Ideas on prenuptial agreements

when i got married neither of us had squat so it wasnt an issue. but if i would have had anything that i wanted to always be mine, i would definitely have gotten a prenup.

not to be the marriage doomsayer, but what you feel today may not be there in a few years. look at the statistics. no one wants to be part of the divorce statistics, but $hit happens. when i first got married, i thought it would be forever, now i have my doubts. i wouldnt want to lose a house and an inheritance because you didnt do a little preplanning.

just my callus $0.02.

personally, prenups are rediculous. when i got married i didnt go into it with the mindset of "if we ever get divorced". if i had thought i needed a prenup i would also think this is not the person i should marry. if he would've suggested a prenup i would've been offended. marriage is not a legal process or agreement, it is an emotional and physical commitment of love and devotion. im commited to my dh for life, not just until the honeymoon period is over. if anything i will make out a will so he remembers what to do with me and my things if i die first.

no i did not win the lottery when i met him, he has had alot of very big problems, but that doesnt change who he is and how i feel about him. its called "unconditional" and prenup is its antonym.

Funny I was just talking with a friend about this recently. 
 
I sorta agree with gaylemarie, I would be somewhat offended if he even asked me to get a prenup.  By the time I marry him I would know enough to see what I'm getting myself into that I accept him and agree to let him become 100% art of my life and part of my life is what I own.  A prenup almost would make me feel we are hiding something from one anouther or don't have that trust needed to form a healthy relationship.  Just asking for one seems like it's setting things up for failer because you always have that "what if" in the back of your mind.
 
Just looking at the little I had if I did go with a prenump and got married right now and then whatever happens it doesn't work all I would be left with is a Microwave and a bed.  Sounds kinda funny but if that bed was a house I think I might still look at it the same way.  There is no way I would want that bed that WE shared together back and if it was a house all the memories would be there as well so I would not want that back either.  Same with the money, it's money that we shared and agreed upon when it all started so why should it be any differnt now?
 
When you marry someone you agree to take in everything that is them including everything they are and own.  I would not want something of his if anything went wrong in the marrage, why?  They are just memories of him and it's better off he has them so I would not have to deal with that.  Same with my stuff, even if I owned it before I met him we did at one time shared it all so all the memories are still there.

Considering the divorce rate in this country......I would say a prenup will protect you just in case.[]

I have no reason to believe that Ryan & I will split, but if we do, I would like to protect what is mine.

 
In this case, I'd get a prenup. Very few people go into a marriage believing they will divorce, but many do for a variety of reasons. That said, I wish you both many years of happiness.

An attorney is best qualified to answer your question.  He will help you decide if you have assets worthy of protection in the event of a divorce.
 
I completely disagree with GayleMarie's comment, "marriage is not a legal process or agreement, it is an emotional and physical commitment of love and devotion."  Marriage is absolutely a legal process and it takes a legal process to dissolve it.  You can be married to someone you don't love.  You can love someone you aren't married to.
 
I am guessing that this is your first marriage.  For sure, if this one doesn't work, you will be far more careful with subsequent marriages and will think nothing of asking for a prenuptial agreement. 
 
Look out for yourself.  No one else will.

An attorney is best qualified to answer your question. He will help you decide if you have assets worthy of protection in the event of a divorce.

 
Very good advice.
 
An attorney can tell you about the laws where you live in regards to disposition of pre-marital and marital assets.  Some states are community property states and those would be the ones you need a pre-nup for - even then contracts were made to be broken for the right price!  Other states - as long as you do not allow your inheritence to be used for joint obligations (only your own) you would be protected, don't know about your house though. 

Lol..."what's yours is mine, and what's mine is yours...except for this this and this"....how lamentable is that statement?
 
If I didn't trust a person then I wouldn't marry them.
If I wanted to keep my toys and not share them then I wouldn't marry anyone.
If I loved someone then I would want to give them and share with them...everything that I am and everything that I have. 
If I loved someone and it ended then I would be grateful I was well adjusted enough to have loved someone at all...aside from myself.
 
Perhaps if people were more open with each other, sharing and giving and less about what they want or need then divorce rates would go down some.

Gina, that is all good and well and warm and fuzzy, UNLESS the marriage doesn't work out and a lawyer gets involved.

I agree that discussing this with a lawyer beforehand is the best idea.

It seems a lot of women are more idealistic when it comes to trusting part of going into a marriage and men are much more cynical about the divorce, sometimes rightfully so, because they do get burned.

Billy, you should have married me - I was probably the nicest person ever when I divorced - I split everything fairly and only asked for reasonable child support for our son.  The irony is that, when he (my ex) died two years later, I ended up getting back a lot of the stuff we had to begin with.
 
 

When I divorced, my ex got everything.  Which was okay, since the boys were going to live with her.  Besides, I was confident that with my charm and good looks, I would quickly find a single, rich woman who would take care of me in the style I deserve.
 
My farts don't stink either.

Prior to going thru a divorce, I would've said the same thing as Gayle and Gina.  I think anyone who's gone thru it knows that people can change and not always for the better.
 
My dad passed away last year and left his estate to my brother and me.  In Calif., assets that aren't co-mingled aren't subject to community property laws.  I love my DH and plan to spend the rest of life with him.  However, the idea that he could walk in someday and say he'd found someone new or just wanted out, AND be able to take 1/2 of what my dad had worked all his life to earn and save, just isn't an option for me.  So, what's mine is ours, as long as we're together, and I hope that will be forever.  If not, then what's mine is mine [:-]
 

Besides, I was confident that with my charm and good looks, I would quickly find a single, rich woman who would take care of me in the style I deserve.

 
Well, I guess that eliminates me - I'm far from rich! [sm=lol.gif]
 

I think anyone who's gone thru it knows that people can change and not always for the better.

 
Cathy, so very true, unfortunately........

i think our society has very much become a "cya" society. no matter what i look out for me and try to cover my a$$.

if i were marrying a woman that had more assets than me, i for sure wouldnt want her to make me sign a prenup, but i would expect it. because be sure, if things didnt work out, i would take as much as possible.