Posted : 1/19/2017 4:36:45 PM
You know it's been too long since posting when you have to try multiple log-ins and passwords before you get the right one! I see there are two January threads, so I'll try to refer to news in both of them in this post.
Good to "see" everyone in the New Year, even if it's a bit late. Starting with the lighter news, I'm glad to hear everyone's dogs are doing well -- Glenda and Ginger, your girls sound like charmers, that's for sure! And Callie, your dogs are blessed to have such an attentive and loving home as seniors; you're the best senior dog Mom (the DOGS are seniors, not you -- ha!). Kate, I'm glad Mozey has figured out that car rides sometimes end in happy locations and Rock's possible work with the special needs students sounds like a great opportunity! I saw on the other post that Sky continues to enjoy the natural landscapes and buddies at the park, regardless of the winter season.
Ruby is doing well, despite what has been an extremely unusual cold and snowy winter here. She's had to wear her coat very often, but she still shivers if the walk is long. There is such poor road care for clearing snow and ice here that it can be scary walking her -- I almost need cleats on my boots! Now the rain has returned and there's flooding -- luckily, we're a bit south of the hardest hit areas, so our melting didn't cause any trouble other than a few really large "puddles" on some roads.
I'm sorry to hear about the tough times both your mothers have been going through, Kate and Glenda. I can definitely relate to that. DH's mother has severe dementia, and while her physical needs are met very well by the staff and hospice team at her facility, it's extremely hard on DH to see this "shell" of a person withering before his eyes. She has lots of hallucinations, too (bugs are common, but there have been complex things like people in the closet having secret conversations with the Chinese government). As for "visitors," she has said DH's father has been there many times, and DH has explained that he's in heaven, but she doesn't understand.
Similar to your story, Callie, when she was hospitalized last summer and doctors were sure the end was near, DH had a similar conversation with her about it being okay to let go, that we're all going to be okay, that my FIL would be happy to see her (she'd "seen" him a few times before then). Yes, it's a sad conversation to have, but several people have told us that type of "permission" is sometimes needed. But, she doesn't seem ready to go, as she continues to rally and never expressed a wish to be with my FIL or to not be alive. She's comfortable and has a voracious appetite, so things are stable, other than she's bed-ridden 24/7. Honestly, it's been much harder on DH the past 2-3 years than it has been on her. I worry a lot about his health as a result since he also juggles an extremely stressful job with long hours. I'm glad we don't have children who also need our attention -- I don't know how "sandwich generation" folks do it.
It's been a rough start to 2017 for me -- NYE I came down with a bad sinus infection which knocked me out for a few days. Then when I was feeling 75% better, I had to have a root canal last week. I was still feeling so fatigued from being sick that I actually thought this during the root canal: "This is kind of relaxing, lying here listening to a podcast, eyes closed, with a lap blanket, for 90 minutes." Who thinks a root canal is relaxing?! Me, apparently! :-)