I am still up, so I'm starting up today's chat. I've never started the chat before.
First, Happy Memorial Day.
I am totally pissed off. I went down the shore, which translates as to the beach for people not from my area. We were supposed to leave by 9:30. I knew they would be late, and I got there to leave at 9:45. We never ended up leaving until 11:15. We were definitely supposed to be home yesterday, rather than today. We got back at about 3:30 AM. When it was time to get dinner, people hemmed and hawed for an hour over whether to get the pizzas to go and bring them back to the house, or to walk down to the place and eat there. Myself, the kid I went with, and his dad walked back to the house at 11:00 from going on rides. The others were supposed to join us a half hour later so we could go. They didn't come for another hour and half. There were no lines on the rides, so they didn't consider that I might need to get home, or more importantly that the driver might be getting tired. When they finally got back, they realized the one kid bought the wrong size shirt, so they ran back down to try to exchange that. We didn't leave until a little after 1 AM.
In the midst of this, my mom sent me a message to complain about my leaving Luke. She attempted to actually accuse me of neglecting my dog. Without getting into too much, I have threatened to follow her car before if she took the dogs with her and call the cops to have them bust out the windows if she left the dogs in it on certain days. I knew she was home, I didn't call her because I knew she would take him out, and that if I did call she was going to try to engage me in a screaming match. My mom argues with people a lot. I think the function of her arguing behaviors is attention. So, since we are all sick and tired of every conversation with her becoming yelling and cursing, we are working very hard on putting her behavior on extinction. I have to say, I really do love that I often win the yelling matches. I don't like that it's almost impossible to have a conversation with her that doesn't turn into her trying to have a yelling match. You can't debate anything with her, because it ends with something in which she tries to play the martyr, or takes the attitude that we are trying to out do her with our superior education (she stopped school after high school). She absolutely hates the use of facts from well known sources in a discussion. So, we're trying not to do this at all, but I find it quite hard. If I scream at her, she temporarily backs down. What's that thing they say about killing them with kindness? Maybe I need to try that.