Here we go again Tuesday talk

The situation with my Mom has me exceedingly grumpy this morning. Which is so great because the kids are home today for some random Teacher Workday. :|

Cleo's ear is draining a lot...I suppose that is improvement since before there was nothing visible at all which is why we didn't know she had one. She's being very good about the flushes and taking her meds. I think she feels a bit better as she's been a bit more silly this morning. I am thinking back to her behavior this past little while and she has been quieter and more inclined to lay in her crate and follow me around than usual...I figured it was her usual post season false pregnancy nonsense. But she might've been feeling off.

Good vibes to all that need them.

Gina, the situation with your Mom is very upsetting.  I'm sorry she's acting so foolishly and I'm also sorry that your kids will be somewhat cut off from her.

Thanks Glenda. I am still really almost depressed about it. This guy is supposedly paying her something monthly...but obviously nowhere NEAR a proper amt because if he could afford that he'd not be living with her. So essence this is about a paltry sum of money a month and her inability to say NO. If she cannot afford her home or her lifestyle than the adult thing to do is make changes, sell the house, move someplace smaller. She has NO mortgage and any sale would be pure cash profit for her, if she then bought a smaller home for less she'd have a cushion and less taxes per annum. It's ridiculous. I never thought I'd see the day where I am more sensible than my mother...but it's arrived all the same.

you aren't old enough for your Mom to be old enough for senility.....I'm wondering if your sister maybe put undue pressure on her for this guy?  or if there is something more between sis and the dude?

Maybe the guy is in debt/has bad credit/can't get a place of his own right now?  No telling, but unfortunately, we can't tell our parents what to do anymore than we can our adult kids.  THAT really sucks.

glenmar

you aren't old enough for your Mom to be old enough for senility.....I'm wondering if your sister maybe put undue pressure on her for this guy?  or if there is something more between sis and the dude?

Maybe the guy is in debt/has bad credit/can't get a place of his own right now?  No telling, but unfortunately, we can't tell our parents what to do anymore than we can our adult kids.  THAT really sucks.

I wouldn't doubt that my sis has something to do with it. Nothing relationship wise between them tho since my sister has issues with being touched and men in general...she's the one that's a little bipolar as they say. The thing with my sister is...I have never ever known her to have a friend that was NOT, in some kind of volatile relationship, family situation, etc. She craves this kind of drama and really thinks that either she can help these people, or that it makes her life more normal somehow to be around them. Who knows? I have given up on ever understanding anything she does, because she is unstable, IMO.

My Mom, well she's made her choice. I sent her another email letting her know how I felt and that I wasn't going to tell the kids anything about this person and their room because well, I don't feel I can do so without vitriol. So since she seldom sees them anyways, she can tell them why they can't stay over. I told her also that since she mentioned a written arrangement I hope she realized she is now a landlord and REGARDLESS of how she might feel 5mos down the road...regardless of what he might do or bring into her life, she is stuck with him. Eviction proceedings are not easy. It's very easy to open your home to someone "down on their luck" the hard part is getting them to leave.

I cannot see why anyone who was living so cheaply and among such nice people who likely will end up doing more for them (babysitting his kid for ex I can already see happening) would EVER leave to live someplace more expensive. *shrug*

Just lovely.  Sure wish that there was something I could say to make you feel better.  At least you have the wisdom to know that you can't do a danged thing about it...I'd be a ranting mess.

Gina - I must've missed the whole story on this issue with your mom but I kind of get the gist of it and I'm sorry. Hopefully your mom will come to her senses and the damage won't be too hard to clean up.

I'm thinking good thoughts for Meg and Pirate this morning and also for Cleo and Bugsy.

Johnny - I'm absolutely sure that Meg wouldn't have knowingly unfriended you.

It took me an hour to get in this morning - ugh! On top of that, while I was sitting at a stoplight, I looked in my side mirror and saw a car sliding sideways up the suicide lane in my direction. I had one of those "this can't be real" and then "omg!" moments. The person got control before crashing in to anyone but it gave me a sick feeling imagining what might've happened.

Gray and gloomy here again today. I keep hearing from folks that live where I grew up in So. Cal. and it's been sunny and mid 70s to low 80s the last few days. Really makes me a little homesick.

ETA - I just went back and read your post Gina. It was basically what I'd already surmised and my reaction would be the exact same as yours :(

Sending lots of good vibes for Pi.....and anyone else who needs them as well. 

Glenda, did you ever hear anything back on the tax job you interviewed for?

