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I'm so afraid right now.....

Posted : 3/4/2008 9:14:38 AM

I'm a tough old broad and can handle just about anything life throws at me, but, this one has me shaking in my boots and suffering horrible anxiety attacks.

DH and I are both out of work, have been for months. The guy who owns the house we wanted to buy has decided that we need to move, despite paying rent through all this. His son and fiance are as we speak moving into the lower level and she is a non stop whiner. The owner and his son are drinking like mad and fighting....loudly.....pretty constantly.

We HAVE to get out of here, but, we have no place to go, no family who happens to have an extra house sitting around vacant, and no money to even move. It is looking like we are going to have to find a park and live in the RV until DH gets a job. Which is going to be harder with no phone or internet, and three adults, two cats and six german shepherds in the RV will not be a lot of fun. Everything we own will have to go into storage.

I'm absoluely terrified. I'm usually able to stay really upbeat and positive, but I've been doing that for months and my optimism is wearing a little thin. At the very BEST we have to be out by April 1st, and thats IF the fiance doesn't get her way and IF we can deal with this for that long.

So, some good vibes and prayers for a job for DH FAST and the means and method to actually move to where ever that is. FAST. Hate to be asking yet again, but, things are really getting scarey here!

dogslife

Posted : 3/4/2008 9:22:10 AM

If you have been renting, did you have a contract? I do not understand how they could move in while you are paying rent. Sounds like you could use legal advice. Know a good lawyer?

Benedict

Posted : 3/4/2008 9:23:04 AM

I'm sorry, Glenda. I wish I had some advice, but my fingers are crossed for you. I hope things start to look up soon.

glenmar

Posted : 3/4/2008 9:28:09 AM

Our lease was up last May and we've been on a month to month. We could buy some time by refusing to move when he's demanded we move, and force him to evict us, but, that at best would give us another month, and things could get mighty ugly in that time, with the son living downstairs. Unfortunately it was agree to have the son take the lower level or flat get out. He did give us notice, but.

And, I've talked to an attorney and to the state. No help there.

dogslife

Posted : 3/4/2008 9:31:46 AM

At least you have a motorhome.

What about a realtor? Seems like Mi has more than enough land to provide. But this economy is something else, esp in Mi.

Are you way north?

*Sending healing and calming prayers for you and your family.* Something will improve. Sounds like you are both ready to move.

marty_ga

Posted : 3/4/2008 9:57:45 AM

You've got my prayers, Glenda...that must be a really scarey situation to be in. Prayers sent for jobs, any jobs will help.

Didn't you say your Mom's house was empty while she is in assisted living? Or maybe I missed something...that's entirely possible.

denise m

Posted : 3/4/2008 10:04:30 AM

I'm soooo sorry to hear things are so rough. I know you must be really worried as you never whine about things. I have no advice to offer but you have my prayers that things will work out. You are a Good person, so I know good things will happen for you.

Jewlieee

Posted : 3/4/2008 10:26:22 AM

What is your DH trained in? Have you checked the State of MI job postings?

http://web1mdcs.state.mi.us/vacancyweb/vacancyinq.asp

There are several in the north region - depending on what you are both trained for. Although any job may be welcome at this point?

I do feel for you, people can only take so much stress. Just keep doing your walks with the dogs to try to keep the stress at bay a bit. I wish that I could offer you some land to live on up there or something.

Firestorm

Posted : 3/4/2008 11:33:11 AM

As my mother has always said it will all come out in the wash. Good vibes headed your way. Keep your chin up and it will all be ok.

glenmar

Posted : 3/4/2008 12:08:51 PM

Mom's house is empty, but it's on the market so she can continue to pay the 3+ grand per month for her assisted living apartment. In fact, she just got an offer on it, so that's out.

DH is a radio programmer/ops manager and I've been in sales and marketing for years. I do have an accounting degree, but no practicle experience.

cakana

Posted : 3/4/2008 12:10:17 PM

Glenda - I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I've been in a somewhat similar situation and I know the kind of fear that makes your stomach stay knotted up for hours/days on end. I also know that at the time it seems like it'll never get better, but somehow it always does. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Cita

Posted : 3/4/2008 12:15:30 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about your challenges, I hope things will pick up for you soon. Maybe someone in the iDog network will have some job ideas? Sure seems like we should have a lot of good connections here...

auburn2932

Posted : 3/4/2008 12:21:46 PM

Glenda, God Bless you and help you in your time of need. My prayers are with you.

Hugs

calliecritturs

Posted : 3/4/2008 12:32:20 PM

Glenda -- you've got all MY prayers and good thots. gosh I'm sorry -- been thinking of you a bunch lately and now I know why!!

keedokes

Posted : 3/4/2008 12:51:09 PM

'Just keep swimming, just keep swimming swimming swimming!!!'

Prayers going up here...things will work out!! You're more than welcome to come hang out here for awhile but we're in Southern WI and have only an unfinished basement as far as space goes, so I don't think that would work. The RV idea sounds like a good one, if you can put up with six german shepherds in your face 24-7. Check Craigslist for jobs, check everywhere!! Things will work out.