Memorial Day Chat

Is it just me or isn't WED the 2nd?  I've been a bit flakey lately so I might be totally messed up date wise.

I believe that I would do as you've suggested, and email a scanned copy back, but also request that the benefit package be dropped in the mail for you.

Yep you're right, I mean Wed.

Well, it tells me they're anxious to move forward, so that's a good thing.  I actually expect the June 2nd deadline was deliberate, assuming he would overnight it on Tuesday, the 1st, so it would arrive on Wednesday the 2nd.

That being said, it's really unusual to not have at least a general benefits explanation.  Maybe someone forgot to add that to the package and they can send you a link to something that at least gives cursory info??  I think the email asking for clarification is appropriate.

Melinda, I'm glad that you are getting him out.  There is no reason that anyone should be treated in the way that he's treating you. 

griffinej5

I'd let them know that, in this case, since he is taking it, that he does intend to take it maybe, but that it wasn't possible to get it there by the second. In a non-blaming way, I'd just ask about the benefits package not being there.

This is how I would deal with it as well.

The grooming shop owner called tonight to ask why I refused to pay for Angel's groom.  I explained what had happened, & she admitted that I wasn't the first person who has had problems with her new person.  She offered to try to fix Angel tomorrow morning.  She was very apologetic.

I am a bit annoyed with my sister in law to be.  She & my brother are getting married in November.  Initially, the wedding was supposed to be "all about family."  She insisted that all of their brothers & sisters were members of the wedding party.  As planning progressed, she decided that she has another friend who has to be a bridesmaid, so she asked me to "not be offended but she wanted her friend as a BM instead of me."  I was a little offended, but I was also relieved that I wasn't going to have to deal with BM's duties.  Today, she calls me to see if I can address invitations, plan the wedding shower, & bachelorette party, as well as creating the seating arrangement for her.  I am fairly certain that it isnt' my job to deal with any of that crap.  I had to ask why her bridesmaids weren't helping her, & her response was "they are really busy, & I don't want to bother them with it."  I told her that I'd have to see if I would have time between work, & kids.  I don't want to hurt her feelings, because she really is a nice girl, & I really do like her, but I am not helping.  PERIOD.  She has eight bridesmaids.  She had best find a way to get them to fit her stuff into their busy schedules, because I'm not willing  to help.

Have you ever told someone you'd have lunch and then when the time came think, "what the hell did I say I would do this for?"  That's me.  That's it, I'm making DH come too. 

Amanda, is she serious?  They are too busy?  Well, she should of thought of that before she said you weren't in it!!  I had a friend who did something similar to me and then the friends that she did have really couldn't afford to be in it.  Oh, what a ridiculous mess that was. 

Melinda, that's scary stuff.  I'm glad you are getting out of there!

A couple we are very good friends with just lost their Beagle.  He was elderly and had some health issues and it was just time.  He hadn't eaten in days they said. The husband had texted DH earlier today that they might need to take him today.  And, then later we got another message that it did in fact happen that way.  They had two and lost both within this past year.  They were close in age.  I've gotten a Christmas card with a big picture of the beagles for years.  I'm really going to miss those two! 

Willow has decided that today she's only going to eat dry food.  This is after 7 years of never touching it no matter how doctored up it was. 

 I did tell him to get the heck out he said he wasn't going anywhere till the 20th. My friends know what is going on and are willing to help me out either move my stuff out, kick him out, and little a$$ whooping if need be. I haven't told my mom yet because I'm hoping he will leave come the 20th.

Could it be she feels guilty about not having you in the wedding party and wants to make you feel like more of an important part of the wedding? So you don't feel left out, by giving you important "jobs"?  That was my initial reaction from reading it - especially where you say she's normally a nice girl.  (You know, how the people that are important but not in the bridal party are given the weird "important" jobs like being a speaker, "being in charge of the guest book", etc)

OH - made me think... one friend got married with no real bridal party - I was a speaker at that wedding.  She got divorced 6 mos later, and at her next wedding only had her sister as a bridesmaid.  However, she asked her friends for help setting things up and moving things along.  We got a 5 page list of directions set up in 10 or 15 minute increments of how things were supposed to go, with assignments of who was supposed to do what.  Had we not been friends since we were 9yrs old, I doubt I would have done it. 

I'm all for the eloping couples!

miranadobe

Well, it tells me they're anxious to move forward, so that's a good thing.  I actually expect the June 2nd deadline was deliberate, assuming he would overnight it on Tuesday, the 1st, so it would arrive on Wednesday the 2nd.

That being said, it's really unusual to not have at least a general benefits explanation.  Maybe someone forgot to add that to the package and they can send you a link to something that at least gives cursory info??  I think the email asking for clarification is appropriate.

Yep, nothing shady as far as the job offer, it's a done deal.  The principal e-mailed DH last week Monday and assumed it would arrive the next day, but it didn't until Friday hence my reluctance to mail it back and assume it would get there in time.  He also casually mentioned that "so and so will have to get you the insurance info when you meet with so and so..." which is a meeting scheduled for July.  Um, no, I need to re-enroll in less than two weeks.  I wrote an e-mail for DH basically demanding in a non-demanding way that we have the info in our hands and mentioned my due date multiple times.  I told him he can always tell the principal, "my wife won't stop bitching about it" and blame it on me, I don't care.

Lies, they probably put a deadline on the contract so there was an end date sort of thing, so that it wouldn't be waiting to be done all summer, or until the person decides to get around to it, type thing.  But congrats to you and your DH on the job!