Friends w/ the ex?

Chuffy

If one of them was a mechanic, you bet I'd be dropping my car round there.  They're LESS likely to screw me over than some other mechanics I could mention....

That's what I was thinking. I have been over-charged by a mechanic when I had my first SUV and was still in highschool, trying to be responsible (bought the car with my own money, paid for the repairs myself), and it really, really sucked.

Chuffy

Edit: Ummm sorry about the pun.  But you get my meaning.

I got what you meant .

sharismom

I'm with Tiffy.  Don't do it.  He offered to help, but you initiated the contact, which at some point could be misconstrued (by him).

In my experience, men might say they are okay with harmless flirting, but it's bitten me in the butt a few times, so tread very carefully.

Besides, I would prefer to find my own solutions without being obligated to an ex.  There are just too many mixed feelings involved on both sides.

Exactly!

I think if you are going to have him to the work at all have your husband drop off the truck and do all the dealings with him. 

I have an ex, that is also a musician in the same circle of friends as my husband.  I have no contact with him but my husband sometimes has to deal with him.  And, they are fine with each other.  It's not that I think you shouldn't be "friends" with him on FB but I'd keep it at a distance and to a minimum.