Dress size/fit question...

I don't know much about sewing but I'm not sure a seamstress could fix that.  I think the taping/going up a size options are probably your best bet if you don't want to change styles.  It's an issue I have with empire-waisted dresses as well, so I feel your pain.  I might try wearing the dress for half an hour or so while walking around the living room to see if it really does ride up as much as you think it's going to, but if you've done that already I am out of suggestions.  Sorry!
 
I wish I could be more help, but my dress is strapless.  And huge.  My dress is everything I said I didn't want in a wedding dress....lol.
 
Kate

I have to agree with Kate.  I also can't fit into to tops or dresses with the empire seam.  I'm guessing they're perfect for women with itty bitty tiny chests, but other than that or wanting to look like a hooker, it's a no go for me.  I would guess that the bigger size, with alterations, would be your best bet, but I'd check with a seamstress before you go thru hassle of exchaning it. 

I would take it to a seamstress and see what she says.  They will be the first ones to tell you if they can fix something or not and what to do (i.e. get a bigger size).

I just can't decide... I guess I don't have to in the first hour though. [] I think it *fits* it's just a lot of cleavage... it's made for a flat chested girl but isn't everything??? "Full figured" stuff doesn't fit me either bc the rest of me is small (I know, cry me a river right). Here are a couple of pics of this sucker. I figure if other i-doggers can share their pregnancies early I can share my (maybe) wedding dress. []

That's REALLY pretty. It looks like something I'd have a hard time fitting into, too (also being small everywhere else). I'd ask a seamstress about it. You might be able to order a bigger size, and have the bottom part altered, which is a little silly, but.... you like the dress!

Well, I just ordered my second choice dress so I can compare them against each other... the second one has a little more coverage. I don't really mind showing a little boobage but I don't want to scandalize the family! [sm=lol.gif]

Awww c'mon, if you can't be scandalous on your wedding day.......[sm=biggrin.gif]
 
No, I'll stop that now.  I am doing my best to make sure everything is "proper" on the day as well.  []
 
The dress is VERY pretty!  You'll have to show pics of the second one so we can compare. []
 
Kate

Gosh,
 
I don't want to say anything to make you not like me, lol, so I'll preface with a big comment about things looking way different in person and real life than a picture,
 
and hope you'll take this with a smile as I go duck out of the room really quick.
 
I don't think the dress does you near enough justice. 
 
All my eyes are focused on are the tucks and wrinkles b/c of the tightness of the upper body, it's really hard to notice anything else.  You want a beautiful dress on and you want to say how pretty the dress is, but want to really think of the bride as being beautiful, and not just looking at the dress. And I keep focusing on the part of the dress that is too tight.  I suspect trying to alter a dress as much as you would in ordering a size up might be alot to do, but I don't sew.
 
But the big thing that I keep thinking --- and yes this is your wedding, so it should be a dress you absolutely love --- but what keeps popping into my mind is that is seems more like an elegant evening gown than a wedding dress.  Now, don't get me wrong, I am not a girl into frills and ribbons and stuff.  But, the dress just strikes me as an evening dress rather than a bridal gown.  Sorry, it's just my thought.  And, I might be the only one who thinks this way, and I am not terribly good at fashion, so if others come on an say I'm wrong, then I'll understand. But, it just seems like it needs something else for an event like a wedding.

Lynn - don't worry, I'm not that sensitive! [] I wouldn't have posted pics if I was.
 
Yeah, the bodice may just be too tight. There is some ruching in the bust which might be part of what you're seeing... but it's close fitting for sure. What you can't see is in the back there's a pretty crossback style and that is actually on the loose side if anything! I think I need someone to look at it in person, my future SIL will help me I'm sure. Bottom line, I want to love it, not just make do.
 
I see what you're saying about the casual look of the dress but that's just my style... my SO isn't wearing a black tux either, he's wearing a gray suit and necktie. We're pretty low key people and want our wedding to reflect that. []

jones, if there is one piece of advice I CAN offer, it is that when you put on the "right" dress, you'll know - instantly.  And I know that because I tried on every dress in FOUR bridal shops lol.  When I put on the dress that I am having, I knew it was THE dress before they even had it zipped up.  Your wedding is more informal than mine, but I still think the same rule applies.  You'll know instantly what you feel amazing in, and you shouldn't settle for anything less on that day of all days.
 
Kate
 
 

Well,  since he's wearing a suit, then it would go better.  And the crossback does make it more special.  But, I'm still not likeing the fit, as of course, you aren't either, or you wouldn't have posted.  I hope I don't miss the second choice!

If you are looking for a more non traditional wedding dress, another good place to look is White House Black Market ([linkhttp://www.whitehouseblackmarket.com]www.whitehouseblackmarket.com[/link]).  When I got married it was an 11 A.M. wedding in an old historical mansion instead of a church, and I thought I wanted to go really simple and elegant but non traditional.  I ended up finding a traditional wedding dress marked down to $99 that I am so glad I found.  Before that thought I tried a lot of dresses on at White House Black Market.  They have stores too but not sure if they are where you live.
 
I agree, that is a beautiful dress, but it doesn't do you justice.  I also agree that when you put on the right dress you just know it.  I tried on dresses at TONS of places in Dallas....probably over 20 different stores.  The last one I tried on was a size too big and on the $99 rack at Bridesmart and I fell in love with it.  Since I was paying for my wedding and we were on a really tight budget my friend wouldn't let me buy it b/c it would have cost a fortune in alterations.  I went to another Bridesmart in Fort Worth the next week and found it 5 minutes before they closed and bought it right then and there....and never looked back!  It really was my dream dress.  You might suprise yourself....kind of like with the ring!   
 
Try some different things on and even try things you would never have considered otherwise.  It is part of the experience and your wedding day is your day to be a princess and your day to shine.  I know that sounds totally stupid now, but just trust me on this one. 

I agree that its very low key but if thats what you want I personally think it looks great on you just like it is.  I wouldnt alter it at all.  Once you have a necklace and a bouquet the eyes will be drawn away from your chest.  Its not too much cleavage as is IMO.  And if it rides up tape can fix that.  Seems to me if you bigger in the boob area your going to need a bra or something... I dunno, I like it fine like it is.

I would love to see the other and we can vote[].
 
ETA:  I just looke at it some more and I want to reiterate that its not too much cleavage at all IMO, and not too tight either.[sm=2cents.gif]
 
A wedding dress thread would be fun, where all married people posted them lol.[]

There was nothing more distracting (and memorable) from my cousin's wedding than watching her constantly fiddling with the top of her gown because it didn't fit properly over her chest....and that sucker was custom made!
 
Find one you won't think twice about -just GLOW in it, knowing you look and feel terrific!