Tuesday Mindless Ramblings

cakana

I wanted to use the 2x4 on DH last night. I'd made fajitas and when I asked how he liked them, he said the chicken was a little dry. He has always been super complimentary about my cooking but lately he's been really nitpicking. So, I mentioned that and said that I thought it might be related to the job. I meant that maybe he was around a bunch of people who are critical of stuff and he was picking up on that. You know what he said? He said "yeah, you may be right. It's just that I get so used to the good food when I'm working. These people really know how to cook" If he'd have said that with a smile, I'd have laughed along with him but he was totally serious....omg - I wanted to throw something at him.

Oh, that would have set me off!   The nerve. It always makes me wonder if they say stuff like this because they're clueless about how it could cause hurt feelings or they don't think a person should get hurt about something like this.  Deb, hand Cathy the 2x4. 

 The dogs and I are hanging out today. I didn't have anything to do and didn't want to get up and run the lad to work if I had nothing planned, so he took the car today.  For some reason the wee poodle is trying to live upon me.  I have a squishy dog bed on the desk for her to nap on, but today she wants to live nestled on my shoulder.  Perhaps she's chilly

cakana

I wanted to use the 2x4 on DH last night. I'd made fajitas and when I asked how he liked them, he said the chicken was a little dry. He has always been super complimentary about my cooking but lately he's been really nitpicking. So, I mentioned that and said that I thought it might be related to the job. I meant that maybe he was around a bunch of people who are critical of stuff and he was picking up on that. You know what he said? He said "yeah, you may be right. It's just that I get so used to the good food when I'm working. These people really know how to cook" If he'd have said that with a smile, I'd have laughed along with him but he was totally serious....omg - I wanted to throw something at him

Oh wow...well I sure wouldn't be "cooking" with him any time soon had my dh said similar! Men are so dense sometimes when it comes to "how you say it and when you say it". Brain mouth filter malfunction. I'd have used the 2 x 4...but kept it in a vertical position if you catch my meaning.

Callie so happy to hear you are not coughing as much today.  Happy Birthday to David!! Hope Billy gets to feeling better soon.

Glenda so happy to hear about your DS getting  a job, yea!

Tina....I have those "feel crappy in my clothes days" more often than not since " men-o-paws"   Something that fit last week feels too tight next week....I cant stand that!   However; I am sure you look great and it is all in your head, lol,  so my hubby always assures me. 

So I was trying to think of a good soup recipe and remembered one that Bonita of Bwanna gave me last year.  It was awesome and perfect for this time of year.  I will try to find the thread if anyone wants to try it.  Simple, recipe excell taste.

Hugs to those that need them...

JackieG

It always makes me wonder if they say stuff like this because they're clueless about how it could cause hurt feelings

My DH is more clueless sometimes than the average guy. What's interesting about him saying something like this tho is that he's super sensitive when he cooks at work. He's still pretty insecure about it and if anyone makes even the slightest negative comment, he takes it to heart. You'd think that would make him more thoughtful but it actually seems to be having the opposite affect. To quit cooking would only punish me. He's usually been my biggest fan, so I guess a discussion is in order.

shadowsgin

However; I am sure you look great and it is all in your head

Thanks, Ginger. 

Nicole, I would send my DS away except his car is in need of repairs and he can't drive it right now and he has no money.  I refuse to give him any because I swore when he moved home I would not enable him.  The only other option is for me to leave, and I am hoping to next week for a few days.

Cathy, I'm sorry your DH made such a lunkhead statement.  Last person who said this to me was met with the following options: make your own dinner, go buy yourself something else to eat, or go home and have your mommy fix it for you.  Probably why I have relationship troubles.

Well, I just told my boss in a professional way, but essentially stating they had no business selling a service they just sold (that I'm going to be responsible for and I'm not qualified. Hopefully, they won't just fire me over what Isaid (ok that may be me just catastophizing lol I made my argument but stated the service was sold and I would do my best to execute the program).

Oh, and my review is tomorrow. I'm sure this will come up. Ugh. My stomach is in knots.

Working from home today.  Riley had her regular pediatrian's doctor appt. this morning.  He says she's doing good and feels that her "behavior" is something that she will grow out of and not to worry.  She basically FREAKS OUT whenever we go to the doctor's.  She's is fine until he or she wants to do anything to her, whether its weigh her, take her temp, etc.  Her JRA doc was worried that her behavior might fall on the autism spectrum, so it was a huge relief that my doc says everything is fine.

Cathy - my DH is a bone head too.  I think they are just born like that.

Gina - hope your back gets better

Good thoughts to everyone else!

Callie, glad you're feeling better but sorry to hear about Billy.  Feel better, little dude.

Glenda, congrat on DS's job.  That must be a big relief for both of you.

Tina, take the pants back. 

Cathy, the boys never complain about anything I fix, but that's only because they know what my response would be ... "fine, do it yourself from now on."

I can't believe how warm it was yesterday - it got up to 82.  We had days in July and August that were cooler than that.  A cool front is supposed to be on the way and the prediction is rain for Friday and the weekend.  We'll see. 

Joyce

rwbeagles

Brain mouth filter malfunction

Ahh yes, Gina the Succinct!!  Bravo! 

DH has been working like crazy lately, 11 hour days for at least the last couple months, with no end in sight and it's really been wearing on me. I am sick of doing everything around the house by myself when he comes home and in a few hours creates most of the mess. I am sick of hardly ever seeing him too. I feel selfish, because I know he's under a large amount of stress at work, but it is stressful for me as well.

There, those are my vents for the day.

mrstjohnson

Her JRA doc was worried that her behavior might fall on the autism spectrum, so it was a huge relief that my doc says everything is fine.

*sigh* I wish doc's would be more careful throwing this A word out and about the way they do. Lily went thru a stage where she was terrified of the docs too. She was SURE she was getting a shot or something awful. Not suprisingly this was shortly after she had a urinary thing and they needed to use a CATHETER on her...at about 2-3 years old. Yeah trauma at that age...even the relatively minor trauma of frequent visits for an illness...can do that to kids. It does not mean they have autism. That is something you rule out or in with extensive TESTING...not like that *snaps fingers*.

Pet peeve...sorry...but you can understand why I bet LOL.

.stacer.

DH has been working like crazy lately, 11 hour days for at least the last couple months, with no end in sight and it's really been wearing on me. I am sick of doing everything around the house by myself when he comes home and in a few hours creates most of the mess. I am sick of hardly ever seeing him too. I feel selfish, because I know he's under a large amount of stress at work, but it is stressful for me as well.

I get this, totally. Mine had the auditors come out to his bank and he was working a LOT more and longer than usual..including weekends. It was unbelieveably stressful. Not fun.

I don't know if you also work but what helped me was to declutter the house and keep it much tidier than normal. If you look around and see very little clutter you will feel calmer. It was tough here because I am not naturally a domestic type but I parcelled it out over a couple of days of the week...and with the kids and dogs here I'd be lying if I said it was simple BUT...it helped HIM not be stressed at home...feel like he could relax,...and that in turn helped me not bounce off his stress level and react with equal vileness lol. It helped us all as a family...and it has stuck a little and become a bit of a habit and he pitches in willingly now, because he likes the way it looks tidied up and I am not always able to do it.

.stacer.

Probably fleas the vet expects.

Well, considering you have birds in the house, it could be other things, too.

Tina, it's amazing that without money, your son finds ways to go off for the weekend.  Too bad his generous friends can't find ways to feed him at home, too. lol

Cathy, I'm sorry your hubs said that.  I never ask for critiques of my food unless I say "Is it ok?" - that's the only level of acceptable criticism I want to take about the food I prepare.  If it's ok, fine.  If it's great, feel free to compliment. If it's awful, TELL ME.  But don't hold me to any higher standard than "OK". lol

Willa had a dentist this morning and she freaked out too! "STOP BRUSHING MY TEETH ANYMORE!" she screamed at the poor hygienist. Then she stopped crying long enough to say, "Willa being naughty." lol She did not like the taste/texture of the fluoride they painted on her teeth, either. But she got a new toothbrush, toothpaste, a princess flosser, and she got to pick a prize from the basket. She chose a pencil. Whatever, she was happy with it. And she was totally fine once it was all over.