Count to 10... do not kill fiance...

I like the second invite better, I think the flowers are more  . . . oh wait, wrong thread . . .welcome to pre-wedding hell![]

I wonder if you can use a snake on a sink....maybe you could unblock more of it with one of those and I believe they are pretty cheap.  Might be worth doing a search online!
 
Sorry about your vile sink.  I remember one time coming home to DH who was so sweet and cleaned the bathroom and flushed paper towels down the toilet.  I was LIVID and there was no unclogging it.  It cost us over $150 to get a plumber to unblock it and it still got blocked really easily for years after that.  I would invest in one of those strainer thingys and not let him put anything down the sink at all!

May I say from experience that any argument that happens AFTER you start planning a wedding is always worse.  (I've been engaged for a year and a half, am getting married in a few months.)
At least with us (it may be different for you)  I know that *I* get pissed off because I am putting so much work into marrying the guy so I wonder why he's being an inconsiderate bastage.  He thinks that every time I get pissed off I am overreacting because of wedding stress.  *SIGH*

A yucky sink is a horrible thing to deal with and he shouldn't have a) done that or b) left you to deal with it.  If it's an important issue, talk to him about it tonight.

I know our relationship improved by leaps and bounds when I set myself the "3 hour rule" after we got engaged: If my SO does something that annoys/upsets me, I wait for 3 hours and if I can still remember what it was, or I am still upset, I mention it to him.  This has the advantage of stopping me from throwing a hissy fit over something trivial, and at least when I DO mention something to him, I can do it calmly, instead of a snippy knee-jerk reaction.  I have a short temper so this really works for me.

I'm not saying you shouldn't be mad at this.  If it happened to me I'd go out for the entire day, take myself to dinner and come home AFTER I knew he'd had a chance to clean it up.

Kate

It's definitely not a big deal. I was mostly mad because instead of just listening to me about the food thing, we had to go the dirty-plunger-ick route. I guess this is man's brain vs woman's brain. Man's brain says: clog this sucker good and then bring out all the tools and chemicals on the planet to fix it good; woman's brain says: don't clog it in the first place. [8|]
 
Unfortunately it was after 6pm our time when he had to leave, and he works till morning. I can't leave it til morning, it will just seem passive-aggressive and rude. But I have no idea how to fix it... I don't even have a car to go get some Drano. [] I didn't want to be scrubbing the kitchen tonight, I was hoping to drink a beer and watch TV!

WHY can't you leave it?  It's HIS mess.  He can be a big boy and clean it up when he gets home. So, go get some takeout and leave the mess for him.  You aren't making the mess worse--you got takeout to "save him from a bigger mess"! []

You could try pouring boiling water down the drain, that was a trick my mom used to do. And hey, who says you can't have a beer and clean the kitchen? At the least you'll care less if it's doesn't work!

Be happy! Mine hasnt even tried to wash the dishes in 5 years!

Be happy! Mine hasnt even tried to wash the dishes in 5 years!

 
Mine did and I had to rewash them.
 
I have also had snuff spit on my dishes in the sink by my (Stepson and friend) they just about died by my hands around their necks. Food left on the plates put in the sink without scraping first then someone would run water on top of the plates So I had floating food. I got a dishwasher. So no more problem.
 
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I can't leave it til morning, it will just seem passive-aggressive and rude. But I have no idea how to fix it... I don't even have a car to go get some Drano. I didn't want to be scrubbing the kitchen tonight, I was hoping to drink a beer and watch TV!

 
Yes, you CAN leave it for morning.  Of course, given that the prime time tv tonight is the state of the union address, cleaning the kitchen may be more fun anyway.  Just make sure he knows it's really hard for you to be "in the mood" when the kitchen is a mess.

Forgot to add, that that is +R.  You reinforce him cleaning the kitchen by rewarding him. 
 
If you rather -P, +P, or -R, maybe idoggers could have some fun with other ideas.

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Forgot to add, that that is +R.  You reinforce him cleaning the kitchen by rewarding him. 

If you rather -P, +P, or -R, maybe idoggers could have some fun with other ideas.

This is the funniest thing I've read all day... (and I've read a lot today) Thank you!

I agree that you should leave the mess... but if I were in the same situation, I'd probably clean it up 'cause my DH has cleaned up my mess far more times than I cleaned his...

If I had to fix the sink I'd put a bucket underneath the pipes and take off the cleanout elbow. You know, that curvy bit of pipe. That's probably where Whatever-Gross-Thing it is is stuck.

BUT--I would make HIM do that. And if he had to do it in the morning, so be it.

Right now I'm out of propane, and got off work too late to fill up the bottle. So I'm eating Warmed Up Stuff from the microwave. If I can do that for 36 hrs, you can handle no kitchen sink for 12 hours. []

I have terrible luck with sinks. In the place I was renting before, the sink was incredibly old and the sink stoppers--uh, didn't. One didn't work at all, and one only worked about 70% of the time. I went to get new sink stoppers and found out that the drains were some weird-o size from 30 years ago that no one now makes stoppers for. [:@] I asked the landlord repeatedly to PLEASE get me some that worked but he never did.

Fast forward to my new house. The people that built the so-called kitchen (don't get me started, it is horrible) scrounged for materials. The sink is all bent up, and one drain can't be plugged at all because someone bent the heck out of the bottom of it. Neither one of the sink stoppers worked at all.

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I did find a sink stopper for the one sink that was straight enough to use, and it's MESH. VERY great for stopping food.

When you have to worry about the toilet freezing, the last thing you need is the sink getting plugged up, too. []

Oh, and by the way, did you hear me say LEAVE THE MESS FOR HIM? hehehehehe

Two items no home should be without....a big box of baking soda and white vinegar.  Pour PLENTY of baking soda down that drain and follow it up with a major splash of vinegar.  Stand back, you'll get the volcano effect, but it should clear out the drain, and then follow up with LOTS of hot water.
 
DS thinks we have a garbage disposal.  We don't.  Nor SHOULD we have one with a septic tank.  I so enjoy cleaning crap out of the drain all the time....not.
 
And I soooo glad that I'm not the only one with a "thing" about using the toilet plunger in the kitchen.  I keep a nice clean plunger under the sink for ONLY the sink......

I was mostly mad because instead of just listening to me about the food thing, we had to go the dirty-plunger-ick route. I guess this is man's brain vs woman's brain. Man's brain says: clog this sucker good and then bring out all the tools and chemicals on the planet to fix it good; woman's brain says: don't clog it in the first place. [8|]

 
This is my biggest struggle with DH.  I can see sh*t coming a mile away and my brain goes into prevention mode.  He won't listen to me because he thinks he's a big boy and doesn't need to be told what to do.  He sees it as "his way" vs. "my way" - I see it as "wrong way" vs. "right way"!  haha  And yes, I've had to clean-up and fix the results of "his way" more times than I care to mention.  You might want to invest in a kitchen plunger and or snake...  Good Luck!