is debilitating, but you must take good care of yourself. 
    • Gold Top Dog
    Just a few questions:
    How was the party?
    How did it go with ex?
    How are you doing?
     
    Sue
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    He shouldn't even be allowed to go to the party.  If I remember correctly, a craigslister put a rant up that made best of about breakup rules, it was very straightforward, a tad angry, and pretty much true.

    Let's see if I can find it...

    Ah, [linkhttp://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sdo/127111642.html]here[/link] it is.  (Forewarning: explicit language)

    Maybe you should change some of the wording (since you're the 'dumper' only because he was a major donkey and cheated on you) and stick it under his windshield wiper when he shows up.  His date can read it to him when they're driving home from their very short evening out.
    • Gold Top Dog
    My votes on the pregnant friend putting him in his place. On his belly where the snake belongs.
     
    • Gold Top Dog
    Yessss!!  We want party news ... and pictures, if you took any. [:D]
     
    Joyce
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    Ive lost 11 pounds since I heard my news.  At least thats one good thing we are getting out of it all... skinny!  lol...
     
    Hope you have fun!
    • Gold Top Dog
    ORIGINAL: loveukaykay
    Ive lost 11 pounds since I heard my news.  At least thats one good thing we are getting out of it all... skinny!  lol...

     
    I am not happy about the amount of weight that I have lost. Honestly, I have lost way to much weight, but not from being depressed or from self deprivation. I am one of those people who literally forgets to eat. If I am busy, I will go all day without eating. I just don#%92t think about it. While my abs look great, the rest of me is really thin. I don#%92t look as healthy as I normally do, so I have set reminders in my phone to help me remember to eat. Sadly, Ryan was in the habit of asking me if I had eaten on a daily basis. Oh well, I can remember on my own now.
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    I wish I had that problem.[;)]     I dont forget I'm just busy right now and don't have time some days.  I will eat when I get home but if you go all day without it you get full really fast.   And I think my appetite has dropped a good bit with all this as well.  Since summer is almost here, Im not complaining.[:)]
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    All right I going to preface my adventures last night by giving ya#%92ll a little info about both Ryan & myself. Ryan is a very straight laced, tightie whitie type of guy. While he is comfortable in social situations, he is a bit aloof & at times seems unapproachable. He prefers to stay at home with only a few close friends. I#%92m his exact opposite. I want to talk to everyone around, & I tend to speak first, think later. I love to go out & have a good time & would be thrilled to go out 5-6 nights a week. When I go out I want everyone to know that I am there.  I love to be in the spotlight.
     
    I went ahead & warned my friends that he was coming, & asked that they allow him to stay if he so chose. They agreed that he would be allowed in & treated decently.
     
    I decided that I did want everyone to know that I was at this party to have fun, so I dressed accordingly. I wore a denim skirt that covered my assets. Then since, St. Paddy#%92s Day Green just isn#%92t my color, I decided to have a body artist airbrush on a shamrock bikini. I had a shamrock on each of my “girls” and what looked like strings holding them on. I will admit that I was a little uncomfortable with actually being painted, & I didn#%92t realize that I#%92d be sitting/standing for about 2 ½ hours for that amount of painting. But the end result looked great & unless someone tried to untie the strings, you couldn#%92t tell that this wasn#%92t an actual bikini.
     
    Anyway, I got to the party a little late, because my designated driver, my younger brother Cory, was running late. As we pulled up, I saw Ryan#%92s vehicle already parked & was a little disappointed. (I was hoping that he wouldn#%92t show up.) Once I walked in my friends surrounded me (pregnant friend was already pissed) and tried to quietly warn me that he had brought a date, & to make sure that I was ok with this. I saw him from across the room with his arm around his date & almost started crying, but instead I pulled it back together & went on about my business. As soon as he saw me, his jaw dropped & he came walking over with his date. As he introduced us, I realized that this was the same girl that I had spoke to on the phone. (Small world isn#%92t it?) After introductions were made, she wandered off & he told me that he couldn#%92t believe that I would wear something like that, & tried to put his jacket around me. I shook off his attempts & decided to hit the bar outside on the patio, so that I didn#%92t have to stay inside with them. The band was playing out in the yard, so I stayed outside to enjoy the sounds with most of my friends. I decided to help sing with the band. (This is not unusual for me, I do it all the time.) I sang 4 songs with them & 1 more that wasn#%92t even something this band would normally play. (I know 3 of the 4 members so they were willing to play just about anything) I sang Seether#%92s Broken. Everyone at the party came out to watch. I was having a great time, & Ryan‘s expression went from pissed off to almost crying. He decided that the way to get back at me was to start putting on a public display with Ms. Atlanta. Bad call, pregnant friend blew up calling him name combinations that I can honestly say that I have never heard, slapped him twice, called her a whore & threw them both out. They left & the night went on.
     
    The party started winding down at about 4:00 a.m. & 4 of the friends are staying with me so we headed home. I forgot how bad Cory drives & was felling sick. (I#%92m pretty sure that I was turning green) When we got back to my house, who was sitting on the front porch…Ryan. He said, “We need to talk” I just walked on by him (focused on walking straight & not stumbling) he grabbed me by the arm & spun me around. Then Cory stepped in & informed him that he would not be talking to me now, nor was he to call me in the future & if he ever touched me again he#%92d be sorry. Ryan backed down & left quickly.
     
    This morning, I am physically hurting from a hangover, & it looks as if my arm will be bruised, but I feel better that I went ahead & went to the party. I am so happy that I didn#%92t do anything mean or spiteful since he was already miserable, just because I had a good time. He has called 16 times this morning so it looks as if today his phone will be cancelled & my number will be changed.
     
    All in all I had a great time.  I got to see friends, goof around, & drink more than what I should have.  It was a goooood night.
    • Gold Top Dog
    I am so glad to hear that you had a good time and your presence alone was enough to make him miserable!  Sounds like you had a great time and probably needed a good night out with your friends.  I knew your prego friend wouldn't be able to tolerate him for long!
     
    Drink lots of gatorade today!  That always helps get me back into shape.
    • Gold Top Dog
    WAY TO GO!!!!![sm=clapping%20hands%20smiley.gif]  I'm glad you had such a good time. 
     
    You handled things waaaaay better than I ever would have, and you did it with class!  It sounds like you have a wonderful support system.  Someone already said it, but no contact is the best contact.
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    "Living well is the best revenge"... and girl - you shore 'nuff know how to live!   
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    That is great news! I have ten kinds of admiration for you- not only the way you handled things, but also that you can get in front of people and sing. [:D] It's obvious that your ex realizes what a huge mistake he made and I'm glad that you're moving on with your life. You deserve to be happy and he deserves to learn a lesson. [:)]
    • Gold Top Dog
    Amanda,
     
    I hope that I never have to go through what you are, indeed I hope that I never have to go through another relationship breakup at all.  However, if I ever do, I pray that I can handle it with as much class, grace and flat-out STYLE as you obviously are.
     
    I'm glad you enjoyed yourself, saw your friends and drank a little too much.  [:D]
     
    Kate