nfowler
Posted : 9/12/2006 10:17:12 PM
Perfect, PurplePets, perfect. I'm jumping in, but only to say two things:
1) Just because Brad Pitt hangs with Angelina doesn't make him smarter or more sensitive to me. He's a celebrity--like Julia Roberts--and yet when they open their mouths to philosophize about something, we all listen. We all smile. We all "join the love circle." It's weird. Yeah, CM is a celebrity and all of these posts and emails and discussions just seem to help him make more money. Really.
2) I had a "leash corrective" trainer recently abuse my dog. Badly. I have never wanted to say anything "aloud" about it, for fear of hurting his or his family's feelings, but yes, that's what all of the physical training finally it came to. And it was bad enough that I ended taking her in for a few vet checks, acupuncture, and now surgery. The surgery could have been put off for awhile, but after all of this, I need to jump the gun now and take her in for it in a few days, pay $4k, and hope she recovers well. (I have total faith that she will.)
I liked this trainer for a long time, and I still do, and I think he has great insight into dogs and dog behavior, and even owners/handlers, but after watching some of the

hysicality that kept happening (over the course of a year), and watching that escalate--I began to question that type of training. (I've done "both types" and this is the one I stuck with longer simply because there were more advanced classes offered, which hasn't always been the case with the +R training here.) So, I guess it's all pretty personal. I've seen some dogs do fine with him, as do their handlers. Me? I got to where I couldn't concentrate because I was watching him out of the corner of my eye.
I'm not that "hands on." Not with kids, not with dogs, not with cats. I'm just not. I prefer not to be.(I worked as a counselor to troubled youth and that policy of mine worked to my advantage more than once when other counselors could be pushed to becoming more physical and then the legal trouble started.)
I've watched my dogs be pulled into a Down and it was so painful and so awful to watch--and they fought it and fought it and I wished so badly that I could have traded them places because I "got it" and they didn't. And I've watched my little girl (dog) shut down and stop doing anything and switch to trying everything because she couldn't figure out what it was she was supposed to do in order to avoid getting yelled at or getting popped.
Like I said--some dogs and people do well with very hands-on training; some don't. I have to do what works for me and for my dogs, and I have to be relfective enough to switch gears in a hurry in order to successfully train my "charges." So, I'm going with the clicker.
As an aside, I do struggle with their hopeful eyes when I don't have anything for them (you kow how you surprise them and how eternally hopeful they are), but that's a personal problem . . . [

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PS--Ron: if you write the "raw" book, I'll buy it and I'll make everyone I know buy it, too!