Gina, I just can't even imagine your anger right now.  I am not sure how old your sister is, but I would also be concerned for her too even though she very well may have something to do with all of this.  The situation is just weird.  I am glad though that you will put your foot down about your children visitng there even as hard as that is since they don't see her much anyway.  I have an aunt who lives with a man who is a total creep who has made sexual comments to me about how my chest was filling out this shirt I was wearing of my aunt's when I was 13 years old.  He did something else to her two sons as well, I am assuming of a sexual nature.  He is totally unwelcome at any family type event we have and no one goes to her house.  It is unfortunate because her granddaughter is starting to wonder why she never gets to go to her Grandma's house.  And the worst part is after all these years, my aunt can't stand this man anymore, but she is stuck in the living situation and I am sure will never leave.  We tell her all the time she should pack up and move somewhere on her own.  The man is totally dependent on her and just sucks the life out of her.  It is hard to understand what motivates some people b/c she has no reason to stay there, but I think it is her caregiver nature that keeps her there.

D was really sick with a tummy bug on Saturday afternoon/evening.  Thankfully by Sunday she just had a fever and very little appetite and the runs, and yesterday was still not eating much but obviously starting to be on the mend.  She went back to school today so I am hoping she has a good day and feels OK today.  I hate sending them to school when I am not sure that she is 100% but she is obviously not sick anymore.  On the way in she kept asking to go to her Nonna's instead.  I need to call and tell my mom, she will be so happy that she was asking for her!  Oh, and to top it all off, we had an open house at our house on Sunday which totally added to the stress....sick kid plus trying to have all laundry done and a spotless house=no fun!  At least we had a good turnout with about 25 people showing up! 

Morning.  Good thoughts to all.  Gina, sorry to hear about your mom, hope things work out for her. 

Weather looks nice today.  Have yet to get started with school but will shortly.  I am in so much discomfort/pain with the leg/foot edema and the back pain it's hard to think of much else, though I try.   I 'reacted' to something last night and my legs swelled up huge again.  They are better this morning but it was very uncomfortable to even bend my feet at the ankles.  WTH is wrong with me??? Gah~ I am completely over this!  I'm 33 years old and feel like I'm 80. 

Ranting. Bleh.

If it warms up just a little and the dew dries up I think I'll take the kids to the park while I teach DS his phonics and math up in the playground fort.  Did that last Thursday and he had a blast.

Oh also over the weekend we took up a new hobby- disc golf.  There is a very neat course nearby that is on a beautiful trail/wilderness area. Echo came along with her backpack and was my "caddy."   She also assisted the kids and I up some steep areas, happily.  She had a great time and it's nice to be able to bring her along.  <3 

Pushing past the pain...  it will be a great day :)

Gina, I hope the situation with your mom doesn't turn into a disaster.  ((hugs))

Sarah, sorry little ladybug was sick and that you had to deal with the open house at the same time.  It sounds like the open house was a big success and I hope you get a good offer soon. 

The sun is out and the temps are wonderful.  I'm taking Gabby and Ruger to the park for a romp at lunch, which is right about now. :) 

JackieG

The sun is out and the temps are wonderful. 

Rub it in, why don't ya'?   **throws snowball at Jackie**

More funny street names:  W Brown Deer Rd in Milwaukee, WI and Turkeyfoot Lane in Kentucky. 

Yeah, rub it in Jackie.  Jamison nearly killed me the other day by insisting on climbing over a 9ft. snow mound to get to his favorite trail in the back of our street !!!

Deb W.

Edited to correct typo.

No, I haven't heard anything yet, but since he said he'd let me know either way, am still holding out hope.

Thanks so much for the warm fuzzy, Jackie!

cakana

Johnny - I'm absolutely sure that Meg wouldn't have knowingly unfriended you.

hehe....I know!!!  I'm just pickin at her!

I've gotta send a BIG thanks out to the snowmobiles around here!  You made my hike much better!  Thanks fo rpacking down and making a trail for me!

It sure has gotten dark out inthe past hour!  Is it December 2012???

I totally forgot to say earlier that I saw a UFO again last night!  Really weird stuff!

Good vibes coming for Meg and the little PiMan, and anyone else who needs them.

Gina, I can't imagine what your mom was thinking, but hopefully your sister is responsible enough to keep her eye on the situation and will know immediately if something just doesn't seem *right.* Maybe you could go meet him and see if you pick up any odd vibes.

Oh Yea!! The sun is out!!  I feel like I've been in tunnel for days and just made it to the end. Hopefully it will last for a little while.  I'd actually prefer rain to that endless dark, damp and gloomy stuff.

Joyce