Good bye

ORIGINAL: cakana

You know, I find some of the responses here to be unbelievably mean-spirited. Are you honestly making fun of a member who is obviously hurt/angry/frustrated - maybe overwhelmed? And I might add, a very long term member, who over the years has contributed greatly to the forum.

I completely agree and it's a little disturbing how there seems to be almost a pack-mentality when these threads go downhill.  I just don't get it. [8|]

 
This is so true.  I think it's pretty for us to say "just ignore it" but if someone is being singled out and harrassed by a particular clique, it must be very hard to turn a deaf ear and a blind eye. Even though they never actually said so, I'd be willing to bet that's the reason we've lost so many great members over the past few months.
 
Joyce

ORIGINAL: llps
In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. [Proverbs 3:5,6]

 
Where was the Lord last when I was trying to find way home from Mt Pulaski?  Even my GPS was confused. 

ORIGINAL: fuzzy_dogs_mom
This is so true.  I think it's pretty for us to say "just ignore it" but if someone is being singled out and harrassed by a particular clique, it must be very hard to turn a deaf ear and a blind eye. Even though they never actually said so, I'd be willing to bet that's the reason we've lost so many great members over the past few months.

 
If someone is being "singled out and harrassed by a particular clique," I suggest the situation be reported to the mods/admin.

At the risk of putting thoughts into people's minds of things that simply don't exist, I will play the devil's advocate here and say:
 
What about when a particular group of people are being harassed by one specific person?
 
And this is not specific to Jeano or anyone else for that matter.
 
Just a comment to juxtapose the popular opinion that harassment must occur on one individual by a group when, in fact, it can happen both ways.

ORIGINAL: badrap

At the risk of putting thoughts into people's minds of things that simply don't exist, I will play the devil's advocate here and say:

What about when a particular group of people are being harassed by one specific person?

And this is not specific to Jeano or anyone else for that matter.

Just a comment to juxtapose the popular opinion that harassment must occur on one individual by a group when, in fact, it can happen both ways.

 
I absolutely agree it can happen both ways.
 
 
I think in this situation though (even though you weren't referring to this situation) what is bothersome is that someone came on here to say goodbye and some very rude responses have been said. If they didn't want to say good-bye or have contact with Jean, then they didn't need to even read this thread. I don't really care about the drama that has maybe caused Jean to leave. I care that a member, a valuable and informative member, is leaving.
 
And I do agree with Billy - that if someone is being harrassed by other members they should report it.

ORIGINAL: badrap

At the risk of putting thoughts into people's minds of things that simply don't exist, I will play the devil's advocate here and say:

What about when a particular group of people are being harassed by one specific person?

And this is not specific to Jeano or anyone else for that matter.

Just a comment to juxtapose the popular opinion that harassment must occur on one individual by a group when, in fact, it can happen both ways.

 
Yes, it certainly can, but unfortunately, I don't think that's what happened in reference to this particular thread. [&:]

Badrap, harassed is a pretty strong word to use.  I am sure there is no intention to make anyone uncomfortable.  But if it is harassment, then the action is to tell the offender to stop and if it persist, then report it to authorities.  And yes, being an irritant can take place from one to many, many to one, one to one, and many to many.  Also, an irritant is not only the writing in a post.  It can be represented in all sorts of different forms.  Take it all lightly.

By the way, you are absolutely right that people use God as an excuse for all kinds of evil. That does not make God evil--only the people. However, to answer your question:
"The LORD is with you while you are with Him. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will forsake you." (2 Chronicles 15:2b)

I don't get it either. I was actually quite shocked, and somewhat disappointed, when I read some of the responses on this thread. I know I've missed the whole backstory to this, but regardless, we've just lost a very valuable member and I don't think pouring any more salt on the wound is neccessary.

 
I agree!  I am shocked with some of the posts here...I am shocked at that jokes. There is nothing funny going on, someone has been hurt. This is certainly NOT the old Idog that once was.....slowly but surely it has been ruined.
I'm sorry Jeano... I have no clue as to what is going on or why....but I will miss you as much as I do'nt come here as much as I used to.
I'm sorry that it has come down to this.

what is bothersome is that someone came on here to say goodbye and some very rude responses have been said. If they didn't want to say good-bye or have contact with Jean, then they didn't need to even read this thread.

Absolutely.  If you don't like 'em...don't look.  And keep your rude remarks to yourself, they help no one. 

And I do agree with Billy - that if someone is being harrassed by other members they should report it.

I agree with Billy too....Oh no, I think I just threw up in my mouth a little...[sm=vomit03.gif][]Just trying to lighten the thread...

You know, I'm sorry, but there IS a definite "clique" here. It doesn't bother me, beyond maybe for a second in a thread, but I sometimes feel out of place and unwelcome in certain threads, because it's just the same 6 or 7 people chatting with each other, about things they talked about in e-mails, PMs, on the phone, whatever. I don't dislike ANY of them, in fact, I don't think I actually dislike anyone here, but sometimes I really don't understand why they don't start a chat room, or yeah, a Yahoo group or something.
 
It is extremely bothersome to me though when people, any people, start posting little "jokes", and snide remarks that pass under the radar, but are definite personal attacks. I really don't see a reason to attack Jean in her own thread, nor attack others for things they've said in the past. Grow up, lose the grudges, drop the ridiculous attitudes.
 
Jean, I really think you should utilize the "block" button if they bug you that much, and stick around. You've been here longer. []

Ok, here's the thing, and this IS in reference to this thread.
 
Contained in the initial post was a link to a blog that was quite unpleasant itself.  Therefore, some of the unpleasant responses might have been expected. 
 
This wasn't a sweet goodbye thread.  It was a "go sc**w yourselves" thread, which the OP is certainly entitled to, as is anyone here.  As I have said before, everyone here is entitled to express his or her opinion.  I just don't think that he or she expressing the opinion should be suprised or dismayed when someone responds in kind.
 
To her credit, I think Jeano said her piece and left it at that.
 
 

Jeano - I`m sorry to hear that you are leaving the forum. I hope you come back sometime in the future. I will miss your posts and pictures of your dogs. Good luck to you and your dogs. Give them a big hug for me will ya.

Sigh, nevermind.

ORIGINAL: badrap

Contained in the initial post was a link to a blog that was quite unpleasant itself. Therefore, some of the unpleasant responses might have been expected.

Absolutely, but *off* the board. There's a section for comments on the blog.