Thanks all for the help and advice.
I sat down last night and really wracked my brain on all of this. Given what I know of Ogre and his personality, I think I've figured out what's going on here.
Let me prefrace this by saying that Ogre (and akitas in general) are NOT, behaviorally and mentally, like most other dogs- some of the conclusions I've made here may seem to some people to be stretching it a bit, but those with Akita experience will tell you- Akitas do not forget things and they do not necessarily forgive like other dogs do. They are very proud dogs and when they feel slighted, they don't let it go. I think that they are able to make certain connections in their mind that other dogs are not necessarily able to make- my experience with Ogre has definitely shown this to be the case.
Alright. This all started with us getting Culley. Ogre saw this as "slight against him #1." This was almost 2 weeks before we moved to this house, around the first of June. He met Culley with no problem on neutral ground, but when Ogre saw that he was to be living with us, he was horribly offended. He ignored me for several days completely- if I spoke to him or showed him any affection he simply got up and left the room. He was not aggressive to Culley, but it was very obvious that he did NOT like him. I honestly thought this was something he would get over in time- but again, Akitas, when they feel they have been slighted, do not usually forget.
He started acting out in general because of Culley. Now, I have seen this with Ogre before- this is a very definite pattern that I know all too well with him. I do something that offends him or hurts his feelings, and he acts out for DAYS. Something I do upsets him, and he forgets house training, is generally grumbly, he sulks, he gets horribly irritable, he destroys this in the house- he develops alot of stress related, SA-like behaviors- this can be from something as simple as giving him less than another dog gets of a certain treat- he honestly keeps tabs on things like that. ANYTHING he considers to be unfair results in these behaviors.
Once he starts with these behaviors, one of two things happen. If I spend the next few days sucking up to him, he'll return to his normal happy self. IF I get frustrated with how silly he's being, and yell at him, snap at him, or in any way show that I am upset with him, he gets worse. Much worse. Until I stop being snotty with him (usually I'm just stressed about everything he's spent a few days destroying) he continues on his downward path. 99% of the time, once I realize that I'm perpetuating the behavior and stop, it only takes a couple of days for him to get better.
I want to make it clear though that these are NOT dominance behaviors that he's showing. He is NOT trying to dominate me. Ogre doesn't want to run things- he wants equality. Not equality with humans, he never questions his place with us- but equality with the other dogs. He watches VERY carefully every interaction with the other dogs and if he EVER feels that he somehow get less than one of the other dogs- less food, less time, less praise- he begins to act this way. He doesn't seem to want special treatment or extra consideration- he just wants to know that what he's getting is exactly the same. He's like a 5 year old that has a tantrum because he thinks his sibling got a bigger half of a cookie than he did. That's Ogre to a T.
I don't know what about Culley upset him. He was fine when we introduced Butter, he was fine when we introduced Madison, he was fine when we introduced Chief a few weeks ago. He chose to dislike Culley for whateevr reason and I'm pretty sure he's never going to let it go. That's fine- I knew when I got potentially dog aggressive breeds that this was very likely to come up. We're still adjusting, but we'll get used to it. These things take time.
So. The next problem in his head. He was already upset, already acting out, and then we moved him to this new place. The second he got out here, he killed some chickens. I can see now some things that were leading up to this point- after freaking out about Culley, he forgot his house training and was even refusing some of his basic obedience- I think that this is just another aspect of his training that he let go after Culley got here. Prior to this, he was completely trustworthy with small animals- he wanted to chase cats if they ran from him, but other than that he was fine- we taught him a very good "leave it" and a very good recall, and he was at the point where he would let the chickens walk on his back and peck food out of his food bowl WHILE he was eating- so this chicken killing thing was very new.
So. He killed the chickens and I FREAKED out at him. He had one of the chicken in his mouth, and, in tears and completely freaking out, I started smacking him in the face trying to get him to let it go. This was "Slight #2." I have NEVER, ever hit him before and I could clearly see the disbelief in his face. Now that I think about it, he has not shown much affection towards me- save for one or two occasions when we were playing and he forgot that he was supposed to be mad at me- since that day.
Slight #3 happened a few weeks later. After he had his horrible fight with Culley, they had to be seperated. Since they can't even be in the house together for the most part, I decided one of them was going to have to stay primarily outside. Since Ogre was having so many problems, pooping on the floor, destroying things, etc- I decided that Culley would get the majority of inside time and Ogre would mostly stay out. This was a huge, HUGE mistake. Ogre has always HATED being left outside. He wants to go outside to potty and immediately come back in. To him, being stuck outside while the rest of the family is inside is the biggest insult in the world. So he decided, "Fine. If I'm stuck out here, not important enough to be part of the family, I'll go make some fun for myself. Screw you guys." and that's when he started chasing livestock. I know that most of you will say that a dog 's mind doesnt work that way- but I promise you, HIS does. Akitas are honestly NOT like other dogs.
