AuroraLove
Posted : 8/13/2008 12:48:02 PM
DPU
What???? You conform, you consider yourself part of a pack of dogs? Tell me, have you ever observed a pack of dogs meeting a new dog for the first time. If you have, compare that to the greetings of you and your dogs, the behavior is not the same. I don't greet my dogs the way dogs greet each other and the dogs don't greet me the same way as they do with other dogs.
Well your reading a bit more into what I said then I intended but I should have ellaborated a bit. Your example of greeting dosnt pertain to what I was implying at all. Its a scenario you made up in your head to make your point, LOL.
For example when I teach my pups to come for the first time I've learned that turning my body away from them conveys to them what I want from them. For example in a dog pack the alpha dosnt go round everyone up and say "come on guys, its time to go", LOL he just turns and walks away. This simple exercise has NOTHING to do with displaying a alpha role or dominance, its about utilizing their natural receptors to follow those of the pack.
I yawn at Rory in public if she gets excited. If she tries to approach me when I'm eating I'll scowl at her.....no need to yell, I'm speaking to her through body language.
I don't care if anyone says I anthroposmophize my dogs. I show my dogs considerations just as I would like that same consideration. I am so surprised to continually read on forums that people believe you have to eat first before the dogs or you have to go through the door first.
Going first through the door. What is actually accomplished by that. The human has to open the door and the dogs are behind you. If the dogs were at the door, how does the human open the door. The human also has to hold the door open for the dogs to go through, just like the service provider doorman at major hotels. The dogs have to pass you and be in front of you at some time when going through the door. Just doesn't make any sense at all.
This topic was brought up with the thought in mind that sometimes anthroposomizing can go overboard......we all do it to a certain extent and there is no reason to be defensive about it.
I'm a bit confused as to why you completely took my comment about eating and doorways out of context, LOL. I'm not sure why you see it as me trying to be dominant or see it as uneccessary. I clearly stated
" they overlook the safety factor in it and competely ignore the fact that I attribute my dogs great manners to the accumualtion of such small obediance rituals".
Asking my dogs to wait before proceeding through a door is strictly a safety routine. Just becasue its stated in some strict dog practices dosnt mean I ask that of my dogs to use is as a reason to lord over my dogs, LOL. You can interpret it as a negative act but it works for my dogs. It ensures they are calm and composed before we go for a walk. It ensures that my dogs will never bolt into the street or out of a car door. I don't see whats wrong with that?
As for me eating first, I attribute that to helping ensure my dogs do not beg. When I first brought Rory adn Primo home they did beg. So I put them outside where they could watch the family eat dinner though the sliding glass door and after we were done they were fed. It has done wonders to keep them from hanging around under the kitchen table or coming near us while we eat. They know the repurcussion is being put outside. Its manners, not dominance.
We've both been on here long enough for you to kow I spoil my dogs. I just require them to have a specific amount of maners.....as I;m sure you do as well. Just because I go about it in maybe a different way dosnt give you cause to be so rude. I certainly am not using negative reinforcement.