nfowler
Posted : 9/16/2006 7:38:31 PM
Lori--
I think you do a great job of balancing Willow's "social" skills at your house. I know she sees people there and then she is put away with a treat and she's happy and you get to visit. And I know she gets out, too, on her walks. I think you have a nice balance going there.
One of the most interesting things I came across was Pat Miller's writing about how a dog owner ought to manage the dog/situation until the dog can handle it. If that never happens, then it doesn't, and if does, then it does.
I think my goal, with Murphy, is to manage him so nobody is hurt whiile I keep working with him. I don't want to just manage him and nothing else, because I believe he has a lot of potential, but I have to manage him and keep everyone safe until (or if) he "gets there."
Last weekend when he saw my sister (aka "Cookie Lady") come through the garage door, he didn't bark, like he would have 3 months ago. Instead, he bounded across the room to her, wagging his tail so much his body was wiggling. He did the same thing when he saw my boyfriend last night, and he doesn't see Jim very often. He was outside, wandering around, and Jim went out with The Guest Only Treats, and Murphy saw him and bounded to him, smiles all over his face. He happily took treats from Jim (aka "Cookie Man") and that made me so happy. He even tried to give him a kiss, but I told Jim to "keep your face up away from him" out of, well, informed nerves. I don't think he would have bit Jim, but hey, I'm not taking any chances yet. He was smiling and trying to lick his face, but still.
It's made the little work I've done in this area worth it. And trust me, it's been a lot of work for two small results and that will fuel me for a long time. I also keep The Guest Only Treats on me for a couple of elderly people and two kids (under 10, so, scary situation, I kow) he has visited (for months now) before (in the neighborhood). I let them toss treats down to Murphy--obviously, since I'm nervous about him getting too close, I make him sit next to me until the treats are on the ground and everyone has moved back before he gets them--and he's happy to see them--wagging and calm. He sees them as treat dispensers.
So, it's not much and of course I would have to do
tons more, but watching him
want to approach Jim and my sister meant the world to me.