For some reason, at this point, I STILL didn't make the connection in my mind as to what was going on. In hindsight, I should have simply rotated them every couple of hours instead of forcing one to stay primarily outside- that was stupid. That's a change I'm going to make today.
Slight #4- Muzzling him. He could not believe this horrible contraption I kept strapping to his face. His behavior got worse after I started making him wear it. He is beyond insulted and has refused to even look at me since I bought it. I think the muzzle needs to go away.
Slight #5- Tieing him up outside. He doesn't mind tie-outs if he's jkust going to the bathroom and then coming back in, but being stuck on one is pretty horrible in his mind. He thinks it's completely unfair.
Slight#6- The electric fence. Some people are going to think this is a stretch, but I PROMISE it isn't. He studied us the entire time we put the fence up. Right after we finished installing it, he tried to jump the fence and was shocked on it. Instead of being upset at the fence, he turned and glared at ME- then went inside and hid in the bathroom and refused to come out for a few hours. He knows we installed the fence, and he associates the horrible thing with US....and he is completely offended. In his mind, the electric fence is no better than a shock collar or being beaten. I think the electric fence needs to go away.
Wow. It all seems so clear to me now. This stuff all happened so gradually that I didn't make the connection- I think that everything that is happening now is just a much larger-scale version of one of his little temper tantrums. I can see how I have been approaching this wrong now.
I have been pretty cold towards him lately. I am guilty of yelling at him. I am guilty of saying rude things to him. Instead of trying to understand where he was coming from, I was trying to force him to just shut up and do what I wanted him to- which has not EVER worked on him. Ogre is a very willing PARTNER....but he is not happy with the role of "pet." He will do what you ask if you ask nicely- but the "Do as I say because I am your master and shut up" concept has never appealed much to him. I have had the completely wrong attitude through all of this and I see that now.
To those who think I should go with the behaviorist who wanted to use a shock collar on him- do you see now why that wouldn't work? When I got Ogre, I used traditional training methods. I was also a big believer in the whole "dominance" thing and I actually was abig follower of Cesar Millan. (Hate to throw names around, but it's true.) Ogre changed that for me. If you get harsh with Ogre, he flops down on his belly, his eyes glaze over, and he goes somewhere else mentally. He completely shuts down. He will have none of it. I am 100% certain that if I put a shock collar on Ogre and started alpha rolling him, he would be attacking people in a matter of days. This is not a matter of me not wanting to pay the behaviorist that's willing to come out here- this is a matter of me knowing my dog and knowing that those methods will only make him worse.
**Content removed. Personal material belongs in PM.** Ogre and I have been through ALOT together. When I got him he was a neurotic, fear aggressive mess. He had never set foot inside a house before and he couldn't even walk up to everyday objects without urinating in fear. He snapped at strangers who tried to pet him. Walking through crowds resulted in him urinating and defecating in fear and then completely shutting down. Clicker training and alot of patience turned out to be his savior- he went from the dog described above to a completely confidant, sweet, wonderful dog. It took ALOT of work, we had some setbacks, but we can now go out in public with zero problems. He accept attention from stranger, even obnoxious screaming children, without the least bit of fear. I know that I CAN be successful with this dog, because I have been in the past. We have, quite honestly, been through much worse than this and I know that we will get through it. I can see now that I have been taking the wrong approach and I can see ALOT of changes that are going to be made TODAY.
Yes, I am stressed out right now- but I don't think that's reason enough to dump my dog. [8|] We will get through this- I feel so much better now that I've sat down and thought about it. I can completely see what's going on here and I have a pretty good idea some things I can do to make it better. I really think that Ogre just needs to feel special again, more part of the family, and he will be fine. I have seen this in him before- just not on such a large scale.
Thank you all for the advice so far- and please, keep it coming. We ARE still going to take him to the vet for a thyroid panel and bloodwork- he has an appt for Monday- but I am thinking, especially now, that this is all a culmination of what he sees as me treating him unfairly.
ETA: Yep, Culley is neutered too. His foster mom had it done before we adopted him. [

] And, Ogre uses valerian to control anxiety- perhaps we'll try Rescue Remedy or soemthing better. Either way I'll talk to the vet about anxiety control when he goes in.
To those who asked how old he is- He's probably about 2. (The vet thought he was less than a year when we got him.) He was 85 pounds when I adopted him last October (and was actually slightly overweight) and 24 inches at the shoulder. He's now 110 pounds and 27 inches at the shoulder, still growing, and he's all muscle- so he's young enough that he's still growing.