angelamarie
Posted : 6/15/2006 6:03:54 PM
Okay, here's a question for Mic and others that really understand the doggie mind, and it ties in with the alpha issue.
Our darling adopted Teddy, who we've been working very hard with for almost 5 months, is submissive and repressed to the extent that he is absolutely joyless. He does not play at all and his greetings when we return home aren't ones of joy and YAHOO you're home, they are ones of total desperation. He came from a home where there were 7 dogs and was obviously the bottom of the heap. Also, he was bounced between a woman and her daughter's home so (I don't think) ever had the opportunity to strongly bond with just one person, as a toy poodle typically will. He is incredibly needy, there's not enough attention in the world for him. He's desperate. But, I must say, he's not as desperate as he was when he first came here, now that he sees that there's 4 people here who give him lots of love every day. Before coming here, he spent the majority (like up to 20 hours) a day in a crate.
In our home, he is at the bottom of the heap, under 5 pound Misty. I work very hard to give them each equal attention, equal walks, equal lap time, equal everything. But, he will always allow her to push him around, take a stick from him, what ever. We had a behaviorist at the house yesterday who suggested that his little light isn't going to shine unless he is in a one-dog only home. The discussion involved a whole lot more than that, but that's the part I ponder right now. (We took him with a commitment to rehabilitate and train him and possibly keep him for good.)
Today, I had a discussion with a friend who's a very experienced dog owner and a Cesar Milan fan (Note: she has alot of submissive peeing among her clan, that tells you something about that method). Her opinion was that someone always has to be on the bottom of the pecking order and his little light won't shine in a home without any other dog because he'll be miserable without another dog around, even though he's the one getting pushed about.
What do you think? I don't know what I think, I'm all too emotionally wrecked by the last few months of getting this guy's house in order.