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In memory of Rich

Posted : 1/9/2008 7:23:53 PM

Yous have all ben so supportive I just wish you all could have known Rich. Truely to know him was to love him. This is a poem my step sister wrote in his memory and it comes so close to showing a big part of him I had to share.

Can I have this dance for the rest of my life?"
On October 11th of 1980, we became husband and wife.
Twenty seven years together in life
Twenty seven years adoring my wife.
I had three children before we met,
And now three grandchildren compete the set.
We ventured on trips and took rides in the car
took shortcuts that ended up going so far.
We cherished our pets, Our dogs and our birds,
The joy that they bring can not be put into words
"I so loved to eat cookies,
Penny's fresh baked were great.
It didn't take long and the last one was ate.
I loved to watch squirrels,eagles.turkeys and deer,
And the birds outside seem to come so near.
Anyone with a need, I was so willing to give,
Helping all that i could, thats the way i would live.
Life is too short to be selfish and greedy,
I'd take all that I had and give to the needy.
My love for my mother was easily shown.
"Don't mess with my mother!" was very well known.
I always wanted to protect her and make sure she was well.
Having her for a mom was really quite swell.
One day cancer came like a thief in the night.
Cutting short our plans taking all of my might.
I held on as long as I possibly could.
You stayed by my side as you promised you would.
But one day god hollered" its time to come home."
I so didn't want to leave you alone.
But God has a plan we don't always understand.
Just remember I'll always be holding your hand.
I'll forever reside in your heart it is true.
I'll forever be a part of you.
So when your feeling lonely sad and blue,
Just look in your memory and I will be dancing with you!

In memory Of Richard Stach
Author Sandy Cholewa

It make me so sad that smoking stold him from me. Even his death certificate states clearly smoking contributed to his death.
I mentioned before I would fall apart later, well I have Just going to the food mart today and not trying to get anything for him had me bawling like a baby. I know I have a zillion tears left to shed But I sure to wish I could do it while I'm alone.

cakana

Posted : 1/9/2008 7:34:55 PM

Julie - that poem is beautiful and a wonderful tribute to Rich but also to you. I know how hard these days and nights must be and all I can say is to be as kind to yourself as Rich would've wanted. If you need to cry in the grocery store or anywhere else, then so be it. It will get better but as you said, you've still got a lot of tears to shed. The last few months had to have taken a toll on you both physically and mentally and now is the time for you to focus on you. I'm still thinking about you and saying prayers for comfort and strength. Hugs to you.

Bkimura28

Posted : 1/9/2008 7:37:21 PM

That was beautiful, I actually felt teary! I'm so sorry for your loss :( CANCER SUCKS!

calliecritturs

Posted : 1/9/2008 11:05:48 PM

Julie -- you've been on my heart all week -- that was awesome. Thank you SO much for sharing him with us that way!

marty_ga

Posted : 1/10/2008 8:22:04 AM

Hugs to you...he sounds like a wonderful person to have in your life.

JoAnnDe

Posted : 1/10/2008 11:03:08 AM

Julie, I wanted you to know that Rich did not die in vain. I've decided to quit smoking. Unlike the last three times I quit I feel more motivated this time, and I attribute a great deal of that to having followed the threads on Rich.

My sincere condolences to you. I will say a prayer for you to find comfort in the happy memories you have - Rich's life may have been cut short in terms of years, but it was very long on love and good times.

rwbeagles

Posted : 1/10/2008 11:05:53 AM

My condolences on your loss....your passage was beautiful to read. Wife, woman, lady...you are a wonder!

agilebasenji

Posted : 1/11/2008 12:10:44 AM

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JoAnneDe - That's beautiful.

Julie, I can only imagine what you must be going through. I hope you can feel some peace soon. Be kind to yourself.

spiritdogs

Posted : 1/11/2008 2:32:15 PM

I cannot even imagine the depth of your loss, but I know that in life, all of us have our sorrows to bear. The one thing that helps us is the love and comfort of our friends and family. We are glad to have become a little cyber-family for you here, and I think I speak for everyone when I say that we are still here for you in your grief. We have come to appreciate that Rich was a very special person. And, so are you.

jessies_mom

Posted : 1/11/2008 8:42:59 PM

juliekay
well I have Just going to the food mart today and not trying to get anything for him had me bawling like a baby. I know I have a zillion tears left to shed But I sure to wish I could do it while I'm alone.

Oh, honey, don't worry about what others think. It will be easier to control the tears with time; your courage in facing this ordeal has been incredible. Thanks so much for sharing the poem; Rich was a very special person. I'll keep you in my prayers.

boneyjean

Posted : 1/13/2008 6:40:10 PM

Wow....what a wonderful poem. Thank you for sharing. I continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. As time passes it will begin to hurt a little less. Until then, take care of yourself...and try not to worry about what others think of you.

cakana

Posted : 1/29/2008 9:52:03 PM

Hey Julie - it's been a couple weeks and I just wanted to check to see how you're doing. I honestly can't imagine what you're going thru but I hope you're spending some time taking care of yourself and you're doing okay.