calliecritturs
Posted : 1/1/2007 5:49:33 PM
I'm a former teacher -- the reality is you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink ... and all the permutations of that.
You can't 'force' someone to want to learn or to accept it with good grace and the more you try to legislate it or engineer it the worse it will go awry in reality.
Because somewhere along the line it will get screwed up. Take vaccines for example -- several years ago they began to teach in vet schools that if vets began to 'require' people to do annual vaccinations it would result in better veterinary care -- people would HAVE to bring their dogs in regularly, etc.
Vet care IS better than it used to be -- vets generally do a great job of keeping up and helping people do more and better for their animals.
However -- it's ... as ALL things legislated/pushed/marketed are -- a double-edged sword. WE now have this huge increase in vaccinosis and general immune-mediated problems because dogs are over-vaccinated and over-medicated (while still being poorly bred -- we haven't legislated THAT very well at all).
But the guy who steadfastly says "You can't MAKE me pay all that money to take my dog to a vet" won't. (and he's probably got high cholesterol and wouldn't watch his own heart health anyway either)
We live in the Wal-Mart generation -- I want it cheaper, I want more choice and I want to do it when I want to do it or not at all. People are going to be interested in what they want to be. And often people aren't interested until they HAVE a reason.
I can't tell you how many people I've sent to messageboards to 'learn to be more hands-on' with their dogs AFTER they have come to me for help with IMHA or demodectic mange or other such things. Or people who have bounced off my website and have said 'well my 2 year old pomeranian mostly goes on her pee pee pads/litterbox or usually asks to go out (pick one) but the book from Wal-Mart said she'd be crate-trained in a few weeks.'
They read what they want to read and do what they want to do. One of the big things a website like this CAN do is for folks to get along, treat each other very well and make it easy for a newbie to jump in and ask a stupid question without fear of reprisal or without feeling like "everyone always argues there - I don't DARE say anything".
People are incredibly individual and they're only interested in what they want to be interested in. And often the world is very judgmental and it's heck to pay if you aren't interested in what everyone ELSE thinks you should be interested in (like my mother who thinks I 'waste' my money on sick dogs, or my neighbors who look down on me because I'm not outside 24/7 on the weekends 'taking care of'my lawn and why would ANYONE have a dog who might kill the grass!! eeek!!
We are who we are and we'll garner more support for our opinons by being nice than by being condescending or nasty.
But by being patient and sometimes a word here and there we make progress.
A year and 2 months ago my father (age 82 then) told me he didn't WANT a computer because all people do with them is write letters! I kept talking. He got brave and got his own computer in the spring and today his major topic of conversation with me was whether he was going to use the money he got for Christmas on a Microsoft 6000 laser mouse/keyboard package or if he was going to go with Logitech. I laughingly told him "Dad -- you are about to cross-over into being a GEEK!!! I'm PROUD of you!!"
But he still doesn't feel about animals the way I do. The chasm is a bit less wide now ... but ... it's still there. But I'm still talking ...
But bottom line, mrv is right -- there are your 3 'distinctions' -- but where someone IS between those very likely is dependant on their own personality type, their income, how much they love their dog, and how much their own personality will allow them to